A surprising discovery made while swinging

[nice_cpl_n_bama]

Hi Everybody,
I'm very surprised at the "unexpected" ways the lifestyle is improving our sex life. Laurie has always had a very low tolerance for pain. If she stubs a toe she'll cry for half an hour. Knowing this about her I've always been very careful with her in bed. Well, one of our new playmates, not knowing this started biting her in some VERY tender places. I was shocked that the squeals that erupted were NOT squeals of pain!
Given how badly she deals with pain I never guessed she'd tolerate that, let alone like it. On the other hand, I've always joked that she thought the phrase "jerk it off" was meant to be taken literally. We realized that for the last 19 years I was touching her the way I wanted to be touched and she was touching me the way she wanted to be touched. I was way too gentle with her and she was way too rough with me.
We hadn't figured it out in almost two decades of marriage so without Laurie's playmate we might have never figured it out. After the play date we went right home and I practiced till I got the oral sex techniques he used down pat.
The conversation started by this event has done more to improve our sex life than I guessed was possible. Has anyone else made this kind of discovery?

[Pepper & Drew]

Yep....it's one of the best things about swinging. I know I give better blowjobs and handjobs now, thanks to lessons by some of my friends. I'm now trying to tell Drew about a certain finger technique that a playmate used.....

Pepper

[ohash01]

Hmmm...sort of like "practice makes perfect?" I know that Jon and I have fallen into the "well...we LIKE this...why change it?" series of thoughts. When we went on vacation, however, he did some things he's never done before...mainly some biting and pinching...and I about hit the ceiling.

After this weekend with our first couple, I'll let you guys know if we learn anything new.

[Dooode]

Originally Posted by nice_cpl_n_bama

We realized that for the last 19 years I was touching her the way I wanted to be touched and she was touching me the way she wanted to be touched. I was way too gentle with her and she was way too rough with me.

Absolutely! I realized that several years ago. I tend to be a bit rougher, because that's how I like to be treated--particularly when I get really excited: "C'mon! Smack that monkey! It's a cock, not a pussy!!!"

You can imagine, I hate soft blowjobs.

But I've also found that how they treat me is how they want to be treated .. which in truth, is sometimes hard to keep track of in the heat of the moment.

I'll get the hang of it one of these days. hehehe

[Fred&Wilma]

The discovery of new techniques seems to be an ongoing opportunity. Been married almost 29 years and still stumbling onto interesting improvements.

Mixed emotions between, "Damn, that was great" to "Damn, why did we not discover this sooner"

Fred

[Amanda69]

There is always something new to be discovered that is the joy of experimenting with others.

As for pain, I am also a cry baby, can't stand the stuff but if done right in the throws of passion wow does it add a new dimension...just don't try the same thing when I am not turned on you are likely to end up with a sore body part yourself