Do you kiss and how passionately?

[curiousagain]

What was the name of that movie where Leslie Nelson and Elvis's ex wife were wearing those "full body" condoms?? I can't get that image out of my head. Was it "The Naked Gun?"

Anyway, life is full of risk. Herpes virus can live for hours in a public restroom or up to ten days in damp towels. Everywhere else is somewhere in between. It is killed by a 10% bleach solution or a few available solutions or an adequate amount of time and dessication. 95% of the public has a form of genital warts including 60 to 80% of teenage virgin girls depending on which study you read. They can be passed from genitalia/mouth to hand to hand to genitalia/mouth. This form can only be found by physical exam/biopsy/smear and is responsible for most cervical cancers. Should I go on?

I ride a motorcyle. Sometimes I ride it too fast. Sometimes I ride it in traffic. Sometimes I ride it at night. Sometimes I wear full body armor, sometimes a leather jacket/jeans, sometimes just a T shirt/jeans. I very very rarely ride without leather gloves. I NEVER ride without a full face helmet and boots. Well, that one time in Florida doesn't count. Everybody has to rationalize THEIR ACCEPTABLE RISK THAT DAY AND OR TRIP and go with it and enjoy the ride.

Dreamer, you just have to weigh your possible risk with your possible benefits and make your own decision. If kissing or having sex with someone is the same as placing your tongue or penis in a petri dish in the science lab, even if you try to swing you aren't going to have any fun. You have to work through that before thinking about swinging or eating in the cafeteria or leaving the house............. you get my drift.

As for starting sex without kissing?? It's possible. It's not as much fun, but it's possible. How many of you have had a girl just unzip your pants, pull it out and start a BJ? I bet you forgot all about kissing

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by curiousagain

Herpes virus can live for hours in a public restroom or up to ten days in damp towels.

Conclusion?

Do not clean a restroom with your face or genitalia...

Which comes as particularly bad news for those among us with a johnson shaped like a toilet brush...

We have been involved in the lifestyle for over two years now and I have yet to have an open sore anywhere. We have played with some wonderful folks, most of whom we were very sure of their commitment to safe play and lowering the risks involved in the lifestyle.

You can spend years trying to determine if the water is fine, but the only way to know for sure is to hop in the pool.

The risks are admitted and agreed to, but if you are going to worry that much about it, then swinging really isn't for you. Sure, you have to decide whether or not this fits within your realm of "acceptable risk" - but you strike me as someone who may never be comfortable with that. My honest advice would be to focus on some hot monogamy between you and the missus. Not saying you can't or shouldn't swing - just saying that you may be unable to enjoy it.

As for kissing - yes! I love to. Sex without kissing is boring to me. We knew a couple that was that way (except that the wives could kiss) and sex with them was dull. In fact, the husband of the couple once told me that he'd never had fun in a swinging situation (i.e. fucking another woman). I have to wonder if this wasn't part of the reason.

We would have gladly played soft with them, but even though they were a flat out gorgeous and fun couple, having sex with them was not much fun.

Spoomonkey

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[DBL D]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

...We would have gladly played soft with them, but even though they were a flat out gorgeous and fun couple, having sex with them was not much fun.

Spoomonkey

PS -

We played with a couple who had this "no kissing" rule. It was dull too...but it was their 1st time. One can hope they come to the same conclusion as some of the rest of us and decide that it's an important part of all the fun.

BTW, seems like couples who want to play soft would rather involve kissing and maybe oral but no screwing. What else would soft mean? I'm confused now...again.

I also don't seem to hear (on this thread) from those who used to have that rule and why they changed their minds. It would be nice to hear from some couples like that.

M.D.

[txduo2000]

We kiss. When we started out, we did have the "no kissing" rule ... we (I) felt that it was too intimate, too emotionally charged.

But, after our first experience ... we started kissing. It is totally dull without it, it definitely helps to heat up the arousal factor. And we both kiss others passionately. It is always at the beginning of the "session" lol and all the way through it. We aren't into the "hello" and "goodbye" kiss with others, just the during the action kissing.

Honestly, it is something that simply comes natural, IMO, during sex ... and I LOVE to watch my husband kissing another woman.