A lot of folks mention that they were basically "swinging" before they knew there was a name for it or before they realized that there was an entire community of other people who are interested in the same things. They basically just stumbled upon it. While others stumble upon a site like this or a story or a book and discover it and go from there. So which was it for you?
Were you swinging before you discovered what swinging was?
Or did you learn what swinging was first, then look to swing?
I definately knew I was getting into swinging when I got into it. Lee had been involved in the Lifestyle long before I had ever met him. He presented the concept of swinging to me in a very low pressure and informative way and I agreed to at least check it out.... Turns out I was hooked from the very first time we visited a club
On an amusing side note here.... At least once a month I get contacted by couples I dont know on yahoo that are looking for another couple or single woman to play with. If I try to send them to any local yahoo swingers groups, or even when I try to send them to SwingersBoard so they can get more info...quite often they actually get offended and tell me "we are NOT swingers, we just enjoy sex with other couples occasionally" Go figure!!!!!
Originally posted by JustAskJulie Were you swinging before you discovered what swinging was?
That would be us.
We started playing with others over 20 years ago while living in California. Had no idea it was called swinging, only that it was fun. Moved back to this small town, took a break (about 15 years)then Ted brought home the URL to a web site about a local Swingers social and two weeks later we were there.
We started swinging before we knew anything about the lifestyle. I always thought that "swingers" were something that faded out with the seventies, until a friend turned us on to SLS and I eventually found my way here.
Long, long ago, in my youth , I was involved in a 'swap' with my girfriend-of-the-moment and some friends. This was long before I knew anything about swinging (I was about 20 or so.) Unfortunately, the evening came crashing down when, at the sight of her boyfriend banging my girlfriend, my friend K freaked out and that was that.
Let's see -- my first "swinging" experiences... The first one happened because I was dating two guys at the same time when I was (well I was young) -- they knew each other and decided we should just have a little party... really fun MFM though none of us knew what to do...
Then one of these guys got himself an extra GF too (if I could he could thing) and he brought her over and we had an MFMF MFM FMF FMFM FF... etc...
By this time I realized that I like the attention of more than one person in bed at a time....
I had my first threesome 12 years ago and a couple months after that my husband and I "swapped" partners. I never knew it as anything but swapping, maybe even wife swapping. We continued to have a few of these experiences from threesomes to fivesomes. Five years ago my new husband and I experimented a little with others but it still wasn't swinging. I don't know what I learned the term "swinger" but a year ago when we were looking for play partners the word "swinger" is what I put on the google search. I do like it better that "swapping partners" but I still don't care for it. I don't like "The Lifestyle" either because it's not my lifestyle (except I spend a lot of time on the computer reading/posting about it )
We are new and enterered the "lifestyle" via the computer, so we always knew it as swinging. I like describing our activities as "being naughty" facelick The word "Swinging" still doesn't sound right to me.
We started swinging after we knew what it was, but we really didn't call it "swinging". Mostly we talked about threesomes and what the possibility of our neighbors ever swapping with us. Stuff like that. I don't think we ever said "hey, you wanna' swing?" We started then discovered it had a name. We had never even heard the term "lifestyle" used for swingers.
Isn't this interesting? It seems as though nobody really likes the term 'swinging'. And, we're all here on the swingersboard.
And really the other terms like, lifestyle, wife swapping, open marriage, and others aren't that acceptable to 'swingers' either. Or apparently most 'swingers' anyway.
Reading the posts I think that there are some horny men looking for sex through 'swinging'.
There are some folks looking for bi women through 'swinging'.
There are some people going long with there spouse for the sake of the marriage through 'swinging'.
And there are those who simply want to prove they're daring through 'swinging'.
But these are the folks who make the terms unacceptable to most of us who were just born to be 'swingers'. Those of us who'd just about as soon be celibate as monogamous. Those of us who can enjoy an emotionally monogamous marriage but also enjoy physical pleasures with others and enjoy knowing our partner is doing the same. I really think that there are those of us who really are 'swingers'. But lifestyle? Well, that seems to sound like your whole world revolves around 'swinging' situations, doesn't it? Maybe the under 25 crowd could use 'Swinging Lifestyle' but after that I tend to think that most of us do, and think about, other things too every now and then. LOL!
I, personally, prefer to say that I'm just very open-minded to sex. If you do a Google on 'open minded' you'll get some of the same results as 'lifestyle' and 'swinger'.