He's a bad kisser and it killed my attraction

[BradAndJanet]

Originally Posted by 2Gether

... I just dont feel any lust anymore towards him....

You know, that says a lot to me. There's got to be some sexual attraction or I'm not sure it's going to work out very well.

It's tough when one half of the foursome 'feels it' but the other half doesn't. We've had that happen too. Letting him play with her alone is very magnanimous, but that takes a lot of trust.

-B

[Vespertine]

I love to kiss and be kissed.

I love the feeling I get when I lean in towards someone for a first kiss. The anticipation I feel wondering what their lips will feel like on mine is enough to drive me wild.

If I find they're a bad kisser, my desire fizzles quickly no matter how attracted to them I initially was.

[energizerbunny]

Originally Posted by 2Gether

Bad Kissers.... what are your experiences??

I have worried about this...because my SO is not a good kisser. I hate to say it, but he really isn't. In fact, it was almost a deal breaker when we were first seeing each other years ago - I LOVE a good make-out session, and always thought great kissers made great lovers.

Fortunately for me, SO more than makes up for his bad kissing with his other techniques! But honestly, I wonder if that will ever be a problem for the other couples if and when we decided to jump into the pool. (And honestly, I worry that his bad kissing has rubbed off on me, since it's now been years since I've smooched anyone else!)

[Candy&Cane]

Thankyou thankyou for the replies!!! Nice to read people are thinking with me!

to E Bunny I just want to say, for now; no it wont rub off both of us kiss in a different way with others.. and as I said, the woman (of the couple) is a fantastic kisser, and her husband (they've been married for 8 years now) is a veryvery bad one.. I dont get that, but let that be a relief for you to know )

[energizerbunny]

Originally Posted by Candy&Cane

to E Bunny I just want to say, for now; no it wont rub off both of us kiss in a different way with others.. and as I said, the woman (of the couple) is a fantastic kisser, and her husband (they've been married for 8 years now) is a veryvery bad one.. I dont get that, but let that be a relief for you to know )

WHEW!

[Candy&Cane]

lol!

back on topic; in the meantime I'm thinking now; how on earth an I going to explain that I suddenly don't feel lust for this man without hurting feelings? (still I'm going to wait and see how I feel when I see him again.. but I want to have a back-up plan in mind in case... -offcourse I'm not going to say; "I'm sorry, after your kiss I suddenly got off you"...) hmmmmmm

[EternallySingle]

A bad kisser is a good kisser to the one who loves him.

A good kisser is just a good kisser to the average woman.

If you don't feel anything toward the guy, not being a good kisser will turn you off to him, so don't feel too bad. Swinging is supposed to be fun, meaning your swing partners have to have more...skills...than your husband for you to feel attraction for him.

[Candy&Cane]

Clear and good; right to the point ES! Thank you!

[DBL D]

Maybe this is why some couples don't kiss their playmates.

Male D

[Aphrodite]

I think it would depend on the rest of the guy to be honest.I looooove kissing,but it's not an absolute if it's just someone I'd be playing with.If the guy has a really nice body and all of that...I just wouldn't kiss him anymore.
However, no matter how attractive the guy is,bad breathe would definitely be a deal breaker for me. The most important kissing that is mandatory and awesome, is the kissing between me and hubby.

[DBL D]

Mandatory Kissing?

Sounds like a new Extreme Sport to me.

What about the compulsories?

Male D

[EvilMJ]

I have experiance something simliar to this.

I remember the first kiss i had with a partner other than hubby. I was hot!! Really, my toes nearly curled it was so good.
Then somewhere in the middle of some really good fun he does this thing with his tounge where he is almost licking my mouth....at which point I am thinking...EWWWW!! and sort of turn away.

Any time he tries to do this I find someway to move out of range without insulting him, because otherwise everything else is just great..thank goodness he doesn't do it a lot.

I agree with Vespertine...there is nothing more erotic than a good kisser....if a man knows what he is doing in that deparment he can make me melt.

[Aphrodite]

By mandatory, I mean essential...as in...the man I am married to has got to be a great kisser.

[luvingcple]

My hubby is a wonderful kisser. Our first MFM the guy just sort of brushed his lips against mine, not a real kiss. But that was OK with me. DOn't think I was quite ready to share tongues with him, his breath wasn't what you would consider bad, just not the freshest. We enjoyed other things.

[Alura]

It seems we should also talk about "taking one for the team," in this thread. Both Mrs. Alura and I have done that in the past, allowing the other to have a great time while we had a mediocre time. There's no such thing as "Bad" sex, as long as no force is involved. Nicht wahr?

Mrs. Alura was more creative than I. When she "took one for the team" with a bad kisser, she simply taught him how to be a good kisser. His wife was also not a good kisser at first, but she was a quick study.

If we can do something for a friend that will make them more successful and it costs us nothing, why not make the effort?

Mr. Alura