Do you kiss and how passionately?

Grene · 07-15-2005, 04:09 PM

Hello Everyone,
We have talk to some people who request that you kiss while playing and some other that think it is too passionate. We were just wondering what your thoughts on the matter were?

PS. If I knew how to make this a poll I would have.

We have been reading the forum for along time now and we have agreed with some post and disagreed with others but both sides of a topic are always covered with thoughtful and intelligent answers.

**Alura** · 07-15-2005, 04:35 PM

Welcome from Oklahoma, Grene. Please stop by our Introductions Forum and tell us a bit more about yourselves. We're glad to have y'all with us.

We can't imagine having sex without kissing. In fact, we're not even sure we'd be able to become aroused without it.

Kissing sends a message. When we kiss each other, the kiss means, "I love you." When we share a kiss with a playmate, it means, "Let's get hot! I wanna fuck your brains out!!" There's a lot of tongue involved in both.

The important thing is to understand the difference between "making love" and "fun sex."

If a couple didn't want to kiss, they'd probably be happier playing with a couple other than us.

Alura

Roxysbayou · 07-15-2005, 04:39 PM

We like kissing. It's a big part of the whole experience for us. Plus it's a good way to warm up to new playmates, and kind of test the waters.

biblonde · 07-15-2005, 04:51 PM

We enjoy kissing. Never understood how some could think it to intimate?? We look at sex this way....when you first start dating the first thing you do is kiss then it moves onto feeling and touching. Then sex and then oral is the most intimate thing you could do. And really if you look at sex as a sport and not making love then we think it should be all of the above!! Sex isnt the way I show my hubby how much I love him and I certainly dont feel the same way about others that I have sex with as I do hubby. YES I enjoy them alot (well most of the time!) but never will any of them be able to do to me what hubby can. Kissing is just a warm up to us and I love watching him kiss others so there is a bonus in it for me...he he he. We do see a couple that wont kiss and I somtimes find it hard to not kiss and catch myself forgetting and have to opoligize once in a while. They understand and dont get upset if we slip up which is great but not all "no kissing" couples feel that way. I have to say if we are going to play we will have to like you an awful lot if you have to no kissing rule. but that is just my 2 cents for the day!!

NaughtyKitten · 07-15-2005, 06:09 PM

Kissing is half the fun for me. I LOVE to kiss. Deep, hungry passionate kisses, and fun light playful kisses, its all good. I agree with the Alura's....I don't think I could, or would want to, have sex without kissing.

intuition897 · 07-15-2005, 06:22 PM

We used to believe in the 'no-kissing' rule, too. Then we realized that whether or not we became too emotionally close to our swing partners had nothing to do with any given physical act. It was a matter of choice. You have to decide whether or not you are receptive to or giving off emotional vibes. If you have no interest in starting another relationship, why should kissing be any different than any other sex act?

Besides, the no-kissing rule was no fun. Kissing is extremely intimate; that's why we like it! Kissing involves all 5 senses. You see the way her lips are full and ripe. You feel his breath on your cheek, and you hear her breathing become deeper and fuller as she becomes excited. You feel the exact moment your lips touch his. The lips are exquisitely sensitive under normal circumstances, but with the increase in blood flow during arousal, they are even more so. And she tastes like cinnamon, mint, or merlot. And you can sense (sort of like smell, but not quite) the unscented perfume of pheromones rising from the face, neck and body. Amazing. Pheromones apparently do not have a scent, but we can sense them with a specialized organ in the nose. They just 'smell' like good hot sex.

I mean, just look at RoxysBayou's avatar! How hot is that?! My 2 cents: sex without kissing isn't nearly as much fun.

WesternSwing · 07-15-2005, 06:25 PM

I kiss, just like I normally kiss. I guess we don't see it as really being intimate.

Mr. WS

ALilOEverything · 07-15-2005, 07:14 PM

I wouldn't even know how to proceed of things didn't start with a kiss. Kissing is what makes my body become alive and ready to respond to other stimuli. I don't know if I could even get wet without at least a little kissing.

Dynamar · 07-15-2005, 07:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by intuition897

Besides, the no-kissing rule was no fun. Kissing is extremely intimate; that's why we like it! Kissing involves all 5 senses. You see the way her lips are full and ripe. You feel his breath on your cheek, and you hear her breathing become deeper and fuller as she becomes excited. You feel the exact moment your lips touch his. The lips are exquisitely sensitive under normal circumstances, but with the increase in blood flow during arousal, they are even more so. And she tastes like cinnamon, mint, or merlot. And you can sense (sort of like smell, but not quite) the unscented perfume of pheromones rising from the face, neck and body. Amazing. Pheromones apparently do not have a scent, but we can sense them with a specialized organ in the nose. They just 'smell' like good hot sex.

I totally agree... no kissing = no fun! And intuition... This^? Just made me hot!!! facelick

Vespertine · 07-16-2005, 11:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ALilOEverything

I wouldn't even know how to proceed of things didn't start with a kiss. Kissing is what makes my body become alive and ready to respond to other stimuli. I don't know if I could even get wet without at least a little kissing.

Dito

Kissing is not optional for me, it's mandatory.

Plus- It's one of my favorite things to do!

DBL D · 07-16-2005, 12:24 PM

We love to kiss!!! We place no restrictions on each other regarding how we want to express ourselves that way. Sex without it is way too sterile...and who likes sterile?

Male D

WildMiCouple · 07-17-2005, 05:41 PM

Although we have yet to meet a couple with the "no kissing" rule.....no kissing would mean no playing with us. Kissing is a very big part of playing for us

Heck, I will get a hardon faster with a woman's lips on my lips....than on my cock

Brett (and Tammy)

two4youinswva · 07-17-2005, 06:48 PM

Yeah, we're kissers too. Especially Mrs two4you. She really loves kissing, and kissing ability can be a deal maker or breaker for her.

It is highly unlikely we would play with a couple that has the "no kissing clause".

djdvcmu · 07-17-2005, 08:16 PM

Kissing for me is the passion of the moment. Kissing to me is very important. I do not think i would be into it without kissing. There just something about kissing that make me feel alive. ok now, lets kiss

CB_n_Red · 07-18-2005, 06:33 AM

A big Dito from us to what all the pro-kissers have said!

CB & Red

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07-15-2005, 04:09 PM	#1 (permalink)
Grene Registered Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 3 Location: VT	Do you kiss and how passionately? Hello Everyone, We have talk to some people who request that you kiss while playing and some other that think it is too passionate. We were just wondering what your thoughts on the matter were? PS. If I knew how to make this a poll I would have. We have been reading the forum for along time now and we have agreed with some post and disagreed with others but both sides of a topic are always covered with thoughtful and intelligent answers.

07-15-2005, 04:35 PM	#2 (permalink)
Alura T-Town Playmates Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 6,003 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Married to Mrs. Alura	Re: Do you kiss and how passionately? Welcome from Oklahoma, Grene. Please stop by our Introductions Forum and tell us a bit more about yourselves. We're glad to have y'all with us. We can't imagine having sex without kissing. In fact, we're not even sure we'd be able to become aroused without it. Kissing sends a message. When we kiss each other, the kiss means, "I love you." When we share a kiss with a playmate, it means, "Let's get hot! I wanna fuck your brains out!!" There's a lot of tongue involved in both. The important thing is to understand the difference between "making love" and "fun sex." If a couple didn't want to kiss, they'd probably be happier playing with a couple other than us. Alura __________________ "They may call me a rube and a hick, but I'd a lot rather be the man who bought the Brooklyn Bridge than the man who sold it." —Will Rogers

07-15-2005, 04:39 PM	#3 (permalink)
Roxysbayou Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 1,376 Location: Louisiana Status: Married Female SLS Name:likethat	Re: Do you kiss and how passionately? We like kissing. It's a big part of the whole experience for us. Plus it's a good way to warm up to new playmates, and kind of test the waters. __________________ I put the "grrrr" in swinger baby, yeah! --Austin Powers

07-15-2005, 04:51 PM	#4 (permalink)
biblonde Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 1,020 Location: sacramento Status: couple SLS Name:curious1918	Re: Do you kiss and how passionately? We enjoy kissing. Never understood how some could think it to intimate?? We look at sex this way....when you first start dating the first thing you do is kiss then it moves onto feeling and touching. Then sex and then oral is the most intimate thing you could do. And really if you look at sex as a sport and not making love then we think it should be all of the above!! Sex isnt the way I show my hubby how much I love him and I certainly dont feel the same way about others that I have sex with as I do hubby. YES I enjoy them alot (well most of the time!) but never will any of them be able to do to me what hubby can. Kissing is just a warm up to us and I love watching him kiss others so there is a bonus in it for me...he he he. We do see a couple that wont kiss and I somtimes find it hard to not kiss and catch myself forgetting and have to opoligize once in a while. They understand and dont get upset if we slip up which is great but not all "no kissing" couples feel that way. I have to say if we are going to play we will have to like you an awful lot if you have to no kissing rule. but that is just my 2 cents for the day!!

07-15-2005, 06:09 PM	#5 (permalink)
NaughtyKitten Active Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 182 Location: Michigan Status: Couple	Re: Do you kiss and how passionately? Kissing is half the fun for me. I LOVE to kiss. Deep, hungry passionate kisses, and fun light playful kisses, its all good. I agree with the Alura's....I don't think I could, or would want to, have sex without kissing. __________________ ---NaughtyKitten

07-15-2005, 06:22 PM	#6 (permalink)
intuition897 Canadian, eh? Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 2,568 Location: Kingston, ON Status: Couple SLS Name:intuition897	Re: Do you kiss and how passionately? We used to believe in the 'no-kissing' rule, too. Then we realized that whether or not we became too emotionally close to our swing partners had nothing to do with any given physical act. It was a matter of choice. You have to decide whether or not you are receptive to or giving off emotional vibes. If you have no interest in starting another relationship, why should kissing be any different than any other sex act? Besides, the no-kissing rule was no fun. Kissing is extremely intimate; that's why we like it! Kissing involves all 5 senses. You see the way her lips are full and ripe. You feel his breath on your cheek, and you hear her breathing become deeper and fuller as she becomes excited. You feel the exact moment your lips touch his. The lips are exquisitely sensitive under normal circumstances, but with the increase in blood flow during arousal, they are even more so. And she tastes like cinnamon, mint, or merlot. And you can sense (sort of like smell, but not quite) the unscented perfume of pheromones rising from the face, neck and body. Amazing. Pheromones apparently do not have a scent, but we can sense them with a specialized organ in the nose. They just 'smell' like good hot sex. I mean, just look at RoxysBayou's avatar! How hot is that?! My 2 cents: sex without kissing isn't nearly as much fun. __________________ Fear is a symptom of ignorance. Knowledge is the cure.

07-15-2005, 06:25 PM	#7 (permalink)
WesternSwing South of disorder Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 2,777 Location: Utah Status: Male half of married couple	Re: Do you kiss and how passionately? I kiss, just like I normally kiss. I guess we don't see it as really being intimate. Mr. WS __________________ “God created sex. Priests created marriage.” ~ Voltaire Our blog: http://biggerlove.wordpress.com/

07-15-2005, 07:14 PM	#8 (permalink)
ALilOEverything A Little Of Everything Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 1,472 Location: Michigan Status: Couple	Re: Do you kiss and how passionately? I wouldn't even know how to proceed of things didn't start with a kiss. Kissing is what makes my body become alive and ready to respond to other stimuli. I don't know if I could even get wet without at least a little kissing. __________________ ~Lilo

07-16-2005, 12:24 PM	#11 (permalink)
DBL D Oh...Why not?... Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 2,310 Location: Northern Call-ee-forn-ee-ah Status: Married Couple	Re: Do you kiss and how passionately? We love to kiss!!! We place no restrictions on each other regarding how we want to express ourselves that way. Sex without it is way too sterile...and who likes sterile? Male D __________________ "Just nod if you can hear me..." David Gilmour

07-17-2005, 05:41 PM	#12 (permalink)
WildMiCouple Never up.....never in Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 524 Location: se Michigan Status: Couple SLS Name:wildmicouple	Re: Do you kiss and how passionately? Although we have yet to meet a couple with the "no kissing" rule.....no kissing would mean no playing with us. Kissing is a very big part of playing for us Heck, I will get a hardon faster with a woman's lips on my lips....than on my cock Brett (and Tammy)

07-17-2005, 06:48 PM	#13 (permalink)
two4youinswva Better than Ice Cream Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 2,062 Location: va Status: Couple. He posts, She reads Blog Entries: 1	Re: Do you kiss and how passionately? Yeah, we're kissers too. Especially Mrs two4you. She really loves kissing, and kissing ability can be a deal maker or breaker for her. It is highly unlikely we would play with a couple that has the "no kissing clause". __________________ You and me... and you and you, Simultaneous lovin' baby, -Chef

07-17-2005, 08:16 PM	#14 (permalink)
djdvcmu Registered Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 6 Location: mt pleasant Status: single male SLS Name:djdvcmu	Re: Do you kiss and how passionately? Kissing for me is the passion of the moment. Kissing to me is very important. I do not think i would be into it without kissing. There just something about kissing that make me feel alive. ok now, lets kiss

07-18-2005, 06:33 AM	#15 (permalink)
CB_n_Red Life's too short not to.. Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 608 Location: East Yorkshire, UK Status: Married Couple SLS Name:CB_n_Red	Re: Do you kiss and how passionately? A big Dito from us to what all the pro-kissers have said! CB & Red __________________ Take all things in moderation....including moderation

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