New to all of this

[strouds17]

I have been interested in something for a while. I don;t even know if this is where I should be posting this. What I would like to do is have someone, or perhaps a couple, watch my wife and I have sex. I am not interested in anything more aggressive than this.

My question is as follows. I have mentioned this to my wide and she is luke warm to the idea. She feels that it will lead to a slippery slope. I do not agree and am still interested in doing it. Given that, should I still try to convince her or just let it drop? And if I am able to convince her, what then?

Thank you for any help.

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by strouds17

I have been interested in something for a while. I don;t even know if this is where I should be posting this. What I would like to do is have someone, or perhaps a couple, watch my wife and I have sex. I am not interested in anything more aggressive than this.

My question is as follows. I have mentioned this to my wide and she is luke warm to the idea. She feels that it will lead to a slippery slope. I do not agree and am still interested in doing it. Given that, should I still try to convince her or just let it drop? And if I am able to convince her, what then?

Thank you for any help.

Allentown, Pennsylvania!! Welcome to the boards. Well, rule number one: You cannot "convince" your wife to do this. This is not something you are talked into, you either enjoy it or you do not. Its as simple as that. You can become more comfortable within the lifestyle itself, but you have to agree in the entire idea of swinging. She is luke warm. I would start very slowly. Pushing her will only push her away. You want her to be here because she wants to be here, not because she is here to please you....I would start by going to a club WITHOUT the intention of swinging. Go to have fun, no pressure. Let her be immersed in the sexual atmosphere of everything, let her observe others having fun and being openly sexual. And let her go at her own pace. The next day sit down together and get a feel of what she is thinking, she will let you know. And remember, swinging is NOT for everyone...she very well may say its not for her...and this is okay.
Best of luck to you.

[sweet_tna]

from your neighbors in the Poconos!

Like Shelly said, this isn't the kind of thing someone can be "convinced" they should do. And she had a great suggestion for setting the mood and getting some conversations started.

What to do IF you convince her? Take it one step at a time . . .

Good luck!

=)

[prettylady]

Slippery slope eh! sounds like fun.

The lifestyle is a huge change for a person. Your talking about a whole new way of thinking. I ditto the other two ladies in saying don't push it.

If you do decide with your lady to go to a club, keep in mind it is like NOTHING you have ever seen before. She maybe freaked right out. My first time in a club I spent most of my time with my face squarly planted in Dogs chest because there was sooooo much there that I was unacustomed to. Bi sexual play, xxxrated movies on BIG screens, sex or near sex happenin in dark corners.
It is really something you need to ease into even if you are all for it in the beginning.
Go with no intention on playing, unless you want to play together.
Be ready if at any point in the evening your lady needs to "just leave". It doesn't matter how much fun you maybe having, if you force this on her, you will never get a chance to experience swinging.

Best of luck
Your friend,
Prettylady