How Slutty is slutty?

[JustAskJulie]

To me someone falls into the slutty definition when they really have no care who they have sex with.... seeing a girl take a line of strangers to me is slutty, with no care of who they are or what they are doing. Seeing a woman have sex with guy after guy with no condom on is slutty (and damn scary) to me.

I'm surprised that the word "Slutty" has negative conotations in this community. Isn't "slutty" a word used by the outside world to describe all of us?

I think that is the point of the question... Slutty is relative.... to the vanilla world I'm sure all of us would be described as slutty... but there are still things that each of us may still feel is a little "too far".

[northindycpl]

Originally Posted by BodyScape02

The funny thing is, I have heard women in my local swing community deride each other for their swing habits. The occasional players often seem to get catty about the regular players. I have heard women, which I have seen do some amazing group feats on occasion, tear apart other women because they go to the club every weekend and do it on a regular basis. I’ve heard comments like, “She has no class, she’ll f*ck anyone,” to “she is always here, doesn’t she spend anytime with her kids?”

So, while we think the swing community is devoid of judgment, I for one know this is not true.

Dito

And to add to Julie, It is what is your opinion of too far maybe. I love bing Mr. Indy's dirty little slut... If someone else called me that, I would not be happy.

I try to look at each person without judgement, to have a 'to each his own' attitude. But that is not the case. I am not sure that being judgmental is a bad thing. Maybe being judgemental in some way keeps us safe? Like if I feel judgement against the girl that just pulled that train, it keeps me safe from doing it?

I do know this... I feel slutty and cheap sometimes when I play at clubs. The lack of 'nice' surroundings makes me feel like that cheerleader in the back of my boyfriends van- on shag carpet with no repect.

I am happy to be Mr. Indys Whore and I am happy to have some judgemental thoughts left... I think it keeps me outa trouble

[DBL D]

Originally Posted by northindycpl

Dito

I love bing Mr. Indy's dirty little slut... If someone else called me that, I would not be happy.

I do know this... I feel slutty and cheap sometimes when I play at clubs. The lack of 'nice' surroundings makes me feel like that cheerleader in the back of my boyfriends van- on shag carpet with no repect.

I am happy to be Mr. Indys Whore and I am happy to have some judgemental thoughts left... I think it keeps me outa trouble

Hey northindycpl, The reason I quoted part of your post is that you seemed to say two things:

1) That you love being Mr. Indy's dirty little slut (or whore) but wouldn't want anyone else to say that to you. I agree with you there. I was with a gal and she said fucking someone else (then her hubby) made her feel dirty. I was a bit taken aback because I was just looking at it as pure excitement and felt a little different towards her after she said that. I ended up looking forward to the next time we played with them to see if she'd relaxed a little. She hadn't really. What ever floats your boat, I guess.

2) That you felt slutty and cheap when you played at clubs. You didn't say whether you had a problem with YOU feeling that way about the situation. BTW, there's a fragrance in the air at most porn shops. It's probably the disenfectant they use. I guess I felt like a real bad boy too, even though I was usually alone, being in a place like that when I first started to go to those places. Just a smell correlation. Just wondered if you didn't like to go to the clubs because of those feelings or if you liked to go to the clubs to get those thoughts?

Male D

[northindycpl]

Originally Posted by DBL D

2) That you felt slutty and cheap when you played at clubs. You didn't say whether you had a problem with YOU feeling that way about the situation. BTW, there's a fragrance in the air at most porn shops. It's probably the disenfectant they use. I guess I felt like a real bad boy too, even though I was usually alone, being in a place like that when I first started to go to those places. Just a smell correlation. Just wondered if you didn't like to go to the clubs because of those feelings or if you liked to go to the clubs to get those thoughts? Male D

I do not like the way playing at clubs makes me feel. At least the ones that I have been to. First, none of the sheets match, and the beds are broken down and on the floor. That really bothers me. I was very easy in highschool with the right boys and looking back on those days, I was looking for respect from them, and never got it. I feel literally the same way when I walk into the play rooms at most clubs. I feel like the clubs were designed to be done as cheaply as possible and I feel cheap accepting it. Don't get me wrong, Ilove going to the club to dance and socialize, meet people, and watch. But it takes a lot to get me to actually play there.

I distinctly remember highschool as a cheerleader and this football player who had a big old van with shag carpeting. it was dirty and smelly and
I had sex there, and felt so cheap after wards.

I am worth matching sheets and good beds on frames!!

Now, your disinfectant smell makes me think of us and strippers. I love going to strip clubs with Mr. Indy. And as a big chested open minded gal, the strippers love me! We have such a great time out there, and we always come home smelling like stripper! Whenever I first smell that 'smell' My mind immediately makes me think of Mr. Indy and the hot sex that we are going to have afterwards!

probably becasue of the trust and respect he has for me, I feel open and excited when I do bad things with him. And if I develop those feelings with a play couple I would get turned on by being the slut. But there is slutty and there is cheap. And I am not cheap!

[DBL D]

Originally Posted by northindycpl

I am worth matching sheets and good beds on frames!!

Now, your disinfectant smell makes me think of us and strippers. I love going to strip clubs with Mr. Indy. And as a big chested open minded gal, the strippers love me! We have such a great time out there, and we always come home smelling like stripper! Whenever I first smell that 'smell' My mind immediately makes me think of Mr. Indy and the hot sex that we are going to have afterwards!

probably becasue of the trust and respect he has for me, I feel open and excited when I do bad things with him. And if I develop those feelings with a play couple I would get turned on by being the slut. But there is slutty and there is cheap. And I am not cheap!

Yes! You are definitely worth matching sheets, at the very least!

I know what you mean by the smell association. For example...I happen to almost love the smell of skunk nowadays. Go figure!

Thanks for the response, northindy.

Male D

[northindycpl]

Originally Posted by DBL D

I know what you mean by the smell association. For example...I happen to almost love the smell of skunk nowadays. Go figure! Male D

Too funny! I was driving down the road the other day... smelled skunk and immediately remembered a summer in my youth where I was dating a boy that was trying to grow his own pot... He and his room always smelled Skunky! I actually drove around my block so I could smell it more and remember those times!

[two4youinswva]

Reminds me of one of my favorite t-shirt 's I saw on a girl.........
"You call me a Slut like it's a bad thing"

[GrainBelt]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

I'm a SLUT not a slut.

Sexually Liberated Urban Thirtysomething.

So, that makes me a SLUF for another 12 years, when I become a SLUS?

Uhhh...

Why doesn't define what "slutty" really means - personally I think it means having indiscriminate sex with pretty much anyone who comes along.

In The Lifestyle I feel to each his own. In the vanilla world I feel a slut is someone who wears next to nothing when taking their kids to Chuckie Cheese or something like that. It is something I feel my kids dont need to see. There is a time and a place for that, and its not around kids.

[DBL D]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

I'm a SLUT not a slut.

Sexually Liberated Urban Thirtysomething.

Hey Ves! You're Catchin' On Fast!

Male D

[SussexCouple]

did a quick search on Google...

slut - definition from wn
slut
n 1: a dirty untidy woman [syn: slattern, slovenly woman,
trollop]
2: a woman adulterer [syn: adulteress, fornicatress,
hussy, jade, loose woman, strumpet, trollop]

and here are some cracking results from the moby-thesaurus

111 Moby Thesaurus words for "slut":
Jezebel, Partlet, bad woman, baggage, bandog, biddy, bitch, bossy,
bowwow, broad, brood mare, bungler, canine, chippy, clitoromaniac,
cocotte, cow, disregarder, dodger, doe, dog, dowdy, drab, easy lay,
easy woman, ewe, ewe lamb, fancy dog, filly, floozy, frail sister,
frump, goldbrick, goof-off, grisette, guide dog, guinea hen, gyp,
harridan, heifer, hen, hind, hog, hussy, hysteromaniac, idler,
ignorer, jade, jenny, jezebel, kennel, lap dog, lioness, litterbug,
loose woman, malapert, malingerer, mare, nanny, nanny goat,
neglecter, negligent, nymphet, nympho, nymphomaniac, pack of dogs,
peahen, pickup, pig, pooch, procrastinator, pup, puppy, quean, roe,
saucebox, schlep, schlump, she-bear, she-goat, she-lion, sheep dog,
shirker, show dog, slacker, slattern, sled dog, slob, sloppy Joe,
sloven, snip, sow, strumpet, swine, tart, tigress, toy dog,
traipse, tramp, trifler, trollop, trull, uteromaniac, vixen,
waiter on Providence, wanton, watchdog, wench, whelp, whore,
working dog

This one particularly amused me - clitoromaniac - that'd make me a penisomaniac??? (oooh the double standards of modern society)

and - jenny - as we have more than one friend called Jenny - its a popular name isn't it?? (if only parents knew)

[BradAndJanet]

I dunno...I think I'd like a nymphet, maybe a strumpet and certainly a tart or a vixen....

-B

[JustAskJulie]

[screaminggood]

Too slutty? I'm certain I've been called a slut during my vanilla days, too. Now? I'm just considered the slightly wild little wife of that lucky man in the vanilla world---no one knows how lucky he really is!

I can only think of one experience that would be "too" forward. There was a woman at a club that came up while my husband and I were dancing. She put his hand into her pussy on the dance floor and asked him to fuck her in the ass. It totally turned him off--too forward, too much. He said it made him think of diseases....and he went to wash his hands.

--Keep in mind we regularly play on first dates so it wasn't that we needed a long-term relationship. There was just something about her that was....TOO much!

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by screaminggood

I can only think of one experience that would be "too" forward. There was a woman at a club that came up while my husband and I were dancing. She put his hand into her pussy on the dance floor and asked him to fuck her in the ass. It totally turned him off--too forward, too much. He said it made him think of diseases....and he went to wash his hands.

--Keep in mind we regularly play on first dates so it wasn't that we needed a long-term relationship. There was just something about her that was....TOO much!

That seems to overstep the word Slut. That's just plain nasty.

When I was younger, skinnier and prettier, my attitude was more slutty. My dress was more slutty than it is now when we go out to M&G's ... Jeez.... I'm turning into my mother!