is Kissing Required

[New2theSwingSet]

Well, i guess it seems almost unanimous that most people expect kissing to be part of the process. Although, we're not alone with the initial no-kissing rule to start out with. It seems some people had the rule and then realized that kissing was an essential peice of the puzzle and dropped the rule.

I think we'll end up coming to that conclusion on our own as well, as it becomes more comfortable for us. Thanks for all the insight.

[AlanCatherine]

Vespertine, that is the answer we already had. If our hearts remained faithful to each other, the rest was just physical. So how do you know where your partner's heart is? You can't see where it is going. You have to trust them. We have the trust but it's awfully thin ice you are skating on. Kissing gets a lot closer to being inside the other person's head than anything else you can do. There is a lot of communication in kissing that you don't get with any amount of sex. You can virtually tell the other person how you feel about them with a kiss. You can't do that with a cock in a pussy.

[RMRx2]

Originally Posted by AlanCatherine

A question has been raised once about what you actually keep for your partner. The no-kissing rule means that there is at least something intimate that is reserved for your partner to make them special.

If there is nothing that you do with your partner that you don't do with someone else, what makes your partner special? We also knocked out the no-kissing rule not long ago but we still feel a little bit betrayed if kissing takes place.

What does your partner get that no-one else gets?

AH,,,,,,,,how bout Love, Commitment being what's left to make your partner special?!

There is so much that defines a marriage or relationship that transends the physical to the spiritual. That we have not shared with others nor do we ever intend to. Alura has been qouted as saying that even when he and the mrs's start out to have sex or just fuck, it always ends up "making love". We think that is the fundamental difference. We have not been with anyone else since we have been together, becuase we have not made love to anyone else.

The rmrx2's

[Chicup]

We enjoy the kissing part, it does add to the experiance but we have played with a couple with a no kissing rule.

Finally YEARS later we break the rule, turns out they are bad kissers

[twoplayful2]

It sounds corny and all, but we both agree with those who said "love" is the thing you keep between yourselves. I kiss others with curiousity and lust, it doesn't come close to how I feel when I'm really into the moment with my wife. When I touch her or hold her hand I do it because I love her and just want to feel her. That's what we save because we could never match that with others even if we tried.

[MJ&DD]

Though our playing is still in the fantasy stage we have shared very passionate kisses with others. I must say that my enjoyment in seeing my wife being kissed in that way has led me to want to watch her do even more with with a man of her choosing. Maybe someday. Mr MJ&DD

[Jamie&Kieth]

I love kissing, anywhere anyplace ... all over. Makes the SEX that much better!

[bear_and_babe]

I have already posted a reply on this subject, but someone said something I wanted to coment on.

I never had a problem with kissing or seeing Bear kiss someone else. What I did and do have a problem with is hand holding. To me, that is a very intimate thing. That is something that only Bear and I do. We were in a exclusive relationship with another couple. We did a lot of hand holding and sometimes seeing Bear hold "her" hand really set me off! I even have a problem if a guy likes to link his hands in mine while we are having sex. That is a little too intimate for me sometimes.

It is funny what will bother some people. Some think kissing is too much, I think holding hands is a little too much, go figure...

[Dynamar]

Originally Posted by bear_and_babe

What I did and do have a problem with is hand holding. To me, that is a very intimate thing.

Now see... this I can agree with!

[RMRx2]

Originally Posted by Dynamar

Now see... this I can agree with!

ditto

hmmmmm, ya know , maybe that was the "thing" that bothered me about one cpl,,well the guy in particular. Hell I can love seeing some cut young stud banging my wife, kissing her too, but this guy (not all that) just made me want to pound him one. We let that opportunity pass, heeding my sixth sense.

But now that you mention it, we went to a movie together and her hubby and my wife sat inboard. I looked over and he was holding her hand and occassionaly lightly stroking her arm. I almost pounded him right there!.

Yep does seem pretty funny given what I am okay seeing :rollseyes

mr rmrx2

[bear_and_babe]

I am glad that I am not the only one who has a problem with holding hands. I thought for sure people were going to laugh at me for saying this!

[RMRx2]

Originally Posted by bear_and_babe

I am glad that I am not the only one who has a problem with holding hands. I thought for sure people were going to laugh at me for saying this!

not only didn't I laugh, but think it helped me a bunch,,,,,,I mean go figure, here was the cpl we got along great with and was nice enough and all,,,,and I just couldn't get used to the guy being around the mrs. had me pretty confused, I mean I love finding her some guy better looking, more hung, cut and all to join us,,,,,,,and this guy wasn't all that,,,,just couldn't figure it out, every time we were around him I got protective as hell,,oh well,,,,,,,think it was all the efforts to hold hands and be touchy feely that I didn't observe him doing at all with his own wife.

[lovedoctor]

I remember hearing some romantic notion that kissing involved sharing of the souls. Then the movie "Pretty Woman" popularized the notion that womping someone was less intimate than kissing them! LOL! I don't get it!

The thing that bothers me is if there is whispering going on. Not that I have been in many swinging situations (yet) but I've gotta hear what's going on...

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by bear_and_babe

I am glad that I am not the only one who has a problem with holding hands. I thought for sure people were going to laugh at me for saying this!

Hand holding is waaaaay too intimate, IMO.

Same with cuddling.

[Just_us49]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

Hand holding is waaaaay too intimate, IMO.

Same with cuddling.

Same here...kissing no problem. Cuddling or hand holding NO WAY.

-D