kissing your swap partner?

[hilltop]

How does it go? The eyes, windows to the soul - A kiss, it's door . . .
I love the feel of a playmate's lips . . .

[twoplayful2]

Maybe I'm wrong but I really do feel that "just a preference" towards not kissing really is an insecurity thing, at least to some degree. The same goes for stuff like not playing in same room or even in the same place at the same time. It's a turn-on factor for us to see our SO involved with others for sure, but I also must admit that it's not just that keeping us in the same room, there is a twinge of insecurity as well. Some people have that same twinge with kissing, it makes them uncomfortable and a little less secure, thus they prefer not to include it. I must admit that though we have an incredibly trusting and loving marriage, there is a level of security that we just haven't reached and perhaps never will. Most of those who can totally do their own thing and let their SO do theirs whenever and wherever and not feel the slightest bit of discomfort are the ones who've really reached the peak, IMHO. This isn't to knock those who aren't at that level, as we're in the same boat as all of them. We're comfortable, perfectly happy and very much enjoying our lifestyle as-is. And I didn't intend on hijacking the thread to take it in another direction. It's just something I've felt in topics like these and decided to blurt it out now.

[macallan_neat]

Getting screwed without the kiss???

I thought that was paying taxes ...

[Dynamar]

Originally Posted by macallan_neat

Getting screwed without the kiss???

I thought that was paying taxes ...

BWAH!

[Alura]

Findtime wrote:

Kissing members of the opposite sex is something we don't do.

I've asked, "If you don't kiss, what do you do [to replace it]?" It seems to me awkward, at best, to start sex without kissing.

How do y'all begin to play, Findtime?

Mr. Alura

[RNDNV]

Originally Posted by findtime

Kissing members of the opposite sex is something we don't do... We are not jealous, have not had issues with jealousy,... it's just a preference we have.

Sorry Findtime, I don't buy that. There have been several times we have run into couples where the wife (and it always seems to be the wife who wants this rule more so than the man) says in so many words, "no kissing, that is special to us." I think that is insecurity and potential jealousy rearing its head. My wife thinks that rule is downright silly, and finds it absurd that a woman won't kiss me on the lips but she'll put my dick in her mouth!...

[dutch51]

We don't have a no kissing rule, and don't play with couples who do have such a rule. Kissing my husband is an intimate act, but kissing my playmate simply is not at the same level. After all, I'm not married to them; I don't love them. But kissing is part of foreplay, and if we're not going to be allowed to enjoy that, then it kind of kills everything else. Plus, it's almost instinctual, and who needs the stress and pressure of reminding yourself, okay, you can do this, or enjoy that, but for heaven's sakes, don't forget and accidentally kiss the guy! That's just asking for trouble... Why is it okay to kiss (or lick or suck or.... etc) a penis or a vagina, but the mouth is the one that's a no-no?

As for saving something that's going to be special or intimate for just me and hubby- that's simple- it's the LOVE we feel for each other that we reserve for each other, not kisses.