Are jealous couples common?

[J & K]

It seems like everytime we go to our club and meet a new cpl (who also is there with other cpls) and get them on the dance floor the other cpls just jump/butt in. We find this more common when the wife and I are dancing with the other female. I get sandwiched between the wife and the other girl and before we know it the other cpls hit the dance floor asap and take the attention away from the other girl. It pisses us off because we didn't ask them to dance with us.

We go out with other cpls and they dance with other people too. We don't rush up to them to intercept their dance. We go out dancing too, but stay with eachother.

What is this jealous attitude with cpls? It's not so much the men jumping in, but women. Are bi-sexual women more jealous? We thought swinging was open to cpls and not closed if a cpl meets new people at a club.

Any of you experience this before and how do you be tactfull without pissing anybody off?

J=male/K=female

[teknurse]

The wife and I ran into this as well. We went with a group, another couple, and a single male and female. The male of the couple was extremely possessive of my wife the whole time we were there. She enjoyed the attention for the most part, but every time we/she would wander off to check out what was going on, he would track her down. It all went down ok, but it definitely would have been more enjoyable without the chaperoning going on.

Allen&Tami

[Chicup]

There is only one couple we swing with and when we were at a big party the other day I caught myself getting jealous, not for my wife but our friend. It really struck me as odd, and still does. I didn't get in the way or anything, I knew it was a bit silly but I guess once you 'mark' your territory it doesn't matter the circumstances.

Ok I'm tired..bed.

[fun_pairTX]

Unfortunately the gentleman involved discovered what the wrath of a half Cherokee half italian woman consists of. I wouldn't dream of trying to possess her only fools dare.

[teknurse]

I hear ya! My wife is half indian/half sicilian. I pity the poor deluded fool that tries anything with her.

Allen&Tami

[fun_pairTX]

It's living on the edge, but the things that raise the most adreanaline are also the most dangerous. Its a risky job being the husband, but somebody has to do it. )

[OhioCouple]

We have never really ran into this problem. Perhaps we are part of the reason that some clubs seem cliquish as we all do tend to stay with the group or couple that we are with. Should something like that happen to us, I would have to say that I would be offended. Right or wrong, I guess I consider it a 'date' in a sense when you are meeting with someone at a club and even if they are new to you, unless they tell you that it doesn't seem to be working, then the attention should be towards getting to know who they are meeting with better. Whether it leads to sex or not. (This is assuming that the woman is the wife of the couple you have met.)

"We find this more common when the wife and I are dancing with the other female. I get sandwiched between the wife and the other girl and before we know it the other cpls hit the dance floor asap and take the attention away from the other girl. It pisses us off because we didn't ask them to dance with us."

Based on what you described, could it be that the other couples think that the other lady on the dance floor is a single woman and therefore are trying to get her attention? Since 'single women' are so sought after and rare, that might explain some of it.

Lori

[Nymph an' Satyr]

Glad I never learned to dance

[Vjklander]

There is nothing so vicious as a female who thinks another female is trying to take 'her' girlfriend away. FOL #117
J

[Chicup]

Originally posted by Vjklander
There is nothing so vicious as a female who thinks another female is trying to take 'her' girlfriend away. FOL #117
J

Amen to that. Its even worse when one is trying to make the other jealous.

[WildFlower]

Had an experience somewhat similar to this myself recently. We have been seeing this couple since January. We really hit off good. We see each other almost every weekend to play or sometimes just to spend time together socializing. Well before they met us they had been with another couple for about a year off and on who they would connect with at a club. Plus the two wives would have lunch and they talked on the phone. They wanted to introduce us to them we thought sure cool, ( my hubby has this unfullfilled fantasy of seeing three women together). So we go to the club with them to meet the other couple. Also our first time at a club, it was awesome. The male half of the couple was super friendly real nice guy. The female was very cool. I tried making conversation but got one answer replies. She acted very possessive of our mutual friends. Made me and my spouse feel very unwelcome. I tried not to take it to personally. I felt sorry for my girlfriend it had to be hard on her liking us both and seeing that we weren't getting along.
I am sure we will all be going back to the club at same time. I intend to be polite and nice in the hopes that the other couple will see that I am not a threat and that we can all get along and be friends. Maybe being unrealistic but I have a big optimist streak in me.

[bill&sabrina]

This hasn't happened to us yet. If it does my plan is to calmly explain that we do not wish to drive a wedge between friends and will move on. To me people like that are missing one of the points of swinging: sharing. Whether you are swinging or not sharing has a way of enriching our lives. I would hate to miss out on the blessings that are bestowed on one that shares.