Starting with singles or couples what is the best way to start?

[jw/dw]

When you are a new couple is better to start with a single to ease in or is a couple better?

We are a newbies and are trying to slowly find our way into the lifestyle. We want to swing as a couple but the occasional single would be fun. I want make the transition as easy as possible. So should we start with couples to see how it goes because that is our main foccus of even swinging. Or do you think it would be easier to start with a single? any advice is great!!

Start where the biggest attraction is for the two of you.

Set your boundaries there and tread slowly. Make sure fantasy and reality can co-exist and always move at the pace of the slowest person.

[CB_n_Red]

We sort of fell into the lifestyle, getting it together with a single bloke, though we had discussed it for years before.

It worked well for us and encouraged us to get more thoroughly involved. The only thing we changed early on was to look for couples rather than singles (of either sex). Red felt I wasn't getting as much out of it as she was and I didn't feel like arguing with her

CB

[dave110256]

we started with a single and are now looking to step up to a couple..just happened that way for us. We started with a 3some with another woman, now i think its time to try it with another man.

[jw/dw]

We are so turned on by the whole idea, I'm not quite sure what is the biggest turn on for both of us. I really want to watch her with another man , but feel maybe it would be easier for us if we started with a "nice" couple. She is a little shy to be with another man in front of me. She has only been with me for almost 5 yrs. She is very turned on by the idea, but actualy being the first to step up to the plate is a little scary for her . With a couple no has to be the one to feel like all the pressure is on them. We originaly wanted just to have threesomes with single women , but then I brought up swinging and addmitted I would love to expirence the lifestyle. Maybe it would be easier transition if it was a woman , just so she can get used to being with someone else. Easier because its another woman maybe? I should ask her what her biggest turn on is out of all the things we can do. She just usally states how much this or that is a turn on , but never that this one thing is her biggest one , ya know what I mean! I dont have a clue?

Maybe you guys should try out a swingers club. Go out have a good time, get a feel for the enviroment. Being around others in the lifestyle may make you more comfortable with moving to the next step and may even help you decide what that next step will be.

[jw/dw]

We were actually thinking of going to a club in town called the green door-in las vegas
but I saw a post in here where someone said that they were going to go but that when they got there it looked kinda seedy. So I'm not too shure about that one but, there are 2 more clubs in town I beleave. I just didn't want to take the mrs, and scare her ya know what I mean. I want her to be comfortible. Has anyone been to any clubs in las vegas?



Thank you mr.mrs. naughty for all the advice

[dave110256]

That was us that tried to go to the green door. It was seedy for us, maybe you would think differently. We, too would love to find just the right couple to complete our fantasies with and are still looking. We may someday make another attempt to go to a club but will do so closer to home where we feel a little safer and "in our element". We wanted to go to a club in Las Vegas but could find nothing that appealed to us. Maybe we are just too picky or cautious but I want my wife to be comfortable and not feel pressured.

[VegasLee]

For "newbies" that want to experience a club in Las Vegas I would suggest that you check out http://www.couplesoasis.com/ They are a couples only club that is very low key. Nice people and smaller parties.

If you want more, then I would suggest http://www.vegasredrooster.com Larger parties, more people and they allow both couples and singles. The Rooster is 23 years old and very large. Not for everyone but about 1000 people a week find it a lot of fun.

Do what is right for you. Most of the places in the commercial center where the GD is are more for the "tourists" then anything else. Very few locals visit them on a regular basis.

Have a great trip and time in Vegas!

[jw/dw]

See that's what I'm saying. I want her to enjoy herself and feel comfortible enough to want to come back. The green door is kinda in a bad part of town so that could give off the bad vibe maybe.


As far as the other clubs go I will look into it. The oasis sounds more like what we would be into. I will look it up online. Thanks for the info about green door, also

[tazzie_n_truck]

As far as who you start with either couples or singles, depends on what you feel most comfortable doing. Some people are more comfortable with a single person, and other are more comfortable with a couple. When we started with us we were more comfortable with another couple. But that was our preferance, also we looked at it when we started as we are doing this as a couple, and that we would look for couples. We still use that idea when looking for people. But we do get together with a single male or female on occasion.

[jw/dw]

That is the way I felt about it. We are going to do this together as a couple and we are in this for eachother so it should be a couple, but then I figured she wants to try ffm,mfm ,and a couple. So I thought the her starting just with a female she could get used to having sex with another person , but not have the anziety of me watching her with another man the first time. She is a little shy of sleeping with another man. But is very turned on by all of these scinerio's.Maybe just limited play for me with the female and she can just get used to being with someone else then another couple?

[chee_and_smudge]

Originally Posted by tazzie_n_truck

As far as who you start with either couples or singles, depends on what you feel most comfortable doing. Some people are more comfortable with a single person, and other are more comfortable with a couple. When we started with us we were more comfortable with another couple. But that was our preferance, also we looked at it when we started as we are doing this as a couple, and that we would look for couples. We still use that idea when looking for people. But we do get together with a single male or female on occasion.

Your idea of thinking could get us both to where we want to be. We like it!
THANKS!

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty

Start where the biggest attraction is for the two of you.

Set your boundaries there and tread slowly. Make sure fantasy and reality can co-exist and always move at the pace of the slowest person.

Ditto!