Positive Experience

[EvilMJ]

We tend to read a lot about the negative things that happen to us swinging. So I wanted to tell you about a positive experience that we had.

We went to a dance on Saturday and had a great time. We met a couple, around our age who we both found to be funny, outgoing and attractive to both of us (you gotta love it when that happens). So we ended up hooking up that night and had a wonderful time.

We exchanged e-mails and contacted each other the next day, just to say thanks and we should get together again some time.

Well, last night I was working at home and I finally got my instant messanger (MSN) working as I Had been having problems with it. They came on line and we started to talk. It was great, we had a lot of fun, and the husband felt we were a 'breath of fresh air in a lifestyle that had a lot of people who were all talk." I asked him what he meant, and he said that they had experiences where the couples had a lot of talk but never followed up on it. They liked the fact that we were open, could have a good time, and it wasn't weird and none of us had any issues.

It's a really good feeling when you click with someone and you can tell that they are people that you could easily be friends with, as well as other things.

and to think we almost didn't go to that dance........

[northindycpl]

I like this post! I think it is just like anything else, people enjoy talking/seeking advice on problems. We know from our business, customers only enjoy talking to us when there is a new issue. When everything is great- they just pay their bill and go on.

It is nice to get feedback from others that things are going nicely.

I recently attended a club with a couple we know well by myself. (Mr. Indy had to work and wanted me to go and have fun) We had a great time. I had never been the 3rd with another couple before, so not only did I have a new experience, it was nice to be with them and shower attention on thier Mrs.

It was a blast!

[CB_n_Red]

Great to hear of the times when everything works out just right!

I suspect that on the Board we get accustomed to hearing of the negatives, partly, it must be said, because answering the tricky questions and offfering advice when things go wrong is what we tend to do around here!

I'll add one of ours.

At the beginning of last December we went, with some trepidation, to meet a "threesome", a couple plus a single bloke who played together regularly. We had little expectation of anything developing at all, but thought it couldn't hurt to meet socially.

We found we got on great with the couple, but less so with the single bloke, so we were unsure whether to proceed or bail out. To our surprise, within a week the single was out of the picture and we've been seeing the couple regularly ever since, usually once a week. We all get on really well, both in and out of bed (or wherever else takes our fancy....) and we can all see the relationship lasting a long time. Yes, it really is good when it works out like that

CB

[BiDrywallChick]

that is great to read! too often we dwell on the negative things that happen instead of looking for the positive. I am so glad ya'll had a nice time

[starlinn]

This is a great post for us newbies. Sometimes, when reading about situation help and the others, makes us wonder what we are in for.

Thanks!

[Atilla]

Great post, it's always great to know why we're all still doing this. Obviously if it were all negative, we wouldn't be here, would we.

I think the best thing for us has been meeting the people that we have been meeting. Most of them are via MSN or yahoo but we have met some great people in person. Hubby and I are very social and love meeting people.

[DaveNSheila]

We met a couple that owns an off premises club here in OKC. We went out to play pool with them one night and seems every weekend we get together to go do something. Haven't played with them yet per se' but we all have fun whatever it is we are doing. When the time is right it will happen.

[DBL D]

We also met a couple at a New Years Dance and played with them that night. We've played with them again and there have been no problems. They are as right as rain. No issues that we could see and we have none with them either. Those hits have been few and far between though. They also like to do everything we have ever theought of and that makes it great for Fem D especially.

I love it when she gets as excited about someone as much as I do. Makes me think we belong in the lifestyle. A relaxed feeling takes over and you just feel better about so much when things go right for a change.

Male D

[ranchcouple3]

Thanks EvilMJ for the positive words, I think that's what we all are looking for(least I know we are), and it's great to hear it does happen.

[EvilMJ]

An update....
Glad you guys are enjoyng the post. I think after sooo many threads of all the bad situations, its nice to share something good.

The couple came over for coffee after work last night. It was so much fun, we have very similar personalities so we spent the whole evening joking and laughing. We just seem to click....(it was meant to be just coffee, but you know how things go )

ANyway, we had a blast, plan to go to a party together next weekend. They are really great people and we have so much in common. Its nice when things work out.