How I convinced my wife to try MFM threesome

Originally posted by Gaia&Medi:
I brought it up in a question once, but he accused me of having a jealousy issue and I let the matter drop... Gaia was uncomfortable and tried to steer him into a 3'some with his wife. When this happened he just sat back and didn't participate. The other wife seemed to want to, so no I don't think it was him defending her choice at all, as was postulated by Julie above... but he would put on this attitude like he was the teacher and we had to learn his way or something. He also got a little demeaning after a while and would say little comments that were smug.

Pardon my language, but what an asshole. He sounds very pushy the way you describe him and after 5 minutes with him, I would have told him to go fuck himself while the three of us had fun.

We chatted on the phone last night with another pushy one. Almost the first words out of his mouth were, I want pix of your wife. As an afterthought, he added, 'and you'. I told him No. We don't send pix. He came across with some comment about how strange that was. I simply told him that we don't do that and if it was going to be a problem.... He then did an about face and seemed to try and friendly us into coming over to their place. As I look back on it now, we never heard his wife, we have only seen a pic online, and that may not even be her. At this point, I feel that his being pushy and insistant about pix have put him on our 'No way' list. Another freak bites the dust.

CyberHusband

Originally posted by CyberMWCouple:
At this point, I feel that his being pushy and insistant about pix have put him on our 'No way' list. Another freak bites the dust.

CyberHusband

I can certainly understand your feelings.... on Webpersonals this week alone we have received 8 inquiries from single men that sent us their pics unasked for. Then they send a message that says to the effect "I sent you my pic now you have to send me yours"

Pretty pushy there! Oh well, at least it is easy to ignore their messages.

Medi

[This message has been edited by Gaia&Medi (edited 08-30-2001).]

[Stratecpl]

We've encountered MANY picture collectors. You can spot them right off, and we don't oblige any of them. Our pics are up on our website ad, they have seen them, and if that's not good enough then tough!! LOL

We have a couple of friends who were contacted by a couple of interest here. The pics they sent our friends were of someone else, probably twenty years younger than the couple was in real life. Well, our friends met them at a restaurant and were shocked when these folks were about seventy years old AND not the people in the pics!! The man simply asked them if they'd meet someone who looked like them if they had sent their real pics....

Talk about an infraction of the rules!!!

Ron, Husband of Stratecpl

Originally posted by Gaia&Medi:
.....The original post in this whole thread was getting a wife to try a MFM 3 some, and I guess we moved onto quite a bit more details of a problem. I am hoping that there are couples that can have fun with this because we do want to do it again and again. Like I said in the earlier post, just having single guys is not the answer, so another couple is our preference. Any Hope?

Medi

Of course there's HOPE! Proof right here...*Raising our hands, pointing to all the other couples here as well...* Patience & time...

As for this other couple that you mentioned here....

Now that you've both had this experience, you & Gaia should only do what's COMfortable for the BOTH of you! Don't ever let anyone else push you two into doing something THEY think is right, which is usually THEIR way, and they're not considering the thoughts & feelings of others either. Sad, but it happens, obviously...

Julie is right, sounds like this guy was out for his own "glory", and being VERY inconsiderate of others, especially his wife!

And btw, if anyone gave hubby & I that rude remark of "nesting" while snuggling together, whatsoever, they would've been HIStory, I tell ya! That should've been another "sign" right there...It sounded as if HE was the one with the "jealousy" issue! You're both better off withOUT them.


Good luck!
CyberWife

Originally posted by JustAskJulie:
It definately sounds like an issue of a guy out for his own fun/ bored with his wife and not really caring if she has fun (and her knowing better than to intrude on his). I've seen this before with couples where they are really only in the lifestyle for one of them.. but rather than that one going off and swinging by themselves as their chances would be slimmer of "hooking up" (for lack of better word), they go as a couple.

Personally, I think that if you are looking for a 3some your best bet is going to be a single. If you are with a couple, your best bet is to either swap or find some way that all 4 can be involved. And a person can still have their threesome fantasy realized with a 4th person involved.. just takes some creativity when coming up with positions

But the idea of having a group of four and leaving one person out.. that bothers me. Unless they are just a total voyeur who gets off on seeing their partner going at it.. but even at that case I can't imagine they would stay completely uninvolved the entire time.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

FYI Julie...

This was the last post I read, and the last page at that. Until I posted my next post above, only THEN, page 2 showed up (missing about 2-3 posts before then). There were NO other pages or posts shown before that...

Strange...


CyberWife

[This message has been edited by CyberMWCouple (edited 08-31-2001).]

And btw, if anyone gave hubby & I that rude remark of "nesting" while snuggling together, whatsoever, they would've been HIStory, I tell ya! That should've been another "sign" right there...It sounded as if HE was the one with the "jealousy" issue! You're both better off withOUT them.

CyberWife[/B]

Thanks for all the feedback everyone. It does certainly reinforce my own feelings on the outcome. I had felt that perhaps I was too inflexible and it was me that held back the 4 of us from getting (or cumming ) together again.

However, after reflection on the situation I came to the conclusion that He was perhaps better suited with a Master/Slave relationship as opposed to an open equal one. It even went to the point that if we went out as couples to an event, he wanted to drive, arrive, socialize and leave with my wife and have me do the same with his. I mean I don't mind being together in a regular way, but this seemed a bit extreme to me.

Oh, well, now that we are looking again, we are taking a great deal more time to ensure compatibility.

Enough of Beating this Dead Horse I guess.

Medi

Originally posted by Gaia&Medi:
.....Oh, well, now that we are looking again, we are taking a great deal more time to ensure compatibility.....

Medi

That's cool...

And good luck in your continued search! As a matter of fact, we hope things work out for you & Gaia with Dan & Janette!


Keep us posted!
CyberWife

[ElricDeMelnibone]

Thanks a lot to all who shared of themeselves in this post,it is very re-assuring to me how helpful everyone is!
My Wife and I have been talking about a threesome for about six or seven years and just this last couple of months She has decided that She would like this very much.
Her main concern seems to be that I will get Jealous when after all it was me who suggested it,even though I have had a couple of experiences in the past. I do not feel anything but arrousal at the suggestion of it
and the idea of enhancing our sex lives in this fashion is one of my biggest turn-ons!
I do understand how jealousy can creep in
esp. if you are worried that she is enjoying
the other fellow more than it "seems" that she enjoys you,but the idea of being with her and knowing that she is able to be with someone else and still not diminish what we have is intoxicating to say the least!
As I am an older(38)Guy and have to "Husband" my resources the thought of a little "help" with my particular Domestic Goddess is a very welcome one not to mention a big turn-on for yours truly!
Again thank you all very much for your
Experiences and if any of you should feel you'd like to write please feel free to do so

[Stratecpl]

ElricDeMelnibone,

You say you're very old (38 years old??) LOLOL Hey, I wish I was 38 again!! Knowing what I do now, I'd certainly have a lot more fun than I did....

Just keep in mind that it's a give and take thing. Your wife can and will enjoy herself, and you will also enjoy yourself. That's what it's all about! But you aren't doing it to replace each other, you're doing it to share your feelings and your love. You'll enjoy seeing her giving someone else immense pleasure, and she will delight in seeing you do this.

Just remember, when all is said and done, you will both have each other. Any new techniques you have both learned from others can be tried out by the two of you on each other. You will both appreciate each other a lot more, too.

Just remember, NO JEALOUSY!! Always communicate your feelings with each other. The number one reason most people have problems is from a communication gap.

Good luck to you and your wife! Keep us posted on how things go!

Ron, Husband of Stratecpl

[Husband of M]

I aplogize for bringing up an old thread but I'm new here and was having a look around when I noticed this thread.

Like Threesome man, I too have a strong desire to see my wife have sex with another man. Until I fond this board I wasn't sure if I was perveted or just exceptionally generous!

The MFM scenario is the definite turn-on for me. I'm not interested in having sex with anyone else but my wife and my only interest in in watching her please and be pleased by another man.

My wife has agreed to do this but we are both moving slowly to make sure it's the right decision for us, and that we choose the right man for her. I want her to feel totally comfortable and safe and that's difficult to do when the other man is a total stranger.

I'm looking forward to the day I can watch her have sex with another man and I appreciate the comments and experiences I've seen posted here. It makes me feel much more confident that this can be a very rewarding experience for us.