Anal sex with well endowed

My wife and I have a great sexual relationship. My question is regarding anal sex. We have pulled it off a few times, but all have been uncomfortable for her. Any advice from anyone would really be appreciated. We used lots of lube, took our time, etc. I know there are women out there who can handle a larger man, so these must be some special things I am missing. Thanks

Besides using a good lube, you might wanna start with your finger(s), gently caressing and rimming her opening, then maybe using one of her favorite "toys"/dildo, gently sliding it in & out, and maybe holding it in a little longer before sliding it back outwards, working your way up to using your cock, even while your semi-soft yet, that seems to help.

You might wanna experiment on different positions as well. I think the best position that works for hubby & I, is doggie style. I know Julie mentioned, that she likes to be sitting on top, controling the pressure used, etc...Whatever works best for her, I'm sure will be enjoyed by you as well. http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

Another added note....I enjoy anal while having a vibrating bullet inserted inside my pussy, something to think about and talk with her too about it. http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif That REALLY turns me on too! MMMmmmm.... http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/tongue.gif

It may not happen after 1 or 2 "treatments", but it will. In the meantime, lots of patience & understanding is well needed, as with anything new that's introduced in your lovemaking. http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif


Good luck & ENJOY!
Wife of CyberMWCouple

[CanadianCouple]

Originally posted by B and T:
We have pulled it off a few times...

Dear God, the segues that come to mind with THAT one. http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

Dan

*LOL @ Dan*

Yeouch! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/eek.gif

Speaking of....Hey Dan, Next time you're on ICQ, remind Hubby to send you that Yeouch file. YIKES! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

[Stratecpl]

Well, in MY humble opinion, anal sex is intended for smaller-built men. We've tried it twice and although I loved it, my wife was uncomfortable with it. She says that I'm WAAAY too big for that... LOL However, she's OK with trying it with another man who has a smaller dick. Also, the ability to cum to orgasm quickly would be a "plus" for the man. Prolonged sex in this manner can't be good for the woman. Those muscles were made strong and tight for a reason.... Just my opinion, you know!!

Ron, Husband of Stratecpl

[CanadianCouple]

Originally posted by Stratecpl:
However, she's OK with trying it with another man who has a smaller dick.

Thank God!! I'll be catching the next redeye south. http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

Dan

[CanadianCouple]

Originally posted by CyberMWCouple:
Hey Dan, Next time you're on ICQ...

Sure, tell him to send away. If one of us are at the computer, we'll download it.

Dan

Originally posted by Stratecpl:
Well, in MY humble opinion, anal sex is intended for smaller-built men.
Ron, Husband of Stratecpl

Well let me tell ya, hubby is no "small fry" when it cums to cock size! His nickname "wideload" from other couples speak for itself! *LOL*

Although there were many times where we backed out from doing anal, due to discomfort from the start. If it doesn't feel good from the "get go", then it's a "no go", and we move on to other "alternatives" in our lovemaking. http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif

There's a time for everything, and the timing has to be "right", especially for us women, when it cums to anal sex. But what few times we have done anal, DAMN it felt AWESOME for the both of us! And I didn't have to worry about the "prolong" thing either, THAT'S for sure! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif


Wife of CyberMWCouple

[This message has been edited by CyberMWCouple (edited 06-28-2001).]

[Flori_DAMAN]

Why was this subject moved to Sex/STD questions? Could it be because STD is a standard category involving anal sex? Obviously every category involves sex...its the STD part that I question. STD's can be spread by ANY type of sex!!!! cmon....
Personally I do not like to perform any type of anal sex. My butt is exit only also. I find it totally un-exciting. But should it be abhorred? and put in the category of "STD's"?
Animal sex is perfectly ok?????? MY GAWD!!!!!!
Let the discussion go on.....this thread is misplaced. Drop the fido crap and talk about anal and oral and vaginal sex until your pusssy drips but don't confuse things. If people want to have anal sex its ok.

Originally posted by michigancouple:
....If people want to have anal sex its ok.

Well THANKS for your approval! *lol*

I know whatcha mean though.... http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif

BTW...You might wanna add your "suggestions/comments" regarding this concern of yours in the "Site Comments and Suggestions" section of this message board. http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/smile.gif


Wife of CyberMWCouple

[This message has been edited by CyberMWCouple (edited 06-29-2001).]

[JustAskJulie]

Originally posted by michigancouple:
Why was this subject moved to Sex/STD questions? Could it be because STD is a standard category involving anal sex? Obviously every category involves sex

The fact that this forum is labled Sex/STD does not mean that topics have to be about both, but rather that the forum includes topics having to do with EITHER. This topic is a completely sexual topic regarding ANAL SEX (how to make it easier) therefore it is better placed in this category where it can be found more easily by future people asking the same or similiar question (since most people don't really dig through a HELP! topic to find this kind of information since that forum is for questions needing immideate answers, that are less likely to be common questions).

You guys need to get over this "move of topic" issue and maybe actually read the forum descriptions then you would see that this topic does belong here.. and the only one attaching any connection between anal sex and STD's is YOU.

Fido belongs in the HELP forum becuase the person asking the question NEEDS HELP! I think we'd all agree there.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com



[This message has been edited by JustAskJulie (edited 06-29-2001).]

[MiCpl]

Anal sex is something that takes a lot from both partners.

From you (the guy) you have to be gentle, slow and patient. Use lots of lube, start off small using a finger then work your way up to 2, then to more, etc.. until you have her stretched out enough to go for the big kahuna.

From her it requires a great deal of relaxation, and trust in her partner. She might try having a drink first to calm her nerves.

Plus if she's tried it several times and always found that it hurts she has probably built up a mental thing about it now, where she expects it to hurt.. this will only cause her to be more tense.. thus causing more pain.

So the first thing you want to do is find a way to relax her.. give her a drink.. then a nice massage... working over her whole body.. then when you get to her ass and start working there... start slow, lots of lube, one finger to start (your pinky), then work your way to more fingers. You may not get your cock in her this first time.. but as you progress through this each time.. if you can reduce the pain and show her that it doesn't always hurt, she'll relax more and more on her own.. and eventually you might get there.

S&J

[militarynmcpl]

My wife and I have tried a few times and she says it hurts even the next day. Oh well, I guess we can live without it.

[werwillin]

My wife loves anal sex with me and I guess Im pretty much "well endowed". What we use is a lot of time, starting with lube and fingers, then small toys, then large toys. By the time we reach this point she is totally ready for my cock. Of course I still have to take it slow at first, but after a minute or so she she can take it like I was fucking her pussy. By using a favorite toy in her pussy she goes over the edge quickly and wildly.

[coolwetbreeze]

As a Female I have to say that it is not something I can do unless 1)I am very,very horny 2)I have had a lot of drinks and 3) alot of clitoris stimulation at the same time. I haven't gotten stoned in about 20 years but I bet that could work too. I have never found that working up to it works for me. You are either ready or you aren't. Those muscles have to want to be stretched or it doesn't work. Some one needs to invent an anal ointment that ACTUALLY WORKS to lessen the pain.