MMF with friend...moving slow, are we taking the right steps to succeed?

[crazy4u]

My husband and I are looking forward to experience my first MMF encounter, but I am not sure we have gone about it the right way.

We went back and forth on whether we wanted a single guy that we met on the internet or a friend. We thought we would be more comfortable with the friend so we approached a friend who has a great attitude towards this stuff. He was really surprised when we talked about it with him and after talking, talking and thinking and some more talking, we all agreed we would take it slow, since our friendship is important to all of us.

Anyways two weeks ago, we went for dinner with him and then some dancing and he and I started to kiss, it was great and he said he was really comfortable. We later all came back to our house and with keeping with taking it slow, we keeped it very light, basically just some kissing. He says he wants to get together again maybe next week but again taking it slow, I don't want to feel like I am pushing myself on him, but I really want this to happen, I want to experience this encounter and now that the carrot has been dangled, the excitment is even more intense. I totally understand his feelings, he is been totally respectful, but I how do I make him understand that is all good, to relax and enjoy? Or did we make the mistake of going to a friend and not a stranger?

Anyways, any advice or comments would be appreciated?

[TNT]

Bringing friends into a swinging situation is always tricky....and most will recommend that you DON'T do it.

However, we have played with friends and had no problems. In fact, the first MFM threesome we had was with a friend...way back before we even knew there was such a thing as swinging.

The way you have described that you are going about it sounds good...you are talking and taking it slow. Your friend is doing his part by not pushing and being respectful.

Keep up the communication with each other, make sure you are all on the same page and know exactly what you're doing...swinging with friends can and does sometimes bring an end to the friendship. The only way to keep this from happening is to be absolutely sure you all can handle it.

If you're at the point that you know the friendship will not be in jeopardy and are just having a hard time getting things to proceed to the bedroom then...I've found that looking at the men and saying something a long the lines of ....Boys, it's play time and shedding my clothes as I make my way to the bed works really good.


Teresa

[crazy4u]

Thanks for the advice...we are talking and communicating, as a group. I have really made that clear to him that any questions or feelings he has to let us know, its the best way for this to work or atleast if the sex doesn't work the friendship still will, and he is expressing his feelings to me so that is great.

But as you can all imagine...I can't wait!!!!! I will be patient though, the anticipation is great.

[SouthBond]

Your first MFM threesome. That will be great. Be sure and put the F between the Ms because that's were you are going to be. You will find that you have never been as wet. Your body will know and provide you with more self lubrication than you have ever had. I suggest that you lay naked on the bed and have your new friend on one side and your husband on the other. Start out slow and let them rub and kiss on you. Maybe have them lick on your nipples at the same time. Take the new guys hand and have him massage your clit. By now the guys should be nice and hard. Get them to position themselves with their cocks up by your face. Then take both cocks in your hands and pull them to your mouth. Give each one oral sex, alternating between the two. Then pull both towards you and put both cocks in your mouth at the same time. That is a great visual for the guys. At this point have your friend bend over and start giving you oral sex while you continue to suck and massage his penis. Have your husband move back and watch. You are now his real live porno movie. He will love it. Let the new guy go with the flow, unless he is hurting you. I would bet that the new guy will cum first but that's OK. When he slows down, then your husband can move in and continue the fun. Unless something really goes bad, you are going to have the best sex of your life. The best part is that you and your husband will desire sex with each other more than you ever have. Be prepared for spending a great deal of time locked together in the hottest passion that you have ever known.

[cuzzeyesaidso]

I just had my first MFM and it was great. My husband set it up as a surprise with a friend of ours. At first i thought it would be best if we did it with somebody that we didn't know but i think i was just nervous. Once he came over we talked for a little while and then went to the room and got busy . I had so much fun and I can't wait to do it again.

[havefuninsun]

Originally Posted by SouthBond

Your first MFM threesome. That will be great. Be sure and put the F between the Ms because that's were you are going to be. You will find that you have never been as wet. Your body will know and provide you with more self lubrication than you have ever had. I suggest that you lay naked on the bed and have your new friend on one side and your husband on the other. Start out slow and let them rub and kiss on you. Maybe have them lick on your nipples at the same time. Take the new guys hand and have him massage your clit. By now the guys should be nice and hard. Get them to position themselves with their cocks up by your face. Then take both cocks in your hands and pull them to your mouth. Give each one oral sex, alternating between the two. Then pull both towards you and put both cocks in your mouth at the same time. That is a great visual for the guys. At this point have your friend bend over and start giving you oral sex while you continue to suck and massage his penis. Have your husband move back and watch. You are now his real live porno movie. He will love it. Let the new guy go with the flow, unless he is hurting you. I would bet that the new guy will cum first but that's OK. When he slows down, then your husband can move in and continue the fun. Unless something really goes bad, you are going to have the best sex of your life. The best part is that you and your husband will desire sex with each other more than you ever have. Be prepared for spending a great deal of time locked together in the hottest passion that you have ever known.

I think I need a cold shower.

Whew!

We're looking for a playmate to experience our first MFM -- we're looking at "strangers" (via Swing Lifestyle -- although I plan to get to know them before this happens) that will satisfy another fantasy of mine -- a young hot stud. Amazing to me how many youngin's think I'm hot. Mr. Fun is pimping me out, and the whole process is just hot as hell.

And they say pimpin' ain't easy.

[lil devil 37]

Originally Posted by crazy4u

My husband and I are looking forward to experience my first MMF encounter, but I am not sure we have gone about it the right way.

We went back and forth on whether we wanted a single guy that we met on the internet or a friend. We thought we would be more comfortable with the friend so we approached a friend who has a great attitude towards this stuff. He was really surprised when we talked about it with him and after talking, talking and thinking and some more talking, we all agreed we would take it slow, since our friendship is important to all of us.

Anyways two weeks ago, we went for dinner with him and then some dancing and he and I started to kiss, it was great and he said he was really comfortable. We later all came back to our house and with keeping with taking it slow, we keeped it very light, basically just some kissing. He says he wants to get together again maybe next week but again taking it slow, I don't want to feel like I am pushing myself on him, but I really want this to happen, I want to experience this encounter and now that the carrot has been dangled, the excitment is even more intense. I totally understand his feelings, he is been totally respectful, but I how do I make him understand that is all good, to relax and enjoy? Or did we make the mistake of going to a friend and not a stranger?

Anyways, any advice or comments would be appreciated?

Hi..I just want to say hi, and as a single guy with twenty years experiance in this matter, I would use the yellow pages cliche "let your fingers do the walking." Just unzip his pants and do it. If he was not ready for it, he would not be there and he would not keep coming back, or he would have already said no-period..I would like to add that if you are ever in San Antonio I would love to meet you..My e-mail is registered..Thanks

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by crazy4u

He says he wants to get together again maybe next week but again taking it slow, I don't want to feel like I am pushing myself on him, but I really want this to happen, I want to experience this encounter and now that the carrot has been dangled, the excitment is even more intense. I totally understand his feelings, he is been totally respectful, but I how do I make him understand that is all good, to relax and enjoy?
Anyways, any advice or comments would be appreciated?

I have a feeling that as the third party, he's waiting for you, the couple, to take charge. Somebody has to take the lead and make the first move, and it doesn't sound like it will be him. This is actually respectful on his part - I have a feeling that he's thinking when you're ready, you'll let him know it's time!

Next time you meet and the kissing commences, you need to make the move. Slide your hand down the front of his pants. Keep kissing him. Open the belt buckle. Keep kissing him. Take it one step at a time. If you're getting nothing but positive go-ahead signals, you're on the right track. I'll bet he's ready for this thing to happen, too! Have fun.

[MrXxotic]

I agree with Tybee. Most of our swinging is MFM and it is always left up to Angel to set the pace and move things along. When she is ready she either strips or begins to manually stimulate the other guy. Once the bridge is crossed everything just seems to fall into place.

[crazy4u]

Thanks for the advice, we have invited him out this saturday night coming, he is suppose to get back to us later this week so I guess we will see if he comes along. I think this weekend will be a good indication as to whether he is truly interested, acutally I know he is interested, but can he get over the friends issue...we'll see if he calls later this week...if he does great but if he doesn't then its not meant to be, the friendship is more important. He might just find this too strange, which is cool. I'll keep you posted!!!

[Edison Carter]

Susan here--In my experience, nothing motivates a man to take things faster than me being naked. TNT's advice is quite accurate.

[crazy4u]

So, last week we went out with our friend and had a blast, no sex though, but lots of flirting, touching and kissing. I think it was a good outing just to be sure everyone is on the same page...and we are!!!

We are meeting up again in a few weeks and this time no holding back. I'm so excited. Anyways, just an update.

[WesternSwing]

Fantastic! I hope it turns out as good as it sounds like it will! Keep us up to date on what happens.

Mr. WS

[arlingtonian]

In my experience, a trusted friend is better than a stranger, especially because the friend can become a fuck partner and not just a one-night stand. It sounds like you are far enough along with him to recognize warning signs; sounds like there aren't any. I think it is very good that you are taking it gradually. Please report back.