Anal Sex

[Southern Lady]

OK I have had anal sex with my husband and one other man before we were married both times it hurt. My husband still has this fetish of wanting to do this. How can I make less painful and more enjoying to me?

[tracy1878]

anal sex can be kind of tricky... it took hubby a few tries before he got it right. The best advice I can give is to tell hubby to take it very slow, and use lots of lube. What seems to work best for us is to have a lot of play in that area, fingers, tongue, or toys, gradually increasing in size. Just be careful, do not put anything up there that was not especially made for that. Your local adult store should stock butt plugs of different sizes if your interested. When he first enters, he needs to insert slowly, then once he is in he should hold still and let your body adjust to having that in there. After the first few strokes, you should be good to go. I hope this helps, and I hope you have a great time!

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by tracy1878

anal sex can be kind of tricky... it took hubby a few tries before he got it right. The best advice I can give is to tell hubby to take it very slow, and use lots of lube. What seems to work best for us is to have a lot of play in that area, fingers, tongue, or toys, gradually increasing in size. Just be careful, do not put anything up there that was not especially made for that. Your local adult store should stock butt plugs of different sizes if your interested. When he first enters, he needs to insert slowly, then once he is in he should hold still and let your body adjust to having that in there. After the first few strokes, you should be good to go.

Dito

Make sure you have a LOT of anal foreplay before attempting penetration.

I also found it is better to try anal prior to orgasming. For some reason, once I cum, I can't get into anal. Try stimulating your clit with a vibe or finger whilst he is trying to enter, it might help relax you more.

[Nymph an' Satyr]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

Dito

Make sure you have a LOT of anal foreplay before attempting penetration.

I also found it is better to try anal prior to orgasming. For some reason, once I cum, I can't get into anal. Try stimulating your clit with a vibe or finger whilst he is trying to enter, it might help relax you more.

Guess it depends on the lady. No anal sex in this house until AFTER the lady has several orgasms- it seems to relax everthing.

[dave110256]

My wife never had anal sex before she was with me. I was very gentle and slow, making sure to use lots of lubricant. Oh, and she loved it, especially with our little toy helper in the other place.....

[CowboyBob]

Start slow and small and with lots of lube.

I began by first massaging my wife's anus with my finger while I ate her pussy. Only later did I start using a finger, then a vibrator, and then finally my penis. This was over the course of several sessions. Even now, when she wants anal sex, we have to slowly progress through several stages.

Lots of lube. Can't say that enough. Both in the orifice and the appendage.

[northindycpl]

i also find it easier when I am not full. I mean like hungry. For some reason it seems if I have gone a few hours without eating it seems to be more comfortable, and I am not worried.

I also prefer to do it after a drink. Just a small one to loosen up a bit before.

I agree with Ves that foreplay there, lots of lube and a slow start is great. Sometimes Mr. Indy just puts the head in for a few minutes until I get used to it, and then I start the movement. That works better for us.

We almost always do it doggy-style, that helps too.

[Nymph an' Satyr]

Wanted to second tracy1878's suggestion of a butt plug. It can help get things a little more receptive. Relax and be patient. The missus didn't get into anal sex until the last 8 years of our 18 year marriage. But she's into it now- say hallelujah!