How Long Before you Full Swapped?

[ciscosv]

How long was everyone n the lifestyle before going full swing? We talk about it but we are not
that ready yet. The idea turns us on but I am still a little apprehensive. Just wondering what it
was like for everyone else starting out.

[OhioCouple]

I think it would depend on what you consider in the Lifestyle. We spent several years discussing it and fantasizing and countless months researching it. Our first outing though was full swing. We never really thought about soft swing. Perhaps because this is not a first marriage for either of us and we kinda knew what to expect from different partners, the fact that we are older, or the just plain and simple "we had been watching way to much porn!"

The first time though was a pain in the A** (not literally), but there are many apprehensions. Now it is more like a wonderful, fulfilling second nature. :wink:

Lori

[frisson]

We talked about it for about six months before attending our first party. Once we even drove 300 miles to a well-known couples-only nightclub; our F half decided she was not ready so we turned around and drove home.

The idea of taking baby steps did not appeal to us. We decided that if we were not secure enough to consider full swap then we really didn't have any business in the lifestyle yet. It just seemed like playing with fire.

So when we finally did go to a dance, we were ready to party. We did full swap with a couple that night, and a month later we had a great encounter with three other couples, and after thaat we have never looked back.

[CanadianCouple]

We jumped in with both feet the first time out. Turned out to be a very negative experience, but that was a poor choice of partners on our part, rather than the decision itself to full swing.

Dan

[Brian and Jo]

Our first experience was full swing in separate bedrooms. It was a great experience and the rest is history!

[frisson]

Originally posted by Brian and Jo:
Our first experience was full swing in separate bedrooms. It was a great experience and the rest is history

Wow, this took guts (the way we look at it). We could never have played in separate rooms our first time out.

Early in our swinging life we were actually offered this arrangement by two different couples. Both times we declined. We felt plenty secure so long as we were in the same room. But being apart was something we were not ready for.

Too bad, because they were attractive people. These days if the offer came up again from the right couple, we would have no qualms.

Funny how different people can have totally different ideas about what's hard to handle. You two obviously had no problems with being apart. The couples who wanted separate bedrooms wanted to be separate because they (actually, the wife in both cases) felt that she could not handle watching her husband have sex with our F half.

Guess the lesson is that there is no one right way to swing, so long as everybody involved is happy.

[ 07-17-2002, 06:57 PM: Message edited by: frisson ]

[sexypairca]

We spent months researching. Went to 2 off premise clubs just to see what that was like. Screened it seems like hundreds of ads, but I'm sure that is an exageration.

We met a couple and made sure that our first meeting was no strings attached. The second night that we met with them for dinner and drinks and one thing just let to another. We split up into partners. I chose to full swing and hubby was comfortable with soft swing (seperate rooms). We had no regrets and to our surprise no jealousy.

"A" the wife

[Brian and Jo]

In reply to Frisson the reason we played in separate bedrooms on our first swinging experience was that until then sex had always been something we did in private. It never really occured to us that two couples might have sex together in the same room. Yes, I guess we were really naive (spelling?) back then! The other lady and I had spent a few minutes watching our spouses engaging in foreplay and starting to fuck before we went into the other bedroom to get it on together. We all enjoyed listening to the sounds emanating from the other room and decided afterwards that next time we would all be in the same room together. After we found out what we had missed the first time it was all together from then on!

[JustAskJulie]

Our very first experience was a soft-swing experience. Nothing more than same-room sex actually. Our next experience was a threesome with the male half of that same couple, or was it with the female half? I really can't remember...lol. We had seperate 3somes with both but I can't remember which came first.

[CyberMWC]

~In '99 (questioning look @ Julie *lol*), we started our research of the lifestyle for about 3-4 months, before placing our first ad online.
~About 1 1/2 months after that, we met our first couple at a restaurant for dinner and drinks.
~The next night we met them again in a hotel room for our first same room full-swap, and we've never regretted our "first-time" since.

We look forward to what swinging has to offer, adding to our EROTIC moments....* @ Julie*
CyberWife

[CyberMWC]

We've played "separate rooms" before, but only with the couple who we've been playing with for awhile now. We had an overnighter at their place (second-time meeting), things got HOT, and everybody got WET! Other Hubby had to work the next day, so he called it a night after about 4 hours of playtime with them. Well, one thing lead to another with the 3 of us still "chatting" in the livingroom, other Hubby couldn't help hearing all the moaning and groaning going on from our FMF playing, he wanted his wife to join him in bed for part of the "action" too. And while my Hubby was enjoying himself with the other wife, he gave me his "okay" to join her Hubby, as long as it was okay with me...so I drifted off into the bedroom to "tuck" her Hubby in bed.

It was something different that we wanted to experience at that moment, so we did, because we all felt comfortable and safe enough to do so. It was erotic fun, but there was that "something" missing.....Eachother. We haven't done it again since, but we've played with this couple again and again. For me, it's all in the "mood"...

CyberWife

[BedroomAccess]

The first time we were intimate with a couple - we went all the way. I personally don't understand how you can draw a line at a certain point - you're whether doing it or NOT doing it.

Otherwise it's like high school all over again.

[youngswingers]

Well, I have to say that we've been soft swinging for a little while now and we really don't want to change. While many couples soft-swing to wet their feet some of us are quite content with keeping there. Sure this may change some day, but we don't see this as an evolution but rather a different type of participation.

[ 07-20-2002, 07:45 PM: Message edited by: youngswingers ]

[MIbbwcpl]

We've been full swing from the get go. The idea of soft swing, frankly, bores us. We've enjoyed every minute of it and wouldn't change a thing.

[JustAskJulie]

~In '99 (questioning look @ Julie *lol*),

We look forward to what swinging has to offer, adding to our EROTIC moments....* @ Julie*

Why the questioning look at me?