Letting others know that you need a vibrator during sex

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by ShellyM

Lots and lots of foreplay. I have found that the quicker we get to the actual penetration the less of an orgasm I have.

Foreplay is sooo important to me. I need time to orgasm and am often worried that I am going to wear the guy out or frustrate him because I would like him to warm me up for 30 minutes of play before expecting me to orgasm. I love having a man use his hand in my vagina! I don't think a lot of men know the value of that for some women. I tell them to use their hand, massage my g-spot, but sometimes they stop waaay too soon. I like to have him slowly add more fingers in the action and have him fill me to the brink. How many fingers he uses will depend on the size of a his hand. Add some oral to that, and other goodies and I'm having my best time.

How patient are you guys? How many of you would spend 30-45 minutes playing before intercourse before expecting your playmate to orgasm. And I will add that the foreplay time includes me giving you head - short of you reaching orgasm, and other luscious things so you get something from me too during the foreplay.

LM

[captainbob]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

How patient are you guys? How many of you would spend 30-45 minutes playing before intercourse before expecting your playmate to orgasm. And I will add that the foreplay time includes me giving you head - short of you reaching orgasm, and other luscious things so you get something from me too during the foreplay.

If you put it like that, 30-45 minutes is no problem!
Heck, give my your address and I'll even drive for a few hours.
The problem is not that I'm impatient, but rather my sweetie is impatient. She doesn't take that long to get warmed up. If I don't put it in, she'll start rummaging around in her toy drawer!

[magnum]

Originally Posted by alphaplaycpl

I need some advice, here, guys...

I am slightly shy about admitting my need to use a vibrator to reach orgasm. I wish with everything that I am that this were not the case. Tried all sorts of methods to overcome this, but nothing has worked.

So, what do I say to a couple we play with? Should I just come out and say it? Do you think I risk them being turned off if I do?

I am opposed to faking it, in the interst of honesty. But, after we have played with a couple a few times, they start to realize that I am not cumming.

What should I do/say?

Thanks!
Mrs. Alpha

I say use the vibrator and let your play friends know that you like to use it. I see nothing wrong with using a vibrator to orgasum, my gf uses one when we have sex, although not every time, I really like it when doing it doggie style, the vibration stimulates me as well.

Magnum

[Concupiscence]

Originally Posted by magnum

... I really like it when doing it doggie style, the vibration stimulates me as well.

Magnum

Magnum,

That's a very good point! Mr.Concupiscent LOOOOOOVES the way it feels when I am using mine.

Oh and Mrs. Alpha I am totally jealous of your Eroscillator. I have wanted one of those for a long time LOL, hmmmm I think I know what I am asking for for Christmas!

[2inVT]

We would by far prefer the other lady to bring and suggest using a vibrator if that's what she needs or wants. While we want to experience pleasure ourselves, it's equally important to us to please our playmates.

I always bring the toybag. We don't always use it, but it's there if we want to.

I rarely orgasm from intercourse alone; there usually has to be clit play for me to cum. A vibrator is good - never leave home without my little pocket rocket - but Mr2 and one or two others can get me there with fingers and mouth.

[Douoble_Down]

Uh, whats the problem here? Break that sucker out! Honesty is always the best policy, and finding out after a guy has been working like mad on you, only to find that you need some other type of stimulation, is the wrong time to find out.

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by ShellyM

By the way, is this as great as I hear it is? I want to buy myself one, and would like some info on it.
Thanks!

Shelly, they are most fun anyone can have without a partner. Or with a partner for that matter.

At our last playdate, she pulled hers out and went to town on me and I thought I was gonna scream! Ok... I did. That was most amazing thing I've ever felt. She had an attachment on it that resembled GONZO from the muppets. In fact, that's what she called it, "GONZO".

Gonzo can go down on me any ole' time!! I'm on the hunt for one myself! Great toy!!