I would pat myself on the back but.....

[ENCRYPTEDTX]

Really my arm is just not long enough.

Last night I had the wonderful opportunity to visit TSC, an on premise club in Nashville. I arrived about 9 or so and took a seat near the dance floor. As a single guy, you cant hide in the shadows and not be able to make eye contact with pretty ladies as they walk by.

After a few minutes of sitting there a decent looking lady was dancing on the floor and "dancing for me" it seemed. We exchanged smiles and I got up to walk around the club a bit to see the play rooms.

I came back to my seat near the dance floor and over my left shoulder I noticed a good looking young couple. She was EXTREMELY nervous. We make eye contact and said hello and I asked if they wanted to sit down. They sat next to me and we began chatting. She was still very, very nervous.

We made some small talk about the area, weather and life and I asked a few questions about their experience in the lifestyle and what they enjoyed.

I found out they are total newbies, have never been with anyone before, this was the first ever trip to a club and she was slowly relaxing. We talked more both sexual and non among the 3 of us.

She left to dance and he asked me if I was interested in her and would like to go to a room with them. I was indeed interested but would want to know more about what she likes, what she doesnt like what turns her on. She is the center of my attention, this is for her and I want it to be great. We discussed it a bit and I explained that her first experience should be with a Ferrari and not to settle for a Minivan. By settling for something less, she may have a not so "Ferrari" experience which may give her a non comforting feeling about the lifestyle and cause her to not pursue further endeavors. Not at all what we in the lifestyle would want to happen.

She and her partner talked it over a few times and we discussed further exactly what she wanted and what I could provide. She was seeking an experience with SIZE something I couldnt help her with. I think they had discussed some light playing just to try it and again knowing what she was focused on, I wasnt it.

If people are looking for chocolate cake and all you have is ice cream...its best not to compromise.

Placing others before me, I talked myself out of a play session for their benefit.

Kyle

[fun4Ds]

Well I think you need a kick in the ass, not a pat on the back.

Seriously, Why didn't you offer what you have ?

This reminds me of a time we met a single male for a drink and appetizers. We were quite sure about going to a hotel room and I said lets go get a room....

We found ourselves at the door, waiting on Him. I went back to the bar area where we were sitting and had to say "are you coming with us" He was like "Oh, I wasn't sure I was what you were looking for"

I think you missed something, you were asked to go to a room.... Did she reject your size ? I don't think sooooo......At least from what I read here.

I'll bet she was excited... and two men giving her attention the first time, would have compared equally to the size issue.

[ncmd_couple]

Size is a relative thing. She may have been looking for bigger than her husband, or she might have been looking for a guy hung like a horse, you are the best judge of that from the conversation that you had with them. He might have been 3 inches, and you 6, and she would have been very happy with the contrast, then again, she might not have been.

I think I would have at least gone to the room and given her a chance to decide it I was sufficient for her needs, unless I already knew that I had a 3 incher and that wasn't going to get there. Now, this was your first time at TSC, but at clubs I have been to a number of times, I know the guys that are polite and well hung from the hot tub. I would have probably excused myself for a moment and found a nice guy that I knew and invited him to the table to join us and introduced them to the couple. Just food for thought for a future encounter like that.

S

[lustylearning]

I understand what you're saying, but don't you think you robbed yourself, as well as her, of the opportunity for a fun new experience? When I go to a restaurant, I may have a favorite dish or something in mind to try, but on the other hand, another menu item may catch my eye and change my focus. Does that mean that if I eat what caught my eye, I'll regret not having gone with what I was first seeking? Well, maybe, but maybe not. I simply won't know until I try.

LOL, my husband adds, "First-time drivers don't need to be behind the wheel of a Ferrari. They really should be behind the wheel of a minivan."

[LFM2]

Kyle, I can truly see where you're coming from, but I too think you might have missed giving her a excellent opportunity to see what a respectful male should be like and also jipping yourself out of some pleasure. I'd really hate for her first time to be with some slob who can't seem to form a sentence and who disrespects the male (which therefore disrespects her) of the couple.

Originally Posted by lustylearning

LOL, my husband adds, "First-time drivers don't need to be behind the wheel of a Ferrari. They really should be behind the wheel of a minivan."

I like that... and agree.

[it'sso]

I won't rag on you for your decision, Kyle. I'll assume that you were told just what it was both she and her SO were seeking and you know wether or not you can fill the bill. If you didn't do so, the only thing I might have done different would be to have offered an option that included me, should they not have been able to find exactly what they were seeking.

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by ENCRYPTEDTX

Really my arm is just not long enough.

Last night I had the wonderful opportunity to visit TSC, an on premise club in Nashville. I arrived about 9 or so and took a seat near the dance floor. As a single guy, you cant hide in the shadows and not be able to make eye contact with pretty ladies as they walk by.

After a few minutes of sitting there a decent looking lady was dancing on the floor and "dancing for me" it seemed. We exchanged smiles and I got up to walk around the club a bit to see the play rooms.

I came back to my seat near the dance floor and over my left shoulder I noticed a good looking young couple. She was EXTREMELY nervous. We make eye contact and said hello and I asked if they wanted to sit down. They sat next to me and we began chatting. She was still very, very nervous.

We made some small talk about the area, weather and life and I asked a few questions about their experience in the lifestyle and what they enjoyed.

I found out they are total newbies, have never been with anyone before, this was the first ever trip to a club and she was slowly relaxing. We talked more both sexual and non among the 3 of us.

She left to dance and he asked me if I was interested in her and would like to go to a room with them. I was indeed interested but would want to know more about what she likes, what she doesnt like what turns her on. She is the center of my attention, this is for her and I want it to be great. We discussed it a bit and I explained that her first experience should be with a Ferrari and not to settle for a Minivan. By settling for something less, she may have a not so "Ferrari" experience which may give her a non comforting feeling about the lifestyle and cause her to not pursue further endeavors. Not at all what we in the lifestyle would want to happen.

She and her partner talked it over a few times and we discussed further exactly what she wanted and what I could provide. She was seeking an experience with SIZE something I couldnt help her with. I think they had discussed some light playing just to try it and again knowing what she was focused on, I wasnt it.

If people are looking for chocolate cake and all you have is ice cream...its best not to compromise.

Placing others before me, I talked myself out of a play session for their benefit.

Kyle

Darlin, while I commend you on putting others before yourself, here's the thing. You sold yourself short (apparently literally). They were shy and new, yes. But they were interested in you. As you should well know, either the chemistry is there or it's not. For most folks this matters way more than size.

I'm all too often a victim of my own good intentions. It usually happens when I try to think of what's best for someone else, and end up with the short end of the straw. My signature line is a little reminder of the importance of thinking of oneself every now and again . . .

=)

[Additude]

People make concessions all the time because the world is not perfectly suited to our exact tastes.

I mean, hell I freakin' love BBQ rib eye steak with all the fixins'...ahh, but alas, I don't eat it everytime I go out to eat something.

Most of the time a cheeseburger with chips or a burrito is just great!

I think you cut your nose off to spite your face.....

Your loss, everyone more than likely would have had a really great time.

[bbarnsworth]

I'll go against the grain on this one, and applaud you (the OP). Nicely done. The wife saw that swingers aren't sex obsessed jerks willing to do anything to get a little action. Bravo! As nervous as she was, this was a great into to the lifestyle.

[VegasLee]

Originally Posted by bbarnsworth

The wife saw that swingers aren't sex obsessed jerks willing to do anything to get a little action.

Yes, that is one way of looking at it.....

Or:

Since it was their first time, new to this all and now very self conscience that she could not even get laid by a "Minivan"?

In this world there are many ways of looking at things.

Personally, we would not want to drive a Ferrari . They are nice to look at but not worth the upkeep.