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Preferences during MFM - take turns or double-team

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We've now had four MFMs and are maybe starting to get it figured out, but want some opinions. I think the first three guys were uneasy with a second male participating (I think they thought I'd just watch them have at her), even though it was plainly stated that I'd be actively involved. The latest two nights ago was excellent, the guy was very comfortable with it and even encouraged her to fuck me harder while he was working over her other end. When he went to the bathroom for a short break, the sex between the two of us was incredible.

Afterwards, I figured out that my preference is to take turns at her, with enough threesome to overwhelm her senses also. Maybe 50% taking turns and about 50% double-teaming by us guys. She seems to like that proportion also. Sometimes it has seemed to be a lot of work coordinating two cocks, but she likes it very much.

What do you all like proportionately? (Of course, it should be as the situation calls for at the time, but you've got to have a preference!) Please tell if you're him or her.

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We don't advertise looking for single males but from time to time will seek one out in a vanilla bar. I always like to be "sandwiched" between two guys (a few times three LOL). I like being the center of attention, and my husband loves it too. Unfortunately a lot of guys aren't good with that even though they say or think they are.

 

The only time my husband likes to watch me is with a couple where he and the wife just sit back and watch us. That's something we do from time to time and then the other husband and I watch them. That's how we "take turns".

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When we do MFM, it probably breaks down about 50/50 with both guys actively involved but one kind of taking the lead, say being inside her, while the other is sucking her nipples, kissing her, etc., and the other 50% of the time, one guy sort of sitting back and just watching but being close and she might reach out and stroke their cock or something. Either way, the guys kind of take turns and switch back and forth between being the more active one and the more passive one.

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When my wife and I started doing threesomes with a good friend Bill years ago, it was usually with Bill and I taking turns. Over time it evolved into both of us playing with her at the same time. Also none of us worry about any male-male contact which allows all of us to really get into it.

 

Last Jan we had a MMMF foursome involving Bill and SK, a good friend of Bill who was also someone my wife and I knew but have never played with. It started with all four of us on our kingsized bed taking turns with my wife while all of us were also rubbing her and each other. Eventually Bill and I left the room so SK and my wife could have some alone time since this was the first time she had ever played with her.

 

So we have no set rules on how it will go. It is just whatever feels good at the time. That works for us since we only have long term playmates so we can just ease into what works best, and what works best varies over time even with the same participants.

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I'll go along with the 50/50 thing, both have their place. Sometimes due to bed size, body size/flexibility, etc. it just works out better to take turns. Plus I think the concentration of one-on-one is more fun as well. The less rules the better, whatever everyone is comfortable with, and in this type of situation (like most things in the lifestyle) it is ladies choice.

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Thanks. I wasn't talking so much about rules at all, just asking what preferences were. I'm starting to figure out my own preferences. Besides, who really knows what they like if it's brand new, such as it is with us? I was so desiring complete control at about the time he went for a break, and it was awesome when I got it. Then, when I was not minding taking a break, he stepped right in and kept her going. We'll work it out just fine, but it's always good to hear what others have figured out.

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Her preference is just that she has constant attention and at least one hard cock going at all times. She enjoys both about equally, I think.

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My last MFM was weird. She said she was the queen but only wanted one at a time. So I gotmsucked and fucked while her hubby kept saying "nice cock...I want to suck it" she just kept going until I was done. Then fucked him......crazy. He never did get to suck me.....

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My wife expressed her pleasure at the intensity of two men on her and yes, sitting back and watching isn't what I enjoy (though the guy we see is younger and I have a little rest every now and then :-) ). The best thing of all is dp.

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We have enjoyed the company of another man maybe 8 times. My preference is having both guys active through out. Only two of these were pre-arranged, the others were just guys we met at a bar or resort. I tend to try to bring the two guys together during the flirtation stage, perhaps putting my hand on each of their thighs or putting my arm around both while we are all seated at the bar. I enjoy it when they undress me and I have one each kissing sucking a nipple. Having two hard cocks in front of you, going back and forth, sucking one and then the other is a turn-on. With the later ones, hubby has moved back and watched but only for a few moments, perhaps with the other guy is on top fucking me to make it more intimate between me and the other guy, allowing for some kissing.

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Actually, with our MFM experiences, it all depends on the situation and the mood.

 

When we first started the MFM, it was with a guy of a couple we were involved with. My wife was always very comfortable with him. In order to make her comfortable and relaxed, for the first couple times we would take turns as my wife said with both of us at the same time she felt "overwhelmed" or "crowded". As this was a big step for us to even consider the MFM, the three of us had agreed that she would call the shots, and all went well.

 

Over time she has become more into playing full on with both of us at the same time. However, we still do enjoy taking turns or watching. Myself and the other guy do find it a turn on to watch my wife play individual with either of us from time-to-time. She enjoys knowing it is a turn on for each of us and really enjoys being able to flirt and be sexual with one in front of the other. She gets turned on herself by it and enjoys asking the watcher to masturbate and end by unloading their cum on her while she is being fucked or fucking the other. We look at it as a type of "interactive porn" :)

 

We all thoroughly enjoy the experience and that's what matters most.

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I am not sure I can divide it in percentages. I'd say 60-40 double team vs taking turns. I enjoy DP, and if done right, it's an incredible feeling. I also love giving my husband oral while being worked over by another guy. But one of the most erotic experience for me is when I am having sex with another guy, my husband would watch and we exchange glances and he sometimes hold my hand. But I always like to end with one-on-one.

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So if you're doing an MFM, do you all understand up front if there will be any MM action or do you just go with the flow?

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So if you're doing an MFM, do you all understand up front if there will be any MM action or do you just go with the flow?

 

You better understand up front, or somebody is in for a rude surprise!

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I think it is better to have both men playing with the lady at the same. DP is awesome.

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Our threesome experiences have never involved any DP as my wife is not really comfortable with it up to this point.

 

However, when she is playing full on with both males, she does rather enjoy having one guy in her mouth and the other guy fucking her at the same time. Works for us.

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Although my wife is not a fanatic of DP she enjoys double team play if either one penetrate her doggy style the other lays underneath her facing her so I or him rub her clit with the little John and she goes nuts!! With an open hose

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At the beginning I love to receive both guys attention, kisses and lots of touching, but later on I tend to focus my attention on only on guy at the time, I do not multitask well.

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We have been in maybe 10 MFMs; M on M activity has never been discussed and never been attempted. I fantasize about DP, I enjoy anal sometimes but it's never been attempted in MFM either.

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Since there are two guys and three girls now in our poly family the MFMs are fewer. But when we do have one the guys usually take turns unless we are doing a DP.

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Done some MFMs and its a great experience for all if the chemistry is right. Some involved DP which is fantaastic and very hot to experience snd I love it. However, MFM is above all for the woman's pleasure and she is the one that decides how to be threaten by the men.

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For us there's no real breakdown, where it goes is where it goes. We do make sure that any new guy knows that it will be an MFM and that wife won't be playing alone, that the hubby is involved. That's helped weed out a few who were uncomfortable with it. We always chat beforehand a decent amount to make sure there's chemistry, and it's been during this that they've said they weren't entirely comfortable with both men participating. It's nice that they are finally honest, but it'd be better if they didn't waste our time.

 

Our last three MFM's have all been with the same guy and all have been overnight hotel stays. Sometimes we're double teaming her, other times she maybe laying her head on my lap while he's having sex with her, and still other times he's watching us. I enjoy both watching (or recharging) and participating, whatever suits me at the moment, and it's worked well so far. But, we haven't had any rules, so if one guy's having sex with my wife and the other decides to join in it's implicit that it's allowed and no permission is needed, just find a place and make yourself useful.

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Our last three MFM's have all been with the same guy and all have been overnight hotel stays. Sometimes we're double teaming her, other times she maybe laying her head on my lap while he's having sex with her, and still other times he's watching us. I enjoy both watching (or recharging) and participating, whatever suits me at the moment, and it's worked well so far. But, we haven't had any rules, so if one guy's having sex with my wife and the other decides to join in it's implicit that it's allowed and no permission is needed, just find a place and make yourself useful.

A wonderful description how a great MFM should be. Also have a similar experience with a great couple several times and we all really enjoyed or meetings.

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