threesome with sister-in-law

07-02-2001, 07:46 PM

Hi Red.
Care to tell us about it?

Husband of CyberMWCouple

CindyB · 07-03-2001, 12:00 AM

[quote]Originally posted by CyberMWCouple:
[b]UUuummm....CindyB,

Hate to burst your bubble, but "I" got pregnant while [b]"on that wonderful little pill each and every day>

Damn.

CindyB · 07-03-2001, 12:05 AM

Ok, so tell me please. What DO you DO when you know the other guy is safe (from disease) and you hate condoms. (And we all know that "skin on skin" is much better than "Latex on skin.") So, you take the pill and roll the dice everytime you play? Or you don't play? Seems like those are the options to me. I was the one they had to talk into playing... and now I really don't want to stop!

07-03-2001, 10:38 AM

CindyB,

I've been sterile for over 15 years now, so there's no worries there, and I stayed on the pill till at least after a year of the operation for further precautions. And hubby is scheduled to have the "V" procedure done as well.

A few of our female playmates are highly allergic to latex, so we couldn't use the condoms we had, but we are also ALL d/d safe. So taken this and other issues of child bearing into consideration, hubby & I thought it would be safer to get the "V" thing done.

~Do you plan on having children in the future?
~Do you have any children? Just curious...
~Have you tried other birth control options, such as maybe spermicides, IUD, etc.?

If you NEED to take that "extra precaution", then "skin on skin" may not be an option for the 3 of you, unless you, or they get yourselves sterilized to prevent unwanted pregnancies, if the both of you do not wish to have any/more children in the future.

The best thing to do, is discuss this with your doctor. I don't know about the 3some part though

, but the birth control options are important issues to consider in your case.

Just be prepared for questions that you can't answer for the "3rd party" of your "unknown sex partner".

Good luck, hope this helps & keep us posted!

Wife of CyberMWCouple

[This message has been edited by CyberMWCouple (edited 07-03-2001).]

***JustAskJulie*** · 07-03-2001, 03:56 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by CindyB:
Ok, so tell me please. What DO you DO when you know the other guy is safe (from disease) and you hate condoms. (And we all know that "skin on skin" is much better than "Latex on skin.") So, you take the pill and roll the dice everytime you play? Or you don't play? Seems like those are the options to me. I was the one they had to talk into playing... and now I really don't want to stop!

Personally, it's not a chance we'll take. In our case, hubby has had the big V, and I am on the pill (to control periods not as a birth control). We still use condoms with everyone we play with tho. It's just not a risk we want to take. I too know way too many people who have gotten pregnant on all manners of birth control (the pill, norplant, shots, tubes tied, you name it, nothing is 100%). But for us pregnancy is the least of our worries. If we had one couple that we were monogomous with then maybe eventually we would take off the condoms but even then I'm not sure.

I was at a party last week where people were doing strangers without condoms (and guys were trying to get at me that way.. guys I'd known for less than an hour).. that was a little too wild for me.. and something I wasn't about to let happen. It's just one of those choices you have to make for yourself. If you are willing to take the chance, take it.. there are plenty of other swingers out there who will take it with you. You don't need everyone else's approval to do what you want to do.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

07-03-2001, 04:16 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by JustAskJulie:
.....If you are willing to take the chance, take it.. there are plenty of other swingers out there who will take it with you. You don't need everyone else's approval to do what you want to do.

Julie

Ooppss...I thought CindyB wanted more insight with birth control, while continuing their 3some. Instead of trying to seek "approval" to do what she wants to do?

Wife of CyberMWCouple

CindyB · 07-03-2001, 08:48 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by CyberMWCouple:
Ooppss...I thought CindyB wanted more insight with birth control, while continuing their 3some. Instead of trying to seek "approval" to do what she wants to do?

Wife of CyberMWCouple

Exactly right. As long as my husband and I approve I don't worry about anybody else. My concern was pregnancy. I really don't worry about it but then we've only played 2 times. Tomorrow will make 3 as his brother is coming for the holiday. At this point we'll continue to forego the condoms. I absolutely know his brother is clean. I know pregnancy is always possible... and that we are playing the odds. If somehow it were to happen I suppose we'd just not get tested and assume my husband is the father. Hey... the odds are in our favor! I just don't want to use condoms. I suppose a spemacide is a good idea as a back up. For now I'm just enjoying the new experiences. I had no idea it would be so totally different with another man. My husband was my one and only experience before this.

CindyB · 07-03-2001, 08:49 PM

Oh... and thanks for all of the kind advice!!!

***JustAskJulie*** · 07-04-2001, 09:47 AM

Sorry about that I misunderstood. All of these various posts regarding condoms/protection from pregnancy and std's etc start running together and in most of them when they start whining about condoms that's the impression I get (that they are looking for approval).

In your case, if using the pill has worked for you thus far and you trust it to continue working, keep going with what works. But do think forward about the possibilities of "what if". or don't for that matter and just face the road if/when you come to it.

Spermicide might help but if you are planning any oral sex to be performed on you.. well.. it might not taste so great.

I go with whoever mentioned getting your tubes tied. Many insurances will pay for it now and it is your best bet (although again nothing is 100% and people have still gotten pregnant afterwards).

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

CindyB · 07-04-2001, 11:51 AM

[quote]Originally posted by JustAskJulie:

Spermicide might help but if you are planning any oral sex to be performed on you.. well.. it might not taste so great.

I go with whoever mentioned getting your tubes tied. Many insurances will pay for it now and it is your best bet (although again nothing is 100% and people have still gotten pregnant afterwards).

QUOTE]

Good point about the spermacide. Ugh! And let's face it... oral sex is one perk of being with two men that I don't want to give up! I think we'll trust the pill and go from there. I do not want to get my tubes tied just yet. We have a 2 year old and a 4 year old but we have not yet ruled out the possibility that "not all of the kids are home yet." We still have an empty bedroom. For the time being I'm just going to go grill some steaks and save the "weenies" for tonight. ;-) Happy 4th!

CindyB · 07-05-2001, 12:42 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by CindyB:
For the time being I'm just going to go grill some steaks and save the "weenies" for tonight. ;-) Happy 4th![/b]

For the record... the weenies were much better than the steaks!

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CindyB Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 65 Location: Tinley Park, Il. Status: couple	Ok, so tell me please. What DO you DO when you know the other guy is safe (from disease) and you hate condoms. (And we all know that "skin on skin" is much better than "Latex on skin.") So, you take the pill and roll the dice everytime you play? Or you don't play? Seems like those are the options to me. I was the one they had to talk into playing... and now I really don't want to stop!

07-03-2001, 10:38 AM	#19 (permalink)
CyberMWCouple Posts: n/a	CindyB, I've been sterile for over 15 years now, so there's no worries there, and I stayed on the pill till at least after a year of the operation for further precautions. And hubby is scheduled to have the "V" procedure done as well. A few of our female playmates are highly allergic to latex, so we couldn't use the condoms we had, but we are also ALL d/d safe. So taken this and other issues of child bearing into consideration, hubby & I thought it would be safer to get the "V" thing done. ~Do you plan on having children in the future? ~Do you have any children? Just curious... ~Have you tried other birth control options, such as maybe spermicides, IUD, etc.? If you NEED to take that "extra precaution", then "skin on skin" may not be an option for the 3 of you, unless you, or they get yourselves sterilized to prevent unwanted pregnancies, if the both of you do not wish to have any/more children in the future. The best thing to do, is discuss this with your doctor. I don't know about the 3some part though , but the birth control options are important issues to consider in your case. Just be prepared for questions that you can't answer for the "3rd party" of your "unknown sex partner". Good luck, hope this helps & keep us posted! Wife of CyberMWCouple [This message has been edited by CyberMWCouple (edited 07-03-2001).]

07-03-2001, 08:49 PM	#23 (permalink)
CindyB Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 65 Location: Tinley Park, Il. Status: couple	Oh... and thanks for all of the kind advice!!!

07-04-2001, 11:51 AM	#25 (permalink)
CindyB Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 65 Location: Tinley Park, Il. Status: couple	[quote]Originally posted by JustAskJulie: Spermicide might help but if you are planning any oral sex to be performed on you.. well.. it might not taste so great. I go with whoever mentioned getting your tubes tied. Many insurances will pay for it now and it is your best bet (although again nothing is 100% and people have still gotten pregnant afterwards). QUOTE] Good point about the spermacide. Ugh! And let's face it... oral sex is one perk of being with two men that I don't want to give up! I think we'll trust the pill and go from there. I do not want to get my tubes tied just yet. We have a 2 year old and a 4 year old but we have not yet ruled out the possibility that "not all of the kids are home yet." We still have an empty bedroom. For the time being I'm just going to go grill some steaks and save the "weenies" for tonight. ;-) Happy 4th!