Oral or not?

06-23-2002, 04:50 AM

Well i have a look around here, cant seem to find anything related to my problem, so here goes!
Well i am the wife of a swinging hubby, hubby hardly ever gives me oral sex, but when we swing he gives it to the other woman, i have talked to him about it, he says he;s obliged to give it when we swing!
Like to now what you all think, cause i am very confused!

Swappinfun · 06-23-2002, 05:26 AM

If my wife wants oral I want her to communicate to me that she wants it so bad that she can not live with thoughts of not getting it. This in turn puts me into a turbo gear of inthusiasm to go down on her, I enjoy doing it any way, but this makes it great for me and her. I love to see her in heat.

06-23-2002, 05:36 AM

I have tried communicating with hubby, tried telling him how much i enjoy oral ( he loves oral to and he gets plenty from me)Maybe i should tie him down and sit on his face!!

Swappinfun · 06-23-2002, 05:59 AM

Try holding out on the giving end of things until he learns to recipricate.
There are certain things that can keep me from being as inthusiastic about giving oral but I would assume that you understand about what that might be and take care of it prior to being playful.
Remember though, men, well most all men are willing to get oral with out returning the favor.
Nothing like some good oral, some penetration and then a good nights sleep. If you let us get away with it, well we will just keep doing it.

CyberMWC · 06-23-2002, 05:41 PM

quote:
Originally posted by <unhappy>:
....Maybe i should tie him down and sit on his face!!

There ya go, maybe you SHOULD! [LOL]

I'm for Swappinfun's suggestion on "holding back on the giving end" too...

Good luck!
CyberWife

06-23-2002, 05:51 PM

quote:
Originally posted by Swappinfun:
Try holding out on the giving end of things until he learns to recipricate.

Not sure that is a good Idea. Perhaps you two should talk it out. Just why does he not like to do it to you... I will try to put this a delicately as possible... Are you sure you are fresh down there? Perhaps you are but he just isn't sure. Try bathing together and then ask hem for it. If he still doesn't want to do it may be a psychological issue. It's hard for me to imagine a world without cunnilingus! I love it! Frankly I don't remember ever having sex with a woman without at least kissing her there...But I want it clean! If there is any funkieness down there, a kiss is all she is going to get.

Swappinfun · 06-23-2002, 06:49 PM

I was trying to say the same thing LD said but without being to descriptive as to what I meant. If it does not smell good it aint gonna taste good. Fresh is fantastic, but I gave you credit for knowing that. Is there a chance that it is a hair thing? I hate them little black devils in my mouth.
So if he won't do it neither should you. Turn about is fare play. Do only 69s till he learns.
Good Luck.
Mr. and Mrs. Swappinfun

***JustAskJulie*** · 06-24-2002, 11:20 AM

I have to agree with those that have told you to hold back.

There is no reason he is "expected" to give it to other women during swinging. The only reason he can feel that way about them and not you is that he has gotten to a point where he takes you for granted. Guys are much easier to get in the mood and take a lot less foreplay. When you are giving him plenty he assumes you are ready to go (if I'm wrong guys feel free to enlighten me..but this has been my experience), and then feels no need to reciprocate.

Stop giving and make him start.

**Alura** · 06-24-2002, 05:32 PM

We agree with Julie. You've probably spoiled your husband. On the other hand, a shaved pussy, if you don't have one already, certainly would not hurt your case.

Mr. Alura

Flori_DAMAN · 06-25-2002, 02:32 PM

We talked this one over and to my surprise I am guilty of being on the recieving end more often than I thought too....lol. Well now I gotta earn back lots of travel points....THANKS JULIE!!! [ROFL]

redfox77 · 06-25-2002, 06:55 PM

I always hated when my wife would use sex (or the lack of it) as a threat to get me to do/not do something. I prefer to talk about it first.

But it sounds like you have already done that - so I would have to agree with those that advise you to withhold in this case. Hopefully, he'll get the message and listen to you in the future.

[Wink]

Just don't make withholding yourself a regular practice without talking to him first

06-27-2002, 01:13 PM

Well thanks all for the replies, its good to have another's point of view, it did me smile about the 'fresh down there remark thou', yes i am, and shaven also, i do think that its more of famiiarity breeds contempt, and i will be holding out,If i dont get oral then neither shall he!!

Swappinfun · 06-27-2002, 02:38 PM

Good luck with your attempt to get hubby to both give and receive. He will learn. I like it when my wife demands a certain thing, I love it when shes gotta have it. Nothing better than a good woman in need.

ColoCpl · 06-28-2002, 01:00 AM

quote:
Originally posted by Swappinfun:
Good luck with your attempt to get hubby to both give and receive. He will learn. I like it when my wife demands a certain thing, I love it when shes gotta have it. Nothing better than a good woman in need.

A good woman in need? Hell, I love it when we are both are in need and gotta have it. It makes for some outragiously fun sex for both of us then.

Swappinfun · 06-28-2002, 06:37 AM

There is nothing hotter than two consenting adults in heat at the same time. The risks you will take make the memories an excellent fuel for later fires. We could share some wonderful stories but a few on here consider it just masturbation material if others ask you to share stories on your escapades. [Fun]

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06-23-2002, 04:50 AM	#1 (permalink)
<hurt and unhappy> Posts: n/a	Oral or not? Well i have a look around here, cant seem to find anything related to my problem, so here goes! Well i am the wife of a swinging hubby, hubby hardly ever gives me oral sex, but when we swing he gives it to the other woman, i have talked to him about it, he says he;s obliged to give it when we swing! Like to now what you all think, cause i am very confused!

06-23-2002, 05:41 PM	#5 (permalink)
CyberMWC Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2000 Posts: 70 Location: MI,USA	quote: Originally posted by <unhappy>: ....Maybe i should tie him down and sit on his face!! There ya go, maybe you SHOULD! I'm for Swappinfun's suggestion on "holding back on the giving end" too... Good luck! CyberWife

06-23-2002, 05:51 PM	#6 (permalink)
Len & Ding Posts: n/a	quote: Originally posted by Swappinfun: Try holding out on the giving end of things until he learns to recipricate. Not sure that is a good Idea. Perhaps you two should talk it out. Just why does he not like to do it to you... I will try to put this a delicately as possible... Are you sure you are fresh down there? Perhaps you are but he just isn't sure. Try bathing together and then ask hem for it. If he still doesn't want to do it may be a psychological issue. It's hard for me to imagine a world without cunnilingus! I love it! Frankly I don't remember ever having sex with a woman without at least kissing her there...But I want it clean! If there is any funkieness down there, a kiss is all she is going to get.

06-24-2002, 11:20 AM	#8 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,294 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	I have to agree with those that have told you to hold back. There is no reason he is "expected" to give it to other women during swinging. The only reason he can feel that way about them and not you is that he has gotten to a point where he takes you for granted. Guys are much easier to get in the mood and take a lot less foreplay. When you are giving him plenty he assumes you are ready to go (if I'm wrong guys feel free to enlighten me..but this has been my experience), and then feels no need to reciprocate. Stop giving and make him start. __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

06-23-2002, 05:26 AM	#2 (permalink)
Swappinfun Active Member Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 18 Location: Bloomington Indiana	If my wife wants oral I want her to communicate to me that she wants it so bad that she can not live with thoughts of not getting it. This in turn puts me into a turbo gear of inthusiasm to go down on her, I enjoy doing it any way, but this makes it great for me and her. I love to see her in heat.

06-23-2002, 05:36 AM	#3 (permalink)
<unhappy> Posts: n/a	I have tried communicating with hubby, tried telling him how much i enjoy oral ( he loves oral to and he gets plenty from me)Maybe i should tie him down and sit on his face!!

06-23-2002, 05:59 AM	#4 (permalink)
Swappinfun Active Member Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 18 Location: Bloomington Indiana	Try holding out on the giving end of things until he learns to recipricate. There are certain things that can keep me from being as inthusiastic about giving oral but I would assume that you understand about what that might be and take care of it prior to being playful. Remember though, men, well most all men are willing to get oral with out returning the favor. Nothing like some good oral, some penetration and then a good nights sleep. If you let us get away with it, well we will just keep doing it.

06-23-2002, 06:49 PM	#7 (permalink)
Swappinfun Active Member Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 18 Location: Bloomington Indiana	I was trying to say the same thing LD said but without being to descriptive as to what I meant. If it does not smell good it aint gonna taste good. Fresh is fantastic, but I gave you credit for knowing that. Is there a chance that it is a hair thing? I hate them little black devils in my mouth. So if he won't do it neither should you. Turn about is fare play. Do only 69s till he learns. Good Luck. Mr. and Mrs. Swappinfun

06-24-2002, 05:32 PM	#9 (permalink)
Alura T-Town Playmates Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 6,125 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Married to Mrs. Alura	We agree with Julie. You've probably spoiled your husband. On the other hand, a shaved pussy, if you don't have one already, certainly would not hurt your case. Mr. Alura __________________ "They may call me a rube and a hick, but I'd a lot rather be the man who bought the Brooklyn Bridge than the man who sold it." —Will Rogers

06-25-2002, 02:32 PM	#10 (permalink)
Flori_DAMAN Previously of MichiganCouple Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 2,100 Location: Vero Beach Florida Status: Single Male	We talked this one over and to my surprise I am guilty of being on the recieving end more often than I thought too....lol. Well now I gotta earn back lots of travel points....THANKS JULIE!!!

06-25-2002, 06:55 PM	#11 (permalink)
redfox77 Registered User Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 2 Location: Central PA	I always hated when my wife would use sex (or the lack of it) as a threat to get me to do/not do something. I prefer to talk about it first. But it sounds like you have already done that - so I would have to agree with those that advise you to withhold in this case. Hopefully, he'll get the message and listen to you in the future. Just don't make withholding yourself a regular practice without talking to him first

06-27-2002, 01:13 PM	#12 (permalink)
<hurt and unhappy> Posts: n/a	Well thanks all for the replies, its good to have another's point of view, it did me smile about the 'fresh down there remark thou', yes i am, and shaven also, i do think that its more of famiiarity breeds contempt, and i will be holding out,If i dont get oral then neither shall he!!

06-27-2002, 02:38 PM	#13 (permalink)
Swappinfun Active Member Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 18 Location: Bloomington Indiana	Good luck with your attempt to get hubby to both give and receive. He will learn. I like it when my wife demands a certain thing, I love it when shes gotta have it. Nothing better than a good woman in need.

06-28-2002, 01:00 AM	#14 (permalink)
ColoCpl Here to Stay Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 59 Location: Devner	quote: Originally posted by Swappinfun: Good luck with your attempt to get hubby to both give and receive. He will learn. I like it when my wife demands a certain thing, I love it when shes gotta have it. Nothing better than a good woman in need. A good woman in need? Hell, I love it when we are both are in need and gotta have it. It makes for some outragiously fun sex for both of us then. __________________ Did you know what the friendship vitamin is? B1 She offered her honor. He honored her offer. And all night long it was honor and offer.

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06-28-2002, 06:37 AM	#15 (permalink)
Swappinfun Active Member Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 18 Location: Bloomington Indiana	There is nothing hotter than two consenting adults in heat at the same time. The risks you will take make the memories an excellent fuel for later fires. We could share some wonderful stories but a few on here consider it just masturbation material if others ask you to share stories on your escapades.

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