Can't Handle heavy kissing between wife and another man

Diamond707 · 01-17-2002, 12:22 PM

My wife and I just had our first mfm threesome. Or, I should say, tried to have it. I allowed the guy to have my wife first, as I wanted to watch my wife being taken by another man. However, I could not handle the heavy kissing between them. The acutal sex did not bother me, just the kissing. Just wondering if any other guys have had this problem.

Flori_DAMAN · 01-17-2002, 12:38 PM

I had the twinges of jealousy watching my wife kiss like no tomorrow at one time. I mentioned it to her and her reply was "oh forget it, it just makes it more fun". So I did and it is more fun. John

danc694u · 01-17-2002, 01:02 PM

We've noted how something as simple as kissing can set some people off. It also turns some of them off

So I guess you're in pretty good company. We try to play it by ear ourselves, with new couples.

BUT, from a personal standpoint. I need the kissing myself. I've always considered it part of foreplay, and foreplay is a very big part of sex to me. I've never been able to tell my dick to stand up. And, have it actually do it LOL

Of course, it could just be old age setting in on me

David -- the goofy one

Stratecpl · 01-17-2002, 01:10 PM

Diamond,

We used to read profiles where people stated that sex was great but "We do not kiss on the mouth!" LMAO!!! We don't even contact those folks, and if they contact us we will decline their invitations.

We feel that kissing is a very important, very vital part of sex. It is foreplay, it is the act (because you can passionately kiss during intercourse) and it's just a wonderful turn-on in our book. It's terribly arousing for me to see my wife kissing another man, just as it's terribly arousing for me when we kiss.

The way I see it, sex cannot be completely fulfilled or enjoyed without kissing. You can have oral sex and you can have sexual intercourse too, but this without kissing is like having a ham and eggs breakfast without the eggs. It just isn't complete!

Ron, Husband of Stratecpl

Us · 01-17-2002, 05:50 PM

I cant imagine fucking, sex, or making love without kissing!! Foreplay for us too!

**Alura** · 01-17-2002, 06:34 PM

Sex without kissing? We believe that is one of the most ridiculous ideas we've ever heard!

Cheers and Smiles,
Alura

Atlanta43 · 01-17-2002, 09:30 PM

WE WANT KISSES!!!!!!!!!!!!! Okay, serious for a sec...its hard to say sometimes when jealousy might crop up. The male half here will be the first to admit that he sometimes can get jealous about past boyrfriends ;-). So far, we've been unsuccessful in figuring out what it is....as for her, well, she's really pretty laid back so she doesn't get jealous of much :-)

Us...

pelagic argosy · 01-17-2002, 10:37 PM

I've never understood why people get freaked out by kissing. Another man is putting himself INSIDE your wife, what does it matter if their lips touch?

About six months ago, I watched my wife and her friends as a college fraternity wore itself out on them, I can't imagine getting upset because she kisses someone

danc694u · 01-18-2002, 10:29 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by pelagic argosy:
I can't imagine getting upset because she kisses someone

It happens. Not on our part. But it does happen. We feel the same way though.

Why would it be an issue? Especially, since you're about to get your brains f****d out by someone besides your spouse, with your spouse watching.

Diamond707 · 01-18-2002, 11:19 AM

O.k. folks, I know I have taken a beating on this kissing issue. I know when I have been whipped! Really, I do appreciate each of your responses, they have been helpful. I guess this is something that I will just have to work on.

danc694u · 01-18-2002, 11:34 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Diamond707:
I guess this is something that I will just have to work on.

We all have differant issues to deal with ourselves. But, at least you're willing to work on yours. That's a plus!

Basically, if you're not comfortable with something. You don't have to do it. But, then again we are talking about sex and foreplay. Hard to seperate those 2. Unless you're a hooker.

It's all about pleasure, and what we do to increase it within our own relationships. We can speak from experience when we say there will be other issues. How you deal with them, is up to you and your spouse. You done pretty good on this one

You at least asked for additional input. Although it wasn't exactly what you wanted to hear

Bambi · 01-19-2002, 02:00 PM

My husband does not like to kiss. He gives me pecks on the lips. Me on the other hand love kissing. I miss make out sessions with men who love to kiss.

Sex Monsters · 02-26-2002, 12:21 PM

Hi Diamond,

Hey, don't feel bad. This is an issue for us too. Although we're pretty new at all this, we've had one soft swing experience with another couple who are good friends. While kissing in this situation didn't bother my husband (or me) at all, he has said that seeing me kiss another man he doesn't know would be a bit hard. I think his view is that the kissing part is more intimate than intercourse. I agree, but I need the kissing too! But since we're not planning on jumping anyone we don't know that well anytime soon, it's not really an issue!

Estiferia

***JustAskJulie*** · 02-26-2002, 01:00 PM

You guys may also want to check out this other topic that is discussing the same issues:
http://www.swingersboard.com/cgi-bin...c&f=5&t=000155

hottimes854 · 04-15-2002, 10:53 PM

KISSING))))))) is very much foreplay for me,,, i could just keep on kissing with out having intercourse,,,, it's hot and part of sex.. have a great day

Swingers Ads	Swinger Pics	Swinger Stories	Shopping	Search Swingers	Swingers Clubs	Swinger Articles	Dictionary	FAQs	Swinger Links
Forums	Register	Swinger Events	Search	Today's Posts	Mark Forums Read	Chat Room [2]

01-17-2002, 12:22 PM	#1 (permalink)
Diamond707 Registered Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 7 Location: South Carolina	Can't Handle heavy kissing between wife and another man My wife and I just had our first mfm threesome. Or, I should say, tried to have it. I allowed the guy to have my wife first, as I wanted to watch my wife being taken by another man. However, I could not handle the heavy kissing between them. The acutal sex did not bother me, just the kissing. Just wondering if any other guys have had this problem.

01-17-2002, 01:02 PM	#3 (permalink)
danc694u Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 546 Location: Birmingham, AL Status: couple	We've noted how something as simple as kissing can set some people off. It also turns some of them off So I guess you're in pretty good company. We try to play it by ear ourselves, with new couples. BUT, from a personal standpoint. I need the kissing myself. I've always considered it part of foreplay, and foreplay is a very big part of sex to me. I've never been able to tell my dick to stand up. And, have it actually do it LOL Of course, it could just be old age setting in on me David -- the goofy one
	__________________ Phonies and Fakes Need not apply. We're as real as it gets, and don't have time to be wasting on dumbasses.

01-17-2002, 01:10 PM	#4 (permalink)
Stratecpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2000 Posts: 456 Location: TN, USA	Diamond, We used to read profiles where people stated that sex was great but "We do not kiss on the mouth!" LMAO!!! We don't even contact those folks, and if they contact us we will decline their invitations. We feel that kissing is a very important, very vital part of sex. It is foreplay, it is the act (because you can passionately kiss during intercourse) and it's just a wonderful turn-on in our book. It's terribly arousing for me to see my wife kissing another man, just as it's terribly arousing for me when we kiss. The way I see it, sex cannot be completely fulfilled or enjoyed without kissing. You can have oral sex and you can have sexual intercourse too, but this without kissing is like having a ham and eggs breakfast without the eggs. It just isn't complete! Ron, Husband of Stratecpl
	__________________ "Well behaved women rarely make history"

01-17-2002, 06:34 PM	#6 (permalink)
Alura Just a hick Okie Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 8,133 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Widower	Sex without kissing? We believe that is one of the most ridiculous ideas we've ever heard! Cheers and Smiles, Alura
	__________________ "They may call me a rube and a hick, but I'd a lot rather be the man who bought the Brooklyn Bridge than the man who sold it." —Will Rogers

01-17-2002, 12:38 PM	#2 (permalink)
Flori_DAMAN Previously of MichiganCouple Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 2,100 Location: Vero Beach Florida Status: Single Male	I had the twinges of jealousy watching my wife kiss like no tomorrow at one time. I mentioned it to her and her reply was "oh forget it, it just makes it more fun". So I did and it is more fun. John

01-17-2002, 05:50 PM	#5 (permalink)
Us Active Member Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 10 Location: Ilinois	I cant imagine fucking, sex, or making love without kissing!! Foreplay for us too!

01-17-2002, 09:30 PM	#7 (permalink)
Atlanta43 Active Member Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 37 Location: Atlanta, GA	WE WANT KISSES!!!!!!!!!!!!! Okay, serious for a sec...its hard to say sometimes when jealousy might crop up. The male half here will be the first to admit that he sometimes can get jealous about past boyrfriends ;-). So far, we've been unsuccessful in figuring out what it is....as for her, well, she's really pretty laid back so she doesn't get jealous of much :-) Us...

01-17-2002, 10:37 PM	#8 (permalink)
pelagic argosy Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 54	I've never understood why people get freaked out by kissing. Another man is putting himself INSIDE your wife, what does it matter if their lips touch? About six months ago, I watched my wife and her friends as a college fraternity wore itself out on them, I can't imagine getting upset because she kisses someone

01-18-2002, 11:19 AM	#10 (permalink)
Diamond707 Registered Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 7 Location: South Carolina	O.k. folks, I know I have taken a beating on this kissing issue. I know when I have been whipped! Really, I do appreciate each of your responses, they have been helpful. I guess this is something that I will just have to work on.

01-19-2002, 02:00 PM	#12 (permalink)
Bambi Active Member Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 22 Location: Oak Lawn IL.	My husband does not like to kiss. He gives me pecks on the lips. Me on the other hand love kissing. I miss make out sessions with men who love to kiss.
	__________________ Bambi

02-26-2002, 12:21 PM	#13 (permalink)
Sex Monsters Registered Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 3 Location: San Luis Obispo, CA	Hi Diamond, Hey, don't feel bad. This is an issue for us too. Although we're pretty new at all this, we've had one soft swing experience with another couple who are good friends. While kissing in this situation didn't bother my husband (or me) at all, he has said that seeing me kiss another man he doesn't know would be a bit hard. I think his view is that the kissing part is more intimate than intercourse. I agree, but I need the kissing too! But since we're not planning on jumping anyone we don't know that well anytime soon, it's not really an issue! Estiferia

02-26-2002, 01:00 PM	#14 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,245 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	You guys may also want to check out this other topic that is discussing the same issues: http://www.swingersboard.com/cgi-bin...c&f=5&t=000155
	__________________ Julie - your hostess The Swinger Manual - all the info from the Swingers Board in one convenient book

04-15-2002, 10:53 PM	#15 (permalink)
hottimes854 Registered Join Date: Mar 2002 Posts: 8 Location: Shingletown,Ca. USA	KISSING))))))) is very much foreplay for me,,, i could just keep on kissing with out having intercourse,,,, it's hot and part of sex.. have a great day

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Email this Page
Display Modes
Linear Mode Switch to Hybrid Mode Switch to Threaded Mode

Similar Threads
Thread	Thread Starter	Forum	Replies	Last Post
Husband can't handle seeing wife with other men	daisy13	Jealousy	29	03-18-2003 06:58 AM
Wife can't handle seeing/hearing husband being pleasured	Just Curious	One Sided Swinging / Taking One For the Team	20	01-29-2001 04:15 PM