Advice on How to Flirt

[arbbwcouple]

I know this is a dumb Question but my wife can flirt well but myself i cannot flirt to save my life . Instead i just stick to regular conversation ( Ie talking about my life) I wished i could flirt i believe i turn ppl off b/c i cannot flirt . Surrender

[Tortured_Soul]

Originally Posted by arbbwcouple

I know this is a dumb Question but my wife can flirt well but myself i cannot flirt to save my life . Instead i just stick to regular conversation ( Ie talking about my life) I wished i could flirt i believe i turn ppl off b/c i cannot flirt . Surrender

Well if you find the woman attractive, it shouldn't be hard. Start off by saying you like her hair, etc. do NOT start off by saying you want to fuck her....


A line that used to work for me was saying " You remind me of someone.."

and then later on remembering who it was she looked look.... hopefully it'll be easy for you and she looks like Angelina Jolie.

[JP51]

are you serious? if so, then start with the wife you had to flirt to get her attention (so get her to remind you!!), your skills are not gone, maybe a little rusty.... and I am sure you need to relax, small talk is good, just stay away from the normal stuff...politics etc... let your body do some of the flirting, light touches on the arm, back, nosy place? then lean in and whisper in her ear, a great time to let your breath blow on the back of her neck.... EYE CONTACT once more EYE CONTACT!! OH, and the ladies love a man who can DANCE.... I do me really DANCE... a lesson or two to refresh skills will pay in the end...

Did not mean to sound harsh, well I am just confused....

[Amanda69]

Unfortunately flirting is one of those fairly natural skills that one has or one doesn't. It is very hard to tell someone else how to flirt. Though from experience MOST PEOPLE CAN'T FLIRT....

Those who can are able to entrance another by simply looks, glances and subtle touches...it isn't about what they say as much as how they say it.

Wow I love a good flirt....

[arbbwcouple]

Originally Posted by Tortured_Soul

Well if you find the woman attractive, it shouldn't be hard. Start off by saying you like her hair, etc. do NOT start off by saying you want to fuck her....


A line that used to work for me was saying " You remind me of someone.."

and then later on remembering who it was she looked look.... hopefully it'll be easy for you and she looks like Angelina Jolie.

Thanks ill have to try that.

[Lovemates28]

I think there is a lot to be said for non-verbal flirting. Things like making a lot of eye contact (with soft eyes, not staring someone down), friendly smiling, leaning towards the person, finding an excuse to touch briefly. And then when the opportunity allows, inserting a compliment or a suggestive phrase (not too slutty). Avoid things like crossing your arms or looking around the room too much.
And like many other things, practice makes perfect! So try practicing on your wife! Good luck!
Mrs. Lovemates

Mr. Lovemates adds be yourself and don't force anything or seem too artifical.

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by arbbwcouple

I know this is a dumb Question but my wife can flirt well but myself i cannot flirt to save my life . Instead i just stick to regular conversation ( Ie talking about my life) I wished i could flirt i believe i turn ppl off b/c i cannot flirt . Surrender

If you're already living with a woman who's good at it, why not just watch her and she how she does it?

Flirting, in a nutshell, is nothing more than acknowledging another persons sexuality in a way that leaves them feeling good about themselves. It's the ability to create a warm feeling in other people. There are so many elements to it that I won't even start to go into them all here, but there are books available on the subject.

Or, you could ask your wife to tutor you...

What you're asking is not a "dumb question"...in fact, it's a very good one. If I were to name ONE personal trait that was responsible more than any other for people not being successful in the lifestyle, it would not be their age, weight, or intelligence...it would be their inability to flirt.

However you pursue it, it's a skill worth learning.

[blinkey]

Originally Posted by arbbwcouple

I know this is a dumb Question but my wife can flirt well but myself i cannot flirt to save my life . Instead i just stick to regular conversation ( Ie talking about my life) I wished i could flirt i believe i turn ppl off b/c i cannot flirt . Surrender

Have you seen the book called SuperFlirt by Tracey Cox? It applies some body language theory to ward flirting, and shows how to project confidence and be more attractive. Additionally, it shows how to read the subtle signs others may be showing you to indicate their level of attraction (or lack thereof) toward you. It's great to know when to "turn it up a notch" (if so desired) or to know when to "cool it" (to avoid making an embarassing mistake.) Sure, you'll find this information any decent body language book, but unlike most other books, it is, as you can probably guess from the title, focused on applying it toward flirting.

[prettylady]

It is all in the eyes. I am a natural flirt.
Guys and Girls flirt different. I like a coy side ways glance with a cheeky smile. When Dog and I are chatting on the webcam. I can always get him with this look. He just smiles and shakes his head, I know I have him wanting me bad when he does that.
Watch the men who seem comfortable with flirting. Dog doesn't know how he gets me the way he does, but it is the same with him, IT IS ALL IN THE EYES!!!
Hope things work out.
Your friend,
Prettylady
PS don't cross your arms infront of your chest. keep your chest and face looking in her direction. What I mean is turn to her, don't look sideways at her.
Can you picture what I am trying to say?

[Lumina]

Whatever you do, be yourself. Don't try too hard, don't try to be witty if you aren't naturally. Ever see the episode of Friends where Ross tries to flirt with the pizza delivery girl...

Be open, smile, pay attention to her, talk, stand slightly inside her personal space, look her in the eyes, smile some more....

[prettylady]

Once you get the hang of it flirting is SOOOOOO much fun. I flirt with everybody.
Isn't that right gentlemen.
Kinda hard to do over the computer, but I try.
And yes have fun and be yourself.
Your friend
Prettylady

[arbbwcouple]

Thanks all of you its the chat and IM flirting i have trouble with i have been watching my wife and i get turned on and ignoring the conversation she is having with this person. lol

[Freeridersnz]

You may wish to look at this http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html which is a simple Guide to Flirting.

Might even go practice myself....

[arbbwcouple]

Thanks for the link i will check it out.

[2jersey]

Originally Posted by Freeridersnz

You may wish to look at this http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html which is a simple Guide to Flirting.

Might even go practice myself....

This is an excellent guide. Recommended reading! Thanks.