Strip Clubs as a first step

[J&BinNJ]

Thanks for all the responses. I would like to try this. I agree it would be a good test to see if I'd be jealous. My only thought would be, if I (or any woman) wasnt jealous with this (lap dances) is that any guaranty that I (or any woman) wouldn't be when you see your mate acutal having sex with another woman?

I've never seen a lapdance in person, however from what I understand, the customer is not allowed to touch them is that true?

If that is the case, I know I wouldn't be jealous of that, I'd probaly laugh the whole time.

[fun_pairTX]

Strip clubs have never done much for me, oh well. When I was single however I used to keep my eye out for clubs that were featuring male strippers. I would head down to the clubs parking lot around 11 or so and wait for the partially intoxicated, and definitely horned up ladies to head for their cars. Even as big and uglee as I am I never left alone.

[Sparkysweet]

I thought you could not touch them either, just ask the club what the rules are, each one is a bit different. I thought I would laugh and be embarrassed, but I closed my eyes and felt the sensation, the music, and was surprised the different level of sexuality and eroticism (sp) it brought. About seeing my husband pleasure another woman, I have had to visualize this big time, however if we swing (we have not to date) we are starting verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry slow, many dates and first time will be watching and being watched. I may never get to the full swap, I am going to continue as long as I and my husband are enjoying the sexual horizon and not one little bit more. I am finding that I go outside of a prior non comfort zone let hubby know I am okay for another step and then opps, he has to process that, some things he thought he was okay with, we have changed our rules boundaries and where I was the last one in on stuff, we reevaluateing to both our comfort levels, and I'm no longer last to be ready on everything (just most everything!) Heh keep in touch, being a newbie, I am watching the other newbies for help.

[BiCoupleNJ]

Originally posted by Sparkysweet
Being a newbie, the Strip Club we went to, was a great safe way to see how I would react to someone being sexual with my husband and I ended up knowing how I would respond to a Woman being sexual with me...
I was shocked, and extremely jealous much to my surprise...
I was further shocked to find this extremely erotic and sensual. I have never been attracted to a woman sexually, but it opened sexual, erotic sensations I had not experienced before.

Sparky,

Great advice for a couple new to swinging. Strip clubs weren't quite as comfortable and well accepted when we started out in swinging about a dozen years ago... you still had to go to the really seedy side of town and the places were filled with bikers for the most part. Now that they are an accepted entertainment option, it is a lot safer and much more pleasant to visit.

Your comment about being jealous when you first saw your husband getting the lap dance isn't really odd at all. I would think that pretty much every woman in here can attest to feeling at least a little jealous, if not a lot, the first time they saw their husband or partner with another woman. The way you went about it, in a strip club, was an awful lot safer than how most of us go about it... with actual swinging being the first time I saw Jerry with another woman.

And I think that most women would also agree that they were pretty shocked when they first found out that another woman could make them aroused and get them horny... I know that I was totally shocked at first! The first time I did bi, Jerry had a friend of his from his Air Force days come to visit for about 5 or 6 days. Each day that she was there, plus most nights, she did something sexual to me. And that's how it was for the first 3 days - she would do something sexual to me while I would just lay back and appreciate it. It took me until the 4th day... and Jerry telling me that this would be the best and safest opportunity I would ever have to reciprocate... for me to actually do something to her. I don't know if you have actually taken the step to do something sexual with another woman, but my advice is, now that you know from your feelings at the strip club, by all means, act on your desires! The only question you'll have after you actually do it is "Why did I wait so long?"

Liz