Do you reserve kissing for your partner only?

OhioCouple · 05-20-2003, 10:12 PM

How many of you reserve kissing for your mate only and will not allow your swing partners to do so with you?

For us, kissing is a big part of foreplay (swinging or not) and is a major factor which results in natural lubrication, prior to the 'main event'. We have met a few people in which they reserve kissing between themselves.

If kissing is not something that you reserve specifically for you and your mate, then what do you reserve that is *special* just between the two of you? If anything.

**Alura** · 05-20-2003, 10:29 PM

We reserve "Making Love" for each other. We can't imaging having sex without kissing.

Alura

naughty A · 05-21-2003, 06:26 AM

really?

I've never heard of people not kissing... except in that Julia Roberts movie...probably where it came from.

Can't imagine not kissing... my swing partners...

Roxysbayou · 05-21-2003, 12:25 PM

We could not imagine getting worked up without kissing. I can't really think of anything that we keep as sacred...other than the emotional love making. I wouldn't do anal with anyone other than my husband, but thats just my preference.

Ciki123 · 05-21-2003, 12:35 PM

We were just talking about this with our friends yesterday! I can understand why couples would reserve kissing for just between them, it is a really intimate thing, and maybe they just dont want to share that with someone other than their primary partner, but for me personally, I love to kiss, and I would just feel strange lying there under my partner refusing to kiss him when his face is two centimeters from mine!

It seems kinda insulting to me.

My friend said it best when she said, "If you are going to be

,

, and everything else in between, you might as well kiss him too!" :p

Ciki

bbcpl4cpl · 05-21-2003, 12:47 PM

I agree with all the above...kissing is just natural and would seem odd not to.

I also agree that I wouldn't do anal with any other man but that is mainly because my husband and I have it down to perfection and we know together how we like it.

The thing that we keep for ourselves and just us is the emotional feelings. I love looking over at my husband and seeing love reflected there even while I am being sexual with another man.

Tigress xx

OhioCouple · 05-21-2003, 12:50 PM

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Originally posted by Ciki123
I can understand why couples would reserve kissing for just between them, it is a really intimate thing, and maybe they just dont want to share that with someone other than their primary partner, but for me personally, I love to kiss, and I would just feel strange lying there under my partner refusing to kiss him when his face is two centimeters from mine! It seems kinda insulting to me.

I agree Ciki. I am not bashing those that have that rule, but for me kissing is such a big part of the foreplay and is no more intimate than having sex with another person. I have to wonder if it is a mindset. For me the way I kiss someone other than my husband is done out of lust. With him, it is done out of love and has an entirely different feeling.

We are more like Alura in the sense that we reserve the emotionality (is that a word?) of 'making love' for strictly ourselves. Everything else is fair game as long as all are agreeable.

BradAndJanet · 05-21-2003, 06:41 PM

To each his or her own, but I think we'd pass on a couple who had a 'no kissing' rule. Kissing is a big part of foreplay for us too, and I can't imagine not doing it. It's a part of the excitement we wouldn't want to miss and we don't see how it's any more intimate than having intercourse with someone. We can't think of anything we enjoy that we wouldn't do with others, except for saying, "I love you!"

-B

potluck564 · 05-21-2003, 08:22 PM

Kissing is a very important part of sex for us. And we don't mean those little pecks that some people call kissing. It has REALLY been surprising, how many people are BAD kissers out there. Like a kiss from Grand Dad... No repeats for bad kissers!!!! Passionate kissers are the more passionate lovers.

CornwallSwing · 06-24-2003, 04:20 PM

I personally don't have a problem with kissing in the lifestyle.

This may be a little off topic here, but what is it when folks say she/he is a good kisser vs. a bad kisser? Please explain this to me...how can you screw up kissing? What makes one kiss so much better or worse than another...I've ran this through my mind a hundred times and can't figure out how someone can kiss badly. Perhaps I just haven't experienced a bad kiss? I can understand on an emotional level how a kiss can elevate your feelings in the moment. Such as I get off much more from kissing my husband than another man/woman.

OhioCouple · 06-24-2003, 04:56 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by CornwallSwing
I personally don't have a problem with kissing in the lifestyle.

This may be a little off topic here, but what is it when folks say she/he is a good kisser vs. a bad kisser? Please explain this to me...how can you screw up kissing? What makes one kiss so much better or worse than another...

I think it boils down to preference. I personally do not care for a 'lizard' type tongue or one that want to shove it down my throat. I am one of the ones that enjoy the 'softer' side. (For lack of better words.)

naughty A · 06-24-2003, 05:06 PM

what makes a bad kisser... for sure its a matter of preference

I don't care for the ...how do I put this... the really fat, thick tongues all swelled up and forcing their way in...

or the really sloppy kisser... I don't want to feel like I have to wash my face after kissing someone.

I do like the hungry kisser... the nibbler?... I guess. and the softer deep kisses... hmmm.

Almost should be its own thread? what makes a bad/good kiss?

**Alura** · 06-24-2003, 05:07 PM

Sex would be pretty bland without kissing, IMO. We don't reserve any physical part of the sex act "just for each other" when we play. We always keep "making love" exclusive to ourselves but you don't have to make love to have hot and exciting sex.

A good kiss is tender, holds nothing back and lasts a long time. Lips are soft, pliable and wet. Tongues are active and sucked on gently.

In a bad kiss, the lips are held firmly, close together, sometimes clamped shut. Teeth are often clenched and tongues seem unavailable, pulled way back into the mouth. Hard pressed kisses and hard-sucked tongues are downright painful.

We're not interested in sex without kissing but will defend any couple's right to do it that way with someone else.

Mr. Alura

AvengerChic · 06-24-2003, 05:25 PM

mmmm have to be kissed! It keeps that fire lit for me, I love eye contact too. N besides, thats why I got my tongue pierced, :P mmmhmm. btw I'm new, hi everybody.

**Alura** · 06-24-2003, 05:34 PM

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Originally posted by AvengerChic
btw I'm new, hi everybody.

Hi, Avenger Chic!

Welcome to the board! Please stop by the Introductions Forum and tell us who you are.

Alura

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05-20-2003, 10:12 PM	#1 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,616 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	Do you reserve kissing for your partner only? How many of you reserve kissing for your mate only and will not allow your swing partners to do so with you? For us, kissing is a big part of foreplay (swinging or not) and is a major factor which results in natural lubrication, prior to the 'main event'. We have met a few people in which they reserve kissing between themselves. If kissing is not something that you reserve specifically for you and your mate, then what do you reserve that is special just between the two of you? If anything. __________________ Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W.

05-21-2003, 06:26 AM	#3 (permalink)
naughty A Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 997 Location: windsor ontario Status: couple - female half	really? I've never heard of people not kissing... except in that Julia Roberts movie...probably where it came from. Can't imagine not kissing... my swing partners... __________________ The proper response to "Good morning" is not "Prove it!"

05-21-2003, 12:25 PM	#4 (permalink)
Roxysbayou Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 1,376 Location: Louisiana Status: Married Female SLS Name:likethat	We could not imagine getting worked up without kissing. I can't really think of anything that we keep as sacred...other than the emotional love making. I wouldn't do anal with anyone other than my husband, but thats just my preference. __________________ I put the "grrrr" in swinger baby, yeah! --Austin Powers

05-21-2003, 12:35 PM	#5 (permalink)
Ciki123 Active Member Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 13 Location: San Antonio Status: Couple	Psychics! :D We were just talking about this with our friends yesterday! I can understand why couples would reserve kissing for just between them, it is a really intimate thing, and maybe they just dont want to share that with someone other than their primary partner, but for me personally, I love to kiss, and I would just feel strange lying there under my partner refusing to kiss him when his face is two centimeters from mine! It seems kinda insulting to me. My friend said it best when she said, "If you are going to be , , and everything else in between, you might as well kiss him too!" :p Ciki __________________ Shake what ya mama gave ya!

05-20-2003, 10:29 PM	#2 (permalink)
Alura T-Town Playmates Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 6,067 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Married to Mrs. Alura	We reserve "Making Love" for each other. We can't imaging having sex without kissing. Alura

05-21-2003, 12:47 PM	#6 (permalink)
bbcpl4cpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 182 Location: Maryland Status: Happily Married Couple SLS Name:bbcpl4cpl	I agree with all the above...kissing is just natural and would seem odd not to. I also agree that I wouldn't do anal with any other man but that is mainly because my husband and I have it down to perfection and we know together how we like it. The thing that we keep for ourselves and just us is the emotional feelings. I love looking over at my husband and seeing love reflected there even while I am being sexual with another man. Tigress xx __________________ Nothing in this world is accomplished without passion.

05-21-2003, 06:41 PM	#8 (permalink)
BradAndJanet Only slightly cracked... Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 7,071 Location: Seattle Status: Married Couple	To each his or her own, but I think we'd pass on a couple who had a 'no kissing' rule. Kissing is a big part of foreplay for us too, and I can't imagine not doing it. It's a part of the excitement we wouldn't want to miss and we don't see how it's any more intimate than having intercourse with someone. We can't think of anything we enjoy that we wouldn't do with others, except for saying, "I love you!" -B __________________ "If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." - Mark Twain All about us... Last edited by BradAndJanet : 05-21-2003 at 09:52 PM.

05-21-2003, 08:22 PM	#9 (permalink)
potluck564 Registered Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 9 Location: Virginia Status: Couple	Kissing is a very important part of sex for us. And we don't mean those little pecks that some people call kissing. It has REALLY been surprising, how many people are BAD kissers out there. Like a kiss from Grand Dad... No repeats for bad kissers!!!! Passionate kissers are the more passionate lovers.

06-24-2003, 04:20 PM	#10 (permalink)
CornwallSwing Active Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 14 Location: Canada Status: Married Couple- female half	I personally don't have a problem with kissing in the lifestyle. This may be a little off topic here, but what is it when folks say she/he is a good kisser vs. a bad kisser? Please explain this to me...how can you screw up kissing? What makes one kiss so much better or worse than another...I've ran this through my mind a hundred times and can't figure out how someone can kiss badly. Perhaps I just haven't experienced a bad kiss? I can understand on an emotional level how a kiss can elevate your feelings in the moment. Such as I get off much more from kissing my husband than another man/woman.

06-24-2003, 05:06 PM	#12 (permalink)
naughty A Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 997 Location: windsor ontario Status: couple - female half	a bad kisser... what makes a bad kisser... for sure its a matter of preference I don't care for the ...how do I put this... the really fat, thick tongues all swelled up and forcing their way in... or the really sloppy kisser... I don't want to feel like I have to wash my face after kissing someone. I do like the hungry kisser... the nibbler?... I guess. and the softer deep kisses... hmmm. Almost should be its own thread? what makes a bad/good kiss? __________________ The proper response to "Good morning" is not "Prove it!"

06-24-2003, 05:07 PM	#13 (permalink)
Alura T-Town Playmates Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 6,067 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Married to Mrs. Alura	Gotta have kissing! Sex would be pretty bland without kissing, IMO. We don't reserve any physical part of the sex act "just for each other" when we play. We always keep "making love" exclusive to ourselves but you don't have to make love to have hot and exciting sex. A good kiss is tender, holds nothing back and lasts a long time. Lips are soft, pliable and wet. Tongues are active and sucked on gently. In a bad kiss, the lips are held firmly, close together, sometimes clamped shut. Teeth are often clenched and tongues seem unavailable, pulled way back into the mouth. Hard pressed kisses and hard-sucked tongues are downright painful. We're not interested in sex without kissing but will defend any couple's right to do it that way with someone else. Mr. Alura

06-24-2003, 05:25 PM	#14 (permalink)
AvengerChic Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 1 Location: Kentucky Status: Female	kissing rules! mmmm have to be kissed! It keeps that fire lit for me, I love eye contact too. N besides, thats why I got my tongue pierced, :P mmmhmm. btw I'm new, hi everybody.

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