Good things come to those who wait! (Soft Swingers Surrender)

[MulderNScully]

I think I finally learned patience(sp) when it comes to dealing with soft swingers. It was something I never had to deal with before in my nearly five years of being in the lifestyle, but boy what a lesson. Scully is more adapt to the changes and is able to deal with it better than I did. Me, I tried to just step back and let them be. But it prooves if you just wait and let things progress you never know how things will turn out.

The last few months the soft swing couple we know (good friends by the way) just came back from recouping from a long wedding for their son and a weeks worth vacation down in Key West, Fla. I don't know what happened, but when they came back they were extra frisky. (Its the flavor at KFC that's extra frisky and open to anything).

We got invited to "Club blah-blah" which the last time we were there lets say there was an air mattress and a wide screen tv with porn playing. It's a sexy scene minus the door charge and some of the creepy single guys who aren't as gentleman on any level. We saw another couple who we know who is a full swap couple; the wife of the couple was already on the female of the soft swap couple going at it while the guys sat back. Needless to say from that point on it was on.

Then the wife of the soft swap couple asked me to lay on the mattress while she jumped on me and we both did our nibbling and licking on each other in a nice long 69. When we were done she whispers to me, "I want you to fuck me bad!" I about fell out big time. Never thought I'd hear those words, but hey I wasn't about to argue with her. She was respectful enough to ask Scully if it was okay...it was. It was even okay for her to be with the husband soft swapper too, but we waited till the other couple left for the night. When they FINALLY left we had at it and lets just say for the three years of knowing them and the growing pains and lessons I've learned it only shows that if the other couple trust you enough and respects you too it will produce fruit.

The whole night was indeed fruitful and I can't hardly contain the anticipation for the next time we both meet.

Mulder
(Mulder and Scully)

[socolais]

VERY Cool!!! So, I guess patience is really a virtue (I'll try to remember that)

[R 'n R]

As the male half of a couple just getting their feet wet, let me say YAY! for patience. Both of us want to try, but as the wise ones say, we only proceed at the speed of the slowest person. We're finding our comfort zones and appreciate those that show us patience as we work through the Lifestyle issues.

[MulderNScully]

Originally Posted by R 'n R

As the male half of a couple just getting their feet wet, let me say YAY! for patience. Both of us want to try, but as the wise ones say, we only proceed at the speed of the slowest person. We're finding our comfort zones and appreciate those that show us patience as we work through the Lifestyle issues.

That was very hard for me because I was willing to be part of the action as a full swapper personality, but to wait and be paitent as another couple was finding their ground was very rough. It was hard, at first, when Scully was enjoying herself with the other woman, but not I. I was grateful for being with Scully, but at times I thought they just wanted her and I stayed back and let them have their time for fear of upsetting the balance.

It wasn't until I started understanding that Scully needed my touch, my presence, to know I was there for her and enjoyed watching her needs being met by this other woman. After a while, both partners just switched out of nowhere and we all ended up with a good oral session.

I can't say I'm an "expert" with all this, but I can definately say its a real test of paitience and growth with our partners and with the couple/single person in question.