Important, encouraging experience

[couplewanting50]

We have been going to swing club dances for nearly a year, having gone to about 3/4 of the monthly dances. We had been to the group room and made love together, but had not had any experiences with others.

This last time was a remarkable, happy shift. Upon arrival it seemed like we were long lost friends with quite a few of the regulars. I don't know if we were finally regarded as serious, or what, but that difference was evident during even the first few minutes after arrival.

We had a marvelous time in the group play room, making love together and then having others near us touching her and she spun off with another man almost simultaneous to a woman reaching out and taking my cock in her hand and kissing me; she than started to suck me as my wife was sucking this other man's sock. I have the shivers just now typing this as I think about it.

Certainly none of this is any major deal for those here who are veterans. But for me, and I think us, I had moments over this past year when i wondered if anything would ever happen with anyone. I was, quite frankly, discouraged at times, though I never told her that.

We both look forward to our next club dance and following play in the group room. Our hoped-for play partners have already indicated strong interest in us, so we are optimistic it will be very hot.

I write this mostly to share with those who are new and wondering if anything ever happens. It certainly does. As an aside, the sexual energy in a group like that is incredible and powerful.

There are discussions about which is better, clubs or personal ads, but for us it seems that meeting people in a group atmosphere like a club dance is a really good way to get to know couples.

Speaking as a male, it was very gratifying and very confidence building to have several attractive women want me sexually. I am smiling as I write that we are both very excited about all of this and are very happy we have chosen to explore swinging.

[AZ Dreaming]

Great story!! I am glad to hear of your good experience! Hopefully, you will have many more in the future!

[intuition897]

That is so great, couplewanting50! We always love to hear stories about "firsts". Makes us remember why we all got into this in the first place.

I had a bit of a chuckle when I read this, though:

Originally Posted by couplewanting50

...she than started to suck me as my wife was sucking this other man's sock. I have the shivers just now typing this as I think about it.

I think I get what you meant. The typo is evidence enough of how off-balance these thoughts can make us, but I'm sure you'd get the shivers just the same if it was his sock she was sucking on. lol Forgive me. It was just too cute!

[couplewanting50]

Originally Posted by intuition897

That is so great, couplewanting50! We always love to hear stories about "firsts". Makes us remember why we all got into this in the first place.

I had a bit of a chuckle when I read this, though:


I think I get what you meant. The typo is evidence enough of how off-balance these thoughts can make us, but I'm sure you'd get the shivers just the same if it was his sock she was sucking on. lol Forgive me. It was just too cute!

hahahaha it was his cock..... and he was not wearing socks. hahaha

[Dynamar]

Originally Posted by couplewanting50

hahahaha it was his cock..... and he was not wearing socks. hahaha

Thank goodness! Socks in bed... so not sexy!

[seattlecpl06]

This is great, and encouraging to another newbie.

I find it really interesting that you mention the confidence-building thing. That's something I'm very interested in (I'm often told that I'm very handsome, but I sometimes have a hard time believing it). Has anyone else had this experience of feeling a boost in their self-esteem from the lifestyle?

I know that the official line is that you shouldn't even contemplate it unless you're emotionally perfect (no hangups or insecurity). But given that I don't think ANYONE is THAT solid... I wonder about its psychological benefits; the benefits of letting go of jealousy and insecurity and just enjoying pleasure and trusting your partner.

[couplewanting50]

Originally Posted by intuition897

That is so great, couplewanting50! We always love to hear stories about "firsts". Makes us remember why we all got into this in the first place.

I had a bit of a chuckle when I read this, though:


I think I get what you meant. The typo is evidence enough of how off-balance these thoughts can make us, but I'm sure you'd get the shivers just the same if it was his sock she was sucking on. lol Forgive me. It was just too cute!

I was going to fix my typo, but I realized just now they deny us the opportunity to edit here, which is a feature of vBulletin. The admin control panel can allow or disallow deletion of one's own posts and can do the same for edits. It is problematic to allow deletion, but editing is a good thing. Any other vBulletin forum I have seen allows editing. Hmmmm.

[jennandjamesinm]

Originally Posted by couplewanting50

I was going to fix my typo, but I realized just now they deny us the opportunity to edit here, which is a feature of vBulletin. The admin control panel can allow or disallow deletion of one's own posts and can do the same for edits. It is problematic to allow deletion, but editing is a good thing. Any other vBulletin forum I have seen allows editing. Hmmmm.

I believe that this forum allows you to edit an entry for up to 6 hours. I'm sure that someone will correct me if I am wrong, but there is an option to edit, for a limited amount of time.

Jenn

[HubbyFromNY]

Great post would love to experience that feeling oneday with my wife. There is hope for us who have not jumped in yet.

[Concupiscence]

Originally Posted by seattlecpl06

This is great, and encouraging to another newbie.

I find it really interesting that you mention the confidence-building thing. That's something I'm very interested in (I'm often told that I'm very handsome, but I sometimes have a hard time believing it). Has anyone else had this experience of feeling a boost in their self-esteem from the lifestyle?
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My hubby and I were just discussing that last night. I feel like a completely different woman. I feel as though I am the sexy woman that he constantly describes me as. I also feel as though I am overflowing with sexual energy and am ready to drop trou at any given moment. It's only been a few days but I FEEL more relaxed in public and confident about myself as a woman. I hope this feeling never goes away, I don't think that I have ever felt better about myself in my entire life! It helps that the couple we played with wants us to come over this coming thursday night! facelick

[good times]

Originally Posted by jennandjamesinm

I believe that this forum allows you to edit an entry for up to 6 hours. I'm sure that someone will correct me if I am wrong, but there is an option to edit, for a limited amount of time.

Jenn

I thought it was 30 minutes, but I am not positive on that. As a person who runs several internet forums I think I can answer the question of why their is a limit though. The reason for the limit on editing is that if one was allowed to edit indefinitely they could come back and change the post after others have already responded to it. This has the effect of making the following posts not make any sense. for example, in the case above if the spelling error had been fixed then people reading Intuitions reference to it wouldn't have any idea what she was refering to. The above is a minor example, but it should be pretty obvious that if someone made a post and then some time later decided they didn't like the way it was going, they could come back and edit their original post in a way that made all the following posts make no sense or even sound foolish. That is why most forum administrators will set a time limit on editing posts, usually 15-30 nminutes. Long enough so that if a person hits the post button and then notices some obvious flaws, they can correct them. Short enough that their is a low likely hood that someone will respond to the post before the time limit has expired.

[seattlecpl06]

Originally Posted by Concupiscence

My hubby and I were just discussing that last night. I feel like a completely different woman. I feel as though I am the sexy woman that he constantly describes me as. I also feel as though I am overflowing with sexual energy and am ready to drop trou at any given moment. It's only been a few days but I FEEL more relaxed in public and confident about myself as a woman. I hope this feeling never goes away, I don't think that I have ever felt better about myself in my entire life! It helps that the couple we played with wants us to come over this coming thursday night! facelick

That is absolutely wonderful and encouraging to hear! I'm so happy and excited to hear how well this has worked for you.

[Mike and Jan]

Enjoy it all, my friend. And don't even thinking of trying to hurry it up.

If you hurry on to the next level you won't have the complete pleasures of each new level.

[JP51]

Originally Posted by seattlecpl06

This is great, and encouraging to another newbie.

I find it really interesting that you mention the confidence-building thing. That's something I'm very interested in (I'm often told that I'm very handsome, but I sometimes have a hard time believing it). Has anyone else had this experience of feeling a boost in their self-esteem from the lifestyle?

I know that the official line is that you shouldn't even contemplate it unless you're emotionally perfect (no hangups or insecurity). But given that I don't think ANYONE is THAT solid... I wonder about its psychological benefits; the benefits of letting go of jealousy and insecurity and just enjoying pleasure and trusting your partner.

Heck, confidence building...let me say this, at 51, when any lady tells you your good looking and they want to have sex with you it a confidence builder...when she is in her 30's and tell you that, your superman in your own mind... Our newest swap partners are in their 30's and were virginal to swinging until us. My wife reminds me to not let the "tiny hindee" kill me, and I have to remind her that she seems to attrack a younger cround of men these days...a 20 something tried to pick her up the other day...boy did she have a big head for days...called me on the phone the minute she got cleared... So yes, I think swinging is a great builder of confidence for everyone.