Fatal Atrraction!

hotcpl4unfla · 08-29-2007, 02:15 PM

Here's the scenario:
The wife and I have been soft-swinging with another couple for years. These people are also our very good friends. The soft-swinging had expanded to mutual touching, mainly girl/girl play, and fingering by all involved. The times we had were awesome; never a bad experience. Well, my wife decided she wanted to take a break from the scene for a while, which didn't really bother me (our sex is incredible). But it appears as if this isn't sitting well with the female half of the other couple. The last time we played with them was about 8 months ago, and the female half of that couple has become increasingly jealous of my wife spending time with other women, and it has got so bad that she goes into a drunken rage whenever she finds out my wife and I are out with other people.
The other week, she had a nervous breakdown when she saw our car out in front of a mutual couple friend's house (mind you, absolutely nothing was going on....we were all watching TV and socializing!) and went totally apesh** and then came over and apologized the next day for crying on the phone, leaving rambling voice messages, etc.
We have asked her what is wrong. She keeps saying it is her "insecurity" with the relationships she has, and that she feels "threatened" by this other mutual friend we have.
I personally think (that since her hostility is toward my wife, primarily) that this other woman may have a possible lesbian fixation on my wife....she has always been really into kissing her, and loved going down on her. I never really picked up on how much she truly was "into" my wife until I started seeing her recent behavior. Now it worries me that she is going postal on my wife due to jealousy.
My question is:
Based on the short version, what is everyone's opinion about this? Should we be worried and sever ties altogether? I mean, we enjoyed the couples stuff with them, but I don't think it's healthy to get back into it with them. Both my wife and I have no emotional attachment to them, it was purely sex. It seems like she has taken it a step further, though.

dayhiker · 08-29-2007, 02:38 PM

I agree that you two shouldn't get it on with this couple till her is healthy.

Her husband should know her well. What does he think about what she is going thru?

dayhiker

graygo98 · 08-29-2007, 02:40 PM

You probably don't have anything to worry about... bunnies in pots, spiteful anonymous letters to your employer .... but even so, why would you continue the relationship? Its not likely to get better and life is way too short to go through it walking on eggs.

It dosen't sound like it will be possible to go back to just friends w/o benefits so you should just rip the bandaid off as quickly and humanely as possible. It sounds like it was good while it lasted but its done.

hotcpl4unfla · 08-29-2007, 03:21 PM

Her husband knows she is having issues. The problem with him, is he is too weak to really put a foot down and is basically "enabling" her. We have spoken with them endlessly, but it seems to do no good. I agree with you, graygo, I know it's done. My wife is so turned off by both of them, she has told me she has no interest in being with them ever again.
On a good note, the wife and I went out the other night, and she absolutely swore she would find a single female and bring her home- I didn't want to burst her bubble, so I played along..

and we had fun just picking out girls we would both want to bring home- we have the same tastes! Although we went home empty handed, the sex on the hood of the car in the driveway was outstanding!

edmustang · 08-29-2007, 05:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by hotcpl4unfla

... we had fun just picking out girls we would both want to bring home- we have the same tastes! Although we went home empty handed, the sex on the hood of the car in the driveway was outstanding!

Sounds like you two have found a mutual hobby..."window shopping"!

Having been in the other husband's shoes once (without the swinging), I can tell you that she will not get better, only worse. You are better off without them, and he would be better off without her.

**Alura** · 08-29-2007, 06:04 PM

I agree with the above but I'd also caution y'all to keep an eye over your shoulder until you're sure she's gotten beyond her jealous rage.

Alura

hotcpl4unfla · 08-30-2007, 12:24 PM

Thanks for the input all. I just wanted to make sure i wasn't being paranoid, and I interpreted the signals right!

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08-29-2007, 02:15 PM	#1 (permalink)
hotcpl4unfla Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 168 Location: Tampa, Florida USA Status: Couple	Fatal Atrraction! Here's the scenario: The wife and I have been soft-swinging with another couple for years. These people are also our very good friends. The soft-swinging had expanded to mutual touching, mainly girl/girl play, and fingering by all involved. The times we had were awesome; never a bad experience. Well, my wife decided she wanted to take a break from the scene for a while, which didn't really bother me (our sex is incredible). But it appears as if this isn't sitting well with the female half of the other couple. The last time we played with them was about 8 months ago, and the female half of that couple has become increasingly jealous of my wife spending time with other women, and it has got so bad that she goes into a drunken rage whenever she finds out my wife and I are out with other people. The other week, she had a nervous breakdown when she saw our car out in front of a mutual couple friend's house (mind you, absolutely nothing was going on....we were all watching TV and socializing!) and went totally apesh** and then came over and apologized the next day for crying on the phone, leaving rambling voice messages, etc. We have asked her what is wrong. She keeps saying it is her "insecurity" with the relationships she has, and that she feels "threatened" by this other mutual friend we have. I personally think (that since her hostility is toward my wife, primarily) that this other woman may have a possible lesbian fixation on my wife....she has always been really into kissing her, and loved going down on her. I never really picked up on how much she truly was "into" my wife until I started seeing her recent behavior. Now it worries me that she is going postal on my wife due to jealousy. My question is: Based on the short version, what is everyone's opinion about this? Should we be worried and sever ties altogether? I mean, we enjoyed the couples stuff with them, but I don't think it's healthy to get back into it with them. Both my wife and I have no emotional attachment to them, it was purely sex. It seems like she has taken it a step further, though.

08-29-2007, 02:38 PM	#2 (permalink)
dayhiker Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 237 Location: MA Status: Single male Swing Lifestyle Name:dayhiker	Re: Fatal Atrraction! I agree that you two shouldn't get it on with this couple till her is healthy. Her husband should know her well. What does he think about what she is going thru? dayhiker

08-29-2007, 02:40 PM	#3 (permalink)
graygo98 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 395 Location: Toronto Status: Couple	Re: Fatal Atrraction! You probably don't have anything to worry about... bunnies in pots, spiteful anonymous letters to your employer .... but even so, why would you continue the relationship? Its not likely to get better and life is way too short to go through it walking on eggs. It dosen't sound like it will be possible to go back to just friends w/o benefits so you should just rip the bandaid off as quickly and humanely as possible. It sounds like it was good while it lasted but its done.

08-29-2007, 03:21 PM	#4 (permalink)
hotcpl4unfla Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 168 Location: Tampa, Florida USA Status: Couple	Re: Fatal Atrraction! Her husband knows she is having issues. The problem with him, is he is too weak to really put a foot down and is basically "enabling" her. We have spoken with them endlessly, but it seems to do no good. I agree with you, graygo, I know it's done. My wife is so turned off by both of them, she has told me she has no interest in being with them ever again. On a good note, the wife and I went out the other night, and she absolutely swore she would find a single female and bring her home- I didn't want to burst her bubble, so I played along.. and we had fun just picking out girls we would both want to bring home- we have the same tastes! Although we went home empty handed, the sex on the hood of the car in the driveway was outstanding!

08-29-2007, 06:04 PM	#6 (permalink)
Alura Just a hick Okie Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 8,135 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Widower	Re: Fatal Atrraction! I agree with the above but I'd also caution y'all to keep an eye over your shoulder until you're sure she's gotten beyond her jealous rage. Alura
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08-30-2007, 12:24 PM	#7 (permalink)
hotcpl4unfla Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 168 Location: Tampa, Florida USA Status: Couple	Re: Fatal Atrraction! Thanks for the input all. I just wanted to make sure i wasn't being paranoid, and I interpreted the signals right!

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