Family Guilt

[Sunswept]

Originally Posted by starlinn

...After the last call I hung up and thought to myself, wow, prayers wont work because nana and papa swing. I dont know why this thought came so suddenly, but when it did, I had to sit down. I thought about it, tried to get the thought out of my head, but I cant. Would love some suggestions here. Has anyone ever dealt with this kind of guilt??

Starlinn,
Yeah I have been through that guilt, and have needed to pray also. I would never presume to tell you how to handle all that, but I can tell you are a good person and you will find your own answers... there are ones you know! Have faith God will hear your prayers for your grandchild. Too often we mortals make assumptions about what God wants, perhaps we should just pray to him.. let him decide who he will listen to, and which of our prayers to answer, my hunch is he listens to all who are sincere.

And it appears that he does...so good to hear you grandchild is doing better!
Take care

[curiousagain]

Sometimes things are out of our control. By assuming guilt, you are assuming you have some control of the situation when you actually don't. As has been said, bad things happen to good people. Sometimes for no reason. Being human, we find this hard to accept sometimes. We will keep your grandchild in our prayers.

[northindycpl]

What interesting perspectives.

First, Starlinn.. as always you are in Mr. Indy and my thoughts. I have been a few days late in responding so hopefully everything is going very well and much better.

Guilt and Swinging? Yeah. Sure, sometimes. Religious guilt and swinging? I have never had it really. I have sometimes felt guilty for allowing another man to flirt/touch/be with me, but I have never felt like I am sinning by swinging. I have never felt as though bad things are happening to me (or my loved ones) because we swing or I like being a slut.

I was raised catholic and would consider myself a practicing catholic. I feel tremendous guilt over stupid things like not mentioning I wasn't charged for a drink refill, or leaving my kids with a sitter when they are acting up to find a few moments of peace.

I have personally confessed swinging to the church, not out of guilt as much as it just seemed like the thing to do. After my priest was a bit dazed and confused and asked a few questions, I recieved the same penance I had recieved earlier in the week for use of profanities. I felt like I was reconciled and hence forth, moved on.

I think a lot of great comments were made, especially from Spoo and I love Male D's quote!

The best you can do is the best you can do. You have done nothing to cause this, nor can do nothing to fix it.