Is kissing a big deal?

[Vjklander]

We like kissing, just another part of foreplay.
Sex without kissing is like Lynchburg Lemonade without JD

[Alura]

I'd like to see an answer to Weezie's question, "What do you if you don't kiss?"

Do you just say, "I don't kiss, but I'd like to give you some head," and dive into sex? I don't think I've ever had sex without kissing first. I find the whole concept rather strange, in fact.

Mr. Alura

[Vjklander]

Bypass the upper lips and go for the nips or nether lips.

[HotCoupleGnS]

I don't think you guys are understanding what I am saying. I never said I don't kiss. I think you should read the whole post before you reply. I said I like to kiss, just not make out. It's not strange, its just an opinion. I just think kissing is very romantic.

[Vjklander]

Originally posted by HotCoupleGnS
Have a quick question. Its about kissing. Is kissing a big deal for most swingers? I mean I like kissing, don't get me wrong. But I kind of look at it like something I want to save to do with my Mr. We are pretty new to all this. (Have done a mfmf & mfm.) But I was never big on kissing the other people. A little is ok, but not like heavy making out. Does anyone else feel this way? Or am I the only one? Just curious.

Looks to me like it was about kissing.

[HotCoupleGnS]

Huh? I know its about kissing? LOL

[OhioCouple]

Kissing is something that is nearly as subjective as bi or not bi.

There are many types of kissing. The mandatory kiss on the cheek to your Great Aunt Dora, the kiss on a teary little ones boo-boos, the kiss of a quick good-bye on the lips to your lover, the passionate kiss of a prelude to sexual intercourse and the overwhelming, heart pouring of affection kiss that you share with your soul mate, just to name a few.

When you mentioned that you don't like to make out, that too is subjective. I think of making out as long drawn out kissing sessions and nothing more. Kinda like when you were in high-school and you were trying your best not to go further than just kissing. Others think that it means you have more feelings than just sex alone. And that's cool. Again, it is subjective.

For myself, I couldn't imagine having sex with someone that didn't want to include kissing (more than a peck here and there) as part of the pre-lude to the ultimate act. But that is me. I find getting lost in the feeling of the moment a huge turn on and makes for better sex. The kisses shared between my husband and myself are much different than the ones we share with others as our kisses go much deeper than sex. The heart is involved. It isn't with play partners and there in lies the difference in heavy kissing for us.

Did that make sense?

[Alura]

We understood what you mean.

We have to agree with Mrs. O. Kissing is an important part of "getting hot" to us.

We feel the important distinction to make is the difference between having sex for pure fun and making love.

We only make love with each other. We are only able to make love with each other.

All the physical acts are similar whether we are making love or having recreational sex. The meaning of kissing during either is vitally different as is the meaning of the two very different acts.

Alura

[WA_Cple]

Mrs here

I kiss my women playmates but don't kiss the men. Hubby doesn't kiss anyone!

We prefer to keep kissing to ourselves but we are also open... so who knows - we may just find that perfect smoocher to change our minds!

MWA! hehe

[chloe35]

If a couple is fairly new to the scene then maybe they should take it slow until they really find out what their likes and dislikes are.
Personally, I have always loved kissing, but that doesn't mean I kiss everyone that we're with. It is sort of a personal thing and if I'm not comfortable in kissing a particular person than I won't.
Kissing is a very passionate thing to me. Turns me and the hubby on intensely.

[GirlieZ]

Mmm...I love kissing. Bubble gum tongue....juicy lips....sweet breath becoming faster and faster....


I love to kiss the people I fuck. Passionate kissing makes my heart beat fast fast fast. It is the opening act! However, that kissing is so different than the kisses my Man and I share.


When I kiss my husband, I kiss my soulmate. He kisses, touches me like no other. That kissing is much more intimate, because we share the most inner thoughts and secrets.

I am disappointed when couples don't allow outside kissing. When I kiss someone else, it means nothing emotionally. Sex without kissing is like soda pop without the fizz. Flat and lifeless!

Zgirl

[leftcoastcouple]

Originally posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty
We are kissers. Iit doesnt bother us. Kissing is the first step to foreplay wich is the first step to sex.

And here I thought I didn't like Texans (Y'know, The Cowboys and all.).

You two rock!

[C&D]

We used to feel that way about kissing. It being more for love. That was until C kissed another man and it was a serious turn on. Then she kissed another woman and oh man let me tell ya...


CandD

[Chemistry_0518]

My Little Princess and I love kissing and we do it with our partners without reservation. We have run into a couple who reserve kissing only for each other. Of course, we easily complied with that request. But guess what? When we met them a second time, they wanted to share in the sweet kissing sessions that My Little Princess and I had!

One never knows, DO ONE?

[BradAndJanet]

We think kissing is a great way to start the ball rolling, but we'd have no problem if another couple wanted to save that for themselves. There are plenty of other things that work as well...

-B