Lucked out early with the lifestyle

[mysticon]

My fiance and I first got into swinging last spring or summer, but didn't have any luck finding couples for us to play with; but we had also agreed that playing alone was ok- if precautions were taken- because my fiance was very concerned for my safety. We had joined a swinger's site, and recieved a message from a guy; who very quickly proved himself to be on the up and up. Him and his wife were looking for another couple, or he was also allowed to play alone. It didn't work out as far as a couple thing there either, because of the age difference; his wife was/is looking for guys closer to her own age.

I had some concerns that he could be another one of these guys, trying to cheat on his wife; so I asked to talk directly to her- not actually expecting that I would get to. It's been my experience, that asking to talk directly to someone's wife; has weeded out the ones trying to cheat.

So I talk to his wife on the phone, and see he's telling the truth; and we arrange to meet for breakfast. Once we met, we hit it off right away; and spent quite a while in the restaurant talking and eating, so then he wanted to go out to his car to talk. Having just met him, I was still concerned for my safety; so I suggested sitting in my car- since it didn't have automatic door locks- so that I couldn't be locked in against my will- if he was that kind of guy.

So we are able to talk more intimately out in the car, without worrying about someone overhearing; and it continues to go well. One thing leads to another, and we end up kissing, and it was like WOAH, sparks flying right away! Then the next part is where I really ended up surprising myself, because it's not something I ever did upon first meeting someone. One thing leads to another again, and he is fingering me; and sucking on my breast- which just drives me over the edge! He makes me cum 4 times pretty quickly. After it's all done, I am left kind of stunned at what just happened LOL. I then feel like I should reciporcate, and offer him a blowjob; but he tells me another time- because I am feeling obligated.

He invites me back to his place, but I wasn't ready for that yet; so he was very respectful- and didn't try to preasure or push- that waited until the next time. The really cool thing, is that we are still seeing each other over a year later; and have been having great fun the entire time. We also enjoy each other's company outside of the bedroom, as in sitting and talking for hours; after all the sexual fun is over. I've even gotten to meet his wife recently, and am developing a friendship with her.

[Additude]

It's nice to hear a great story like this. Your fortunate this turned out so sweet.

[mysticon]

Thanks Add! I'm very thankful to have found such a great person so early on, especially after initially having no luck. It just shows there are some great people in this lifestyle.

[SecretAsianMan]

Sounds like you've got a great thing going there... thank you for sharing!

[DigginIt]

Thank you very much for sharing. Mind if I ask a personal question? You said that "his wife was looking for guys closer to her own age" so are they younger or older?

It's not really important but just stuck out and I was curious. There is a specific discussions still pretty recent about women and if they have problems with much younger men and wondering if this was the case with you.



It's really good hearing these stories that work out very well and it sounds like you have had a great first year in the lifestyle. We are happy for you.

[mysticon]

Hi Digg, didn't mind your question at all. The guy I'm seeing and his wife, are both older than my fiance and I. My friend and his wife are in their mid to late 50's.

[JDApopka]

So does your fiance ever join you 2?
J

[DigginIt]

Thanks for the answer. There were women that said they preferred to play with men closer to their age on that thread I mentioned. Looks like she is one of those as well.

I look forward to hearing more of your adventures and seeing you around the discussions.

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by JDApopka

So does your fiance ever join you 2?
J

I have to wonder also ?

Either way mysticon, I'm glad to hear how happy you are

One of the most important things I cherished while swinging, was Mrsfun's happiness

[mysticon]

No, my fiance has never joined us; not that I haven't asked I want a MFM 3 some, but it's not something my fiance will do; so my playmate is trying to line something up with one of his friends. As far as age range goes, I'm open to someone close to my age (32) on up to around 60. Thanks for the well wishes, and I look forward to participating in more discussions also.

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by mysticon

It just shows there are some great people in this lifestyle.

I think once you cut through the fakes and flakes, the vast majority of swingers are very good people. It makes sense; good marriages, wide open communication, deliberate acceptance of something against social rules indicating open mindedness, etc.

It's wonderful you found someone like this! Hang on to him!

I want my wife to find such a single or married & permission to play male, have him be as perfect as you describe, and for my wife to be able to play with him as often as she wants and keep him around for a long time. The search continues. I'm ever so slightly jealous

[phatmatt]

awesome

[mysticon]

Thanks BB and Matt. Yes you do have to cut through some flakes and strange people to get to the good ones, but it's worth the effort! You and your wife keep looking BB, she'll find someone like that; they are out there

[snapps]

Originally Posted by mysticon

The really cool thing, is that we are still seeing each other over a year later; and have been having great fun the entire time. We also enjoy each other's company outside of the bedroom, as in sitting and talking for hours; after all the sexual fun is over. I've even gotten to meet his wife recently, and am developing a friendship with her.

Congrats on your good experience and all, but umm... is your fiance/husband... ok with yall's relationship outside of the sex?? It kinda seems like he got lost half way through your story.... i might be reading too much into what you stated here, but it seems to me that ya'lls relationship has got to a point that its much more than just sexual or swinging.... and the tone you are taking when you are talking about yall's relationship outside of the sex, kinda gives me a bad taste in my mouth....

I'm not sure... But i dont think I would have felt comfortable with my wife carrying on a relationship like what you are explaining here. This is now a long-term sexual relationship you have with this guy, and imo, the relationship you are carrying on with him outside of sex can easily lead to an emotional attachment between you two, if that hasnt occured already... just my 2 cents...

Here's a lil test i think you should try..., if your fiance/husnand was to tell you right now to cut off all ties with this guy, would it cause problems??... If there is even a moment hesitation on your part, then my fears are realized... good luck though..

[WildFire]

Originally Posted by snapps

Here's a lil test i think you should try..., if your fiance/husnand was to tell you right now to cut off all ties with this guy, would it cause problems??... If there is even a moment hesitation on your part, then my fears are realized... good luck though..

Yes, please be careful, I fell in love with a play partner over a period of about a year and didn't even realize it until my spouse confronted me one day with a suspicion, and after I had time to digest it all, I agreed 100%. Breaking up is hard to do, luckily we are all still friends and we worked through it.