Pack Dogs & the Unicorn

[Spoomonkey]

Have you ever felt like you were walking through a pack of wild dogs with meat strapped to your clothes?

I have...

Recently, at our club, not one, but TWO unicorns decided to drop by. They were together, young (early 20s) and gorgeous. They were a bisexual couple - and to say they were the sort of thing that swinger dreams are made out of would be an understatement...

A really, really BIG understatement...



But I digress...

Needless to say - they were pounced on by every couple and single male in the place - as if they were running a guantlet at an ad hoc NFL training camp. When they finally reached a place at the bar - there was a hopeful crowd around them, and beads of sweat on their forhead...

Now - how it happened that Mrs Spoo ended up talking to them and taking them under her wing is hard to explain, but basically, they clung to her like she was the only kind face in the building. We really had no designs on them - and I think they picked up on that.

And it made them comfortable...

After moving upstairs - followed by the expected group of tongue waggers - the girls started flirting and joking and invited me to sit next to them. They were really sweet girls - lots of fun to talk to and really easy to look at. But, more than anything, they were interesting, funny, mature beyond their years and incredibly down-to-earth...

So - when they suggested getting a room - we had no problem with that...

I am still not sure if they were really into us or if that was just one more way to put a barrier between them and the crowd that would form - disperse - and form again.

When I carried a pile of sheets and pillowcases into the room - where three incredibly gorgeous women waited - I was on the fiery end of couple dozen angry stares...

I wondered if it was worth the potential of getting jumped on my way to the car later - and decided that "oh, hell yeah! It sure was!"

So - I have a memory that will last the rest of my life - but I have to wonder if those girls will ever come back to a club again. They almost certainly will not go back to that one. And - even though Mrs Spoo advised them of a local club that would probably be a little more respectful - I couldn't help but be a little ashamed of the way people act...

Has anyone else ever seen this? We've seen it before - and have actually experienced it before (on the "chased" side). It is one of the things about the club environment that really turns me off...

And I just had to vent about it...

Spoomonkey

[biblonde]

Wow...how horrible for those two. It is amazing how some (mostly men..sorry) think that because you are in a club they have the right to act like you are free meat. Or even just out in public. We dont go to clubs so I havent seen it there but have seen it out in the real world. Some people just have no respect. They really need to learn that acting like that is such a major turn OFF. I have had those that even when I am out with hubby and kids think it is okay to stare or say stuff under their breath. luckily my hubby has no problems telling them his opinion of them and my boys (teenagers) will do the same.

It is really sad that some will make it uncomfy for the rest.

[Pepper & Drew]

That's the way we felt the first time we ever went to a social. It was New Year's Eve and we went with another couple. I swear, when we walked into the ballroom, you would have thought they were bringing around the dessert tray in the dining room of a restaraunt. Drew said, for the first time, he felt what women go through. Very meat-market-esque. Not a situation I want to be in or would be comfortable around. Which is one of the main reasons why we've never been to an on-premises club. It may not be that way, but in my mind it's exactly like that.

Pepper

[Amanda69]

Wow...how horrible for those two.

hmm or wonderful. It can be turned around to say it was a real ego booster having all those people staring and wanting to be with you.... there are always two perspectives to every tale...

[JustAskJulie]

That is exactly why I stopped trying to swing as a single female. My first couple of experiences after my divorce were pretty much like that... and I'll say it was the bi fem wives who were the worst of it. Sure it's an ego booster initially... but it doesn't take long to realize that it has nothing to do with you, only what you are (a single bi female).

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

it doesn't take long to realize that it has nothing to do with you, only what you are (a single bi female).

This is very insightful. I mean, one of the good things about having a low self-esteem is that I never think anyone wants to play. So, I tend to be pretty relaxed towards folks.

And yet, I have a heck of a lot of luck.

Maybe there is a connection...

When we were all talking, Mrs Spoo and I both were just really interested in who they were. I think they picked up on that. Maybe instead of going "pack dog" on single females, folks who are interested in that should just learn to treat everyone like people - not meat.

Spoomonkey

[SueRic]

This may sound weird but I know exactly how those two must have felt. Awhile back S and I went to the Folsom Street Fair in SF. We had never gone to it and we were curious, and stupid me, I wore a red polo shirt. As I discovered, the color is quite symbolic of my supposed sexual preferences. Whoa. Talk about walking through the gauntlet, indeed. Smartass comments, leering, skull drilling eye contact, the intended-unintended brush against the rear. No subtlety whatsoever. It was all quite extraordinary. Hey, I've been hit on by gay men before--you live in the SF Bay Area and it's going to happen sooner or later--and to me it's no big deal. Kind of flattering and, hey, when was the last time a woman ever offered to give me a handjob on a Golden Gate Transit bus?! I have to tell you though, the FSF was something else.

R

[Tatakai]

Someitmes I think peoples brains shut down and they have no idea of their own behavior. I am sure that if it was the other way around most of them would feel uncomfortable as well. I feel sorry that the young ladies had a bad experience at first but I know in the end you ALL had a good time. lol!!

tatakai

[BradAndJanet]

First of all...you're a lucky stiff and it wasn't even your birthday!

Secondly, it is pretty terrible to hear about the feeding frenzy that developed. Scenes like are what keep those 'unicorns' so rare...

-B

[Roman Hands]

I wished I could be shocked and dismayed by the treatment they received from the predators, but something about your story tells me they were not "really" damsels in distress!

Glad to hear you all had a good time

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Roman Hands

something about your story tells me they were not "really" damsels in distress!

I am sure they didn't "need" us to rescue them. They certainly could have handled themselves. But they were pretty uncomfortable - and Mrs Spoo has a friendly face. I think the moral of the story - in this case - is don't be afraid to be interested in the person, not the meat...

Spoomonkey

[Amanda69]

I did over 2 years as a single female, you either learn how to handle the admirers or you step out of the limelight. Yes there are many who just want a piece because you are single but there are just as many others with different agendas. It didn't take long to weed them out and a reputation to develop.

I had a great time as a single, I was accepted by the couples at the two clubs I attended and the private house parties. The wives especially went out of their way to ensure my comfort and give me " permission" to play with their spouses at times.

I eventually ran into a single male who was worth a lot more than just a bit of fun and am still with him now....

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by SueRic

I wore a red polo shirt. As I discovered, the color is quite symbolic of my supposed sexual preferences.

Guess what color polo shirt I'm wearing right now.

[2jersey]

Wearing white with blue pinstripes.

Translation: The Yankees are playing the Redsox in a few hours.

[Mr. Truelove]

Still in my grimey work shirt...

Oh yeah baby, willing to put work into it!