Why do women lie about their past?

[duwannaball]

I heard on the radio the other day that women when asked how many sexual partners they have had, usually say about 1/2 of the real number. I asked the Mrs about this and she said that sounds about right.

I'm curious if this is the case for most women in general, and if so, why lie?

Butch-

[Mephisto]

This question generally comes up in the beginning of most relationships .. THe last two i was in we agreed not to ask -- It really makes no difference other than knowing how much experiance has.

[JnCC]

What the hell did you expect? You ask them how much they weigh, and they lie. You ask them how old they are, (and if they're under 18 or over 39) they lie. Ask 'em if they've ever had a one-night-stand, and they lie. Ask 'em if their tits are real, and they lie. Ask 'em if their handbag is a "genuine" Gucci, or a knock-off, and they lie. Ask 'em if they've ever faked an orgasm, and they lie. Ask 'em if they ever faked one they had with you, and they lie again. And now you think they're gonna tell you the truth about how many boyfriends they've had? You're DREAMIN', brother! Lyin' is a woman's stock-in-trade!

They're all just a bunch of damn lyin' skanks, that's all.

If you want to know the truth about a woman, don't ask her. What's "true" about her is for you to figure out. Believe whatever you want to believe, and disregard everything else she tells you. Trust me on this one, you'll be a lot happier that way.

Damn, lyin', skanks....

From your buddy Jim, in Kentucky

[sepacouple]

You are obviously not really involved in this Lifestyle if you have that kind of attitude towards women. I can't believe that a woman would want to be in the same room as you let alone be close to you. You list yourself as part of a couple, I can't imagine you having a very loving, caring or even close relationship with that kind of attitude.

[BradAndJanet]

I assume you were just being sarcastic, JnCC. That certainly is a stereotype I'm familiar with.

I sure am glad I found a girl who does none of those things.

-B

[cajun_cpl_la]

Originally Posted by JnCC

What the hell did you expect? You ask them how much they weigh, and they lie. You ask them how old they are, (and if they're under 18 or over 39) they lie. Ask 'em if they've ever had a one-night-stand, and they lie. Ask 'em if their tits are real, and they lie. Ask 'em if their handbag is a "genuine" Gucci, or a knock-off, and they lie. Ask 'em if they've ever faked an orgasm, and they lie. Ask 'em if they ever faked one they had with you, and they lie again. And now you think they're gonna tell you the truth about how many boyfriends they've had? You're DREAMIN', brother! Lyin' is a woman's stock-in-trade!

They're all just a bunch of damn lyin' skanks, that's all.

If you want to know the truth about a woman, don't ask her. What's "true" about her is for you to figure out. Believe whatever you want to believe, and disregard everything else she tells you. Trust me on this one, you'll be a lot happier that way.

Damn, lyin', skanks....

From your buddy Jim, in Kentucky

Hey Jim ... How do you think a woman learned to lie .. from "pricks" who think that they are gods gift to women " when they are really nothing but lying, two face, back stabbing, two timing, snake in the grass, male whores in heat that cant control one of two heads that god gave them (but only enough blood to run one at a time! When one gets hard there is not enough blood to run the brain) So they make stupid ass statements like the one I just read.... no wonder you are divorced ... Do you think all women lie or stretch the truth? .... If they do it is to live up to an expectation from a dumb ass that is asking the question. We all have past .. and to tell you something else most men lie about there weight, height, shoe size, age, penis size, stamina (they say that they can last 2 hours and blow a load in ten minutes), If there teeth belong to them or the finance company. There are few men that can truthfully say how many women they have been with or one night stands (You forget it is acceptable for a guy to have as many one night stands as he can so he can be a stud muffin but if a woman has sex with more than one man in there life they are labeled a whore)...... So before you clean out someonelses closet grab a dust pan, broom and a box full of heftys to clean out your own ....
It is a shame that my husband had to come to the defense of women against this enlarged ego .... yours truly
Mr. and Mrs.

[cajun_cpl_la]

Originally Posted by sepacouple

You are obviously not really involved in this Lifestyle if you have that kind of attitude towards women. I can't believe that a woman would want to be in the same room as you let alone be close to you. You list yourself as part of a couple, I can't imagine you having a very loving, caring or even close relationship with that kind of attitude.

hes divorced ... read in his past post he says he is divorced.... GO FIGURE...

[FunCalifCple]

Just watch 'Desperate Housewives' on abc sunday nights......

[EvilMJ]

ignoring the troll reply!!

I think generally women feel more of a stigma when it comes to how many sexual partners they have had in the past. There still is the double standard that it is more socially acceptable for a man to have had numerous partners, whereas a woman is seen in a less than flattering light if she has been sexually active.

[Alura]

Lying is a part of the European culture. Don't ask me why but the one thing the Native Americans could never understand about the European Invaders was why they lied. The Indians even came up with a term for it: White eyes.

The eyes can tell you a lot about a person, much more than whether or not he or she is lying.

In today's culture, where there are expectations of all people, it's probably not surprising that people lie. They feel they have to live up to those expectations.

I've known men who took a lot of pride in the creative lies they used to "get in a woman's pants." I don't know how many stories I listened to in college and the military of "what I told her" and how "she fell for it."

I don't think the telling of lies is restricted to either sex.

Mr. Alura

[FunCalifCple]

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It would be appropriate to add 'and lie like a European' ...........

[fun_pairTX]

If women divide their number of partners by two, then men multiply their penis length by two. Some people are just dishonest. Most are not thank God.

[duwannaball]

Thanks for a bit of history, now I know what a white lie is. Without starting WWIII, let me try to explain why I ask. Obviously this is a loaded question, one that shouldn't be asked if one can't handle the answer or shouldn't be answered if she doesn't trust the guy with that kind of info. But if it is possed, and if it doesn't matter like people claim, then why is it not worthy of an honest response? Granted we all have our little secrets and like my wife says, "Some things are better left unsaid", but to lie about it, I don't believe is necessary. I understand the influence society has on our views of sexuality, but this site seems to break away from that and focuses more on honesty despite what should and shouldn't be acceptable sexual behavior. That's why I pose the question here.

In my case my wife lied about it, big time, but to clear her concious she told me a few years after marriage, double what said the first time, and then ten years later double again. It's hard to explain the feeling I had when she finally came clean, but it was not good, felt like I'd been tricked, like being sold a used car where the odometer had been rolled a few times more than I was led to believe. (That would explain the rod knock I was wondering about when we really get going!) She said if she was honest about it at the beginning, then it would have changed things. I don't think so, but I honestly can't say either way. But I can say, it's my life too, and I deserve the opportunity to make decisions based on truth, not lies.

Honesty is something I value highly and believe is always the best way to be, especially when starting a new life together.

In all fairness, I should have had an idea of what I was getting into when she slept with me the first night.

Love ya, Honey!

Butch-

[fun_pairTX]

Butch,

Ya got lied to, it is all water under the bridge now. Yes you should have been told the truth at the time. My best advice is, if you are happy overall, let the subject drop off the radar and leave it there. Bringing it up again is only going to breed animosity.

[WesternSwing]

Some women lie about the number of partners have for the same reason some men lie about the length of their penis: it sounds better to the opposite sex.

Like EvilMJ said, there is still the stigma with a woman the number of partners she's had. Maybe men feel threatened by it, the possibility he is being compared to somebody else. I've always said it didn't matter as long as I was the only one right now (well other than swinging ).

Mr. WS

P.S. I'm kinda' uncomfortable with this troll using my avatar...