Is kissing a big deal?

[HotCoupleGnS]

Have a quick question. Its about kissing. Is kissing a big deal for most swingers? I mean I like kissing, don't get me wrong. But I kind of look at it like something I want to save to do with my Mr. We are pretty new to all this. (Have done a mfmf & mfm.) But I was never big on kissing the other people. A little is ok, but not like heavy making out. Does anyone else feel this way? Or am I the only one? Just curious.

[Spoomonkey]

You're not the only one who feels this way. We like kissing - and enjoy our adventures more when their are no restrictions placed on kissing. However, we have wonderful friends who either don't kiss at all or kiss very little (like you describe). We respect their boundaries and wouldn't dream of asking them to cross them just for us.

Nope - you're normal

Spoomonkey

We are kissers. Iit doesnt bother us. Kissing is the first step to foreplay wich is the first step to sex.

[biglickcpl]

Both Here

We enjoy kissing, and do agree that it is really the start of foreplay. We don't really have a set rule that we can't deeply make out with others, it just always seems that we enjoy more playful kissing with others!






On a scale of 1 to 10: A 12 is a 10 that can suck a golf ball thru a garden hose!!!

[Weezie]

What do you do if you don't kiss? I think that would feel really funny, not kissing someone I'm intimate with. Kissing is fun! It's one of my stonger areas.

[yawanna]

Some couples want to keep kissing as something special for just themselves. A 'no kissing' boundary is not uncommon

[meowkittyhascla]

We do kiss, but I notice that I don't kiss the male playmates as I kiss hubby. I actually find kissing the females more passionate than the males, unless it is hubby I am kissing. Any other ladies feel this way?

[kandjboyntonbch]

We've had no practicle experience, but we're very 'go with the flow' sorta people. We've spoken to couples who have actually been like 'If you don't kiss then forget you've ever talked to us', so we know how important it is to some people.

In this lifestyle, many people attribute a kiss to a more 'love' feeling than a sexual feeling. It all depends on how you approach it. Many people I am sure remember the famous movie (it escapes me at the moment) that has the prositute that won't kiss. I've notice that the reverse is often asked for and/or required by those in the lifestyle - the necessity of it makes it more 'meaningful' in the minds to some.

For others, it's the reverse and they feel it cheapens the intimacy they share with their partner alone.

::shrug:: To each their own.

[MrsBliss]

I like kissing!!! It gets me in the mood and when I am 'busy' it takes me to a higher level, like I am getting a little bit more unconscious of what I am doing (seventh heaven??).

I am the kind of person which thinks a lot while I am doing just one or two things at a time. Give me three things to do and I will get wild.

I would never cross anyone's boundaries and it would certainly not stop me from meeting you.

Kiss! (oops sorry)

[Brit_Pair]

Originally posted by kandjboyntonbch
Many people I am sure remember the famous movie (it escapes me at the moment) that has the prositute that won't kiss.

Pretty Woman?

[CB_n_Red]

This is something we were talking about the other day. Red says that kissing a potential playmate is the best way for her to find out if there is a spark. We couldn't imagine playing without kissing, though I know it's a no-no for some.

CB

[HotCoupleGnS]

Quote: **In this lifestyle, many people attribute a kiss to a more 'love' feeling than a sexual feeling. It all depends on how you approach it. Many people I am sure remember the famous movie (it escapes me at the moment) that has the prositute that won't kiss. I've notice that the reverse is often asked for and/or required by those in the lifestyle - the necessity of it makes it more 'meaningful' in the minds to some.**


If people attribute a kiss to a more loving feeling, than why would you want to do that with your sex partners? I don't love them. I also don't think sex with those partners should be that meaningful. I said this in a nother post, please don't anyone take it the wrong way. But the reason we got into this was to spice up our sex lief & add some variety. So we look at other people I guess you could say like another sex toy in a way. We only look at them that way for "play." We can still be friends out of the bed. But this way there is no emotional involvment.

But liike I said I like to kiss some. Actually I LOVE to kiss, but as meowkittyhascla said, kissing the other male doesn't exactly do it for me. Its just not as nice as it is with my hubby. Now kissing the female does turn me on. But everyone has their own opinions. Thanks for all of yours!!!

[Weezie]

ok, to each his own....but I've never thought of another human being as a sex toy. I certainly hope some of the people we've played with don't think of us as that. If all we needed we're toys we wouldn't be in this lifestyle. Do you toss them aside when batteries die or they break?LOL

[HotCoupleGnS]

No I don't toss them aside when the batteries die, I get new ones. lol! I think I was misunderstood. I didn't mean literally like a sex toy. They are people. They are just someone to have fun with. Emotionally there isn't much involvment. It's just hot kinky good sex. If I need emotional involvment that is what my husband is for. Like I said try not to take it the wrong way. Our marriage, & our feelings are the most important things. After that I will worry about what the other people feel. I don't know if that helps clarify much.

[Spoomonkey]

We've never really thought as kissing as a "love" thing (feeling). Kissing is just a fun part of the encounter - like doggie style, but without the sore back part

For us - the "hot kinky good sex" usually involves a little kissin' and huggin' and fumbling around before the actual "acts" start happening.

We agree with you 100% - we don't need that "love connection" to paly with someone. We have a perfect love-thing going on right here at Spoomonkey Ranch. Like I've posted before - some couples keep kissing as the thing they keep just for them... In truth though - aren't their really a LOT of things that you don't (and never could) share with your swing partners? As open as we are with our playmates, there is a world of stuff that isn't shared in a private room.

Spoomonkey