Does anyone else have a no kissing rule?

[Quin]

I have kind of kept out of this subject because I don't have a husband/SO so there are no *rules* for me to enter into with such. I do respect a couple's rules when with them and if they are a *no kissing* couple, then it's no kissing. Tho I will have to admit that very often that no kissing rule is broken for the female and there is kissing between myself and her. Apparently that's different than her kissing a male or her husband/SO kissing a woman.

Personally I find kissing very erotic and something that *occurs* naturally and at times have found it very difficult to not kiss tho I always keep in mind the *rules* and my respect to the couple and their rules as first and foremost. And yes, there are many many other things one can do with their mouth. I do have two swinger couple friends who have a no kissing rule between them but after several years of close friendship, they have lifted that rule when with me. But it's taken many years of friendship and trust to get to that point and I'm quite honored that they both feel comfortable enough with me to open up something that has been very private and personal between them.

VOTE FOR JULIE!!

Quin

[mehim]

wowwwwwww. i am learning a lot in here, and we just joined , i never know there was such a thing ,not kissing ,with some other couples . we allso see kissing as sort kind of forplay.after all he is putting his tongue on my other lips sort of speak ,so what is the diffrence.but i guess from now on i have to ask ..lol or just stay with our friends we allready happy swinging with ..

[Swappinfun]

I could not emagine getting together with another couple and not being able to kiss the other gal. I am going to do the wild thing with this lady but I can not kiss her???? Come on. It would be kinda like going skinny dipping but you would have to leave your clothes on. Sorry folks, but if we are going to do one we are going to do the other or we just are not gonna do anything at all. I would rather crawl between the sheets, make out, pet, and talk for 90% of the time and do the rest for the remainder of the time. If you are afraid of developing emotions for this person you should not be swapping. I do not want just to be a living breathing dildo for this lady nor do I want her to be a pocket p...y for me.

For those of us who are bi-sexual. Kissing the opposite sex for my husband and I is off limits. But if the same sex wants to kiss, go for it. There is nothing emotional about it. When we first started in the lifestyle the only thing that really bothered either one of us was the kissing issue. To us it is a very passionate thing and we have a strict no kissing of the opposite rule. If you want to kiss someone of the same sex go for it, I don't have double standers. It goes for the men or the woman. But I think thats because I have no fear that he will ever fall in love with another guy and vice versa.

[Perseus]

Hi all! As a single male, I am going to put in my 2 cents worth here. If I were to be invited by a couple to have an encounter with them and they had a no kissing rule, I would have to decline. I can see it if it were about the men kissing, as many guys are uncomfortable about kissing a man, but not about the sex , but not to be able to kiss a lady I am with would be too much like using her. I couldn't do that to any woman even in a swinging kind of situation. It just feels wrong. Then again, the reason I like to be with couples is the intimacy and, to me, kissing goes hand-in-hand with the intamate part of the experience .

Perseus

[L&K]

Frankly i dont think any question on here should catch flak , that is what the
board is for , to some one that question what ever it may be is a real isue .

Now Kissing , i dont have the problem with my wife does . With our first couple , S did not enjoy her self , a very pushy SOB that was clever to boot , But the only real problem she had as far as me and the other lady was kissing .

I personally have no interest in drop your pants lets fuck . Its cold and not worth your time .

I need to have a little intimacy with any lady before there is going to be any sex . It is still somthing we are working on , her reaction was not radical and being new it was not a question
that had come up . What is the answer ! you have to do what you are comfortable with as a couple . For us seems it will be , kiss but dont dwell on kissing , For S and my self kissing is a long part of love making , all through the night untill some body falls to sleep , with a partner other then S , it will be part of our night but not a continuous event as S and i do . its called a compromise i guess .

[mehim]

Originally posted by Perseus:
but not to be able to kiss a lady I am with would be too much like using her. I couldn't do that to any woman even in a swinging kind of situation. It just feels wrong. Then again, the reason I like to be with couples is the intimacy and, to me, kissing goes hand-in-hand with the intamate part of the experience .

Perseus

================================================== i think to kiss somebody bevore you go further is a way to explore moore of your partner ,and you can find out a lot from a kiss ,the way he kisses you the way he handle you later on.i think all the nerves in your body are connected together ,atleasd mine are .when i get a sen sual kiss singnals are send to my pussy.to get her ready without gas....<me>