can a marriage really survive swinging? - Page 2

janaandjames · 12-09-2005, 08:27 PM

just a comment on the awkwardness of the first time. the first time we did a mfm, i was so nervous i really didnt likeit at all, but we expected that , so i gave it a few more tries and it worked out fine.

one thing the hubby needs to be prepared for, is for you to be having great orgasms, and how will he react when your screaming with pleasure and its another man on top of you

fortunately for us, my hubby got more horny when that happened

but you never know.

my advice is to take everything very slowly, start out very slow.

i think it does change the dynamic of a marriage, we are closer and our sex is better ... but there is a level of intimacy that is missing now.

jana

**fun4Ds** · 12-10-2005, 06:13 PM

well as as for us we dont play with singles as of yet, but that dosent mean that we cant have mfm or fmf. we talk about that kind of stuff with our friends. it certanly makes things more casual for us, their isnt no see if you can handle this in a bar

.i wouldnt want that.i dont think i would test anything in a singles bar just to see if you can handel it.we dont test the waters so to speak in any vanilla situation

.if you are going to experiance that in a bar at least go to a club where the atmosphere is set.

Andy100 · 12-15-2005, 03:30 AM

Having just exprienced our first MFM after sharing a lot of fantasies toghther the feelings and thoughts are very much in our minds right now , firstly it was not the all out sexual experience we had fantasied only due to nerves , we are long term married 30 yrs plus and this was the first time anyone had played with my wife in a sexual manner it was all too new to take in at once and affected us both , but having said that we now have the "first time" behind us and she is even more loving and more trusting to me than before , she has crossed a sexual threshold where her loyalty to me has been tested and she knows its safe and will be able relax more the next time.

In answer to your question its all about good comunication with your husband and sharing all feelings and yes taking risks , in our case by pushing the boundaries of our steady predictable relationship we have both understood more about ourselves as individuals and our marriage , we have been up to the early hours most nights since then talking , sharing , hugging and loving it has been quite amazing for us both.

I wish you good luck with your decision whatever you decide.

Love Andy xxx

BigDave · 12-31-2005, 10:33 AM

If there are any new developments in your story, I would love to hear about it. Where are you guys at this point? Have you taken any of the advice given you in this forum?

bikerider69 · 01-01-2006, 07:53 AM

I was the M if and MFM with one couple a fews years back. I really believed she loved it and her husband thought it was a real turnon to see me with his wife.... Good luck!

letsplay33 · 01-01-2006, 10:35 AM

If you want to start slow I think that would be the best way for the two of you. Maybe start out with just some foreplay and oral with the other male and see how your husband reacts to that.
If everything goes well then move on and have the time of your life..

Kathy

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12-09-2005, 08:27 PM	#16 (permalink)
janaandjames Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 123 Location: kansas Status: female half of couple Swing Lifestyle Name:janaandjames	Re: undecided horny wife just a comment on the awkwardness of the first time. the first time we did a mfm, i was so nervous i really didnt likeit at all, but we expected that , so i gave it a few more tries and it worked out fine. one thing the hubby needs to be prepared for, is for you to be having great orgasms, and how will he react when your screaming with pleasure and its another man on top of you fortunately for us, my hubby got more horny when that happened but you never know. my advice is to take everything very slowly, start out very slow. i think it does change the dynamic of a marriage, we are closer and our sex is better ... but there is a level of intimacy that is missing now. jana

12-10-2005, 06:13 PM	#17 (permalink)
fun4Ds Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 6,489 Location: Behind door #2 Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:mrmrsfun	Re: undecided horny wife well as as for us we dont play with singles as of yet, but that dosent mean that we cant have mfm or fmf. we talk about that kind of stuff with our friends. it certanly makes things more casual for us, their isnt no see if you can handle this in a bar .i wouldnt want that.i dont think i would test anything in a singles bar just to see if you can handel it.we dont test the waters so to speak in any vanilla situation .if you are going to experiance that in a bar at least go to a club where the atmosphere is set.
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12-15-2005, 03:30 AM	#18 (permalink)
Andy100 Awaiting Email Confirmation Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 7 Location: UK	Re: undecided horny wife Having just exprienced our first MFM after sharing a lot of fantasies toghther the feelings and thoughts are very much in our minds right now , firstly it was not the all out sexual experience we had fantasied only due to nerves , we are long term married 30 yrs plus and this was the first time anyone had played with my wife in a sexual manner it was all too new to take in at once and affected us both , but having said that we now have the "first time" behind us and she is even more loving and more trusting to me than before , she has crossed a sexual threshold where her loyalty to me has been tested and she knows its safe and will be able relax more the next time. In answer to your question its all about good comunication with your husband and sharing all feelings and yes taking risks , in our case by pushing the boundaries of our steady predictable relationship we have both understood more about ourselves as individuals and our marriage , we have been up to the early hours most nights since then talking , sharing , hugging and loving it has been quite amazing for us both. I wish you good luck with your decision whatever you decide. Love Andy xxx

12-31-2005, 10:33 AM	#19 (permalink)
BigDave Here to Stay Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 18 Location: New Jersey	Re: undecided horny wife If there are any new developments in your story, I would love to hear about it. Where are you guys at this point? Have you taken any of the advice given you in this forum?

01-01-2006, 07:53 AM	#20 (permalink)
bikerider69 Active Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 17 Location: New Hampshire Status: Single Male Swing Lifestyle Name:bicyclist	Re: undecided horny wife I was the M if and MFM with one couple a fews years back. I really believed she loved it and her husband thought it was a real turnon to see me with his wife.... Good luck!

01-01-2006, 10:35 AM	#21 (permalink)
letsplay33 Awaiting Email Confirmation Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 24 Location: Ofallon	Re: undecided horny wife If you want to start slow I think that would be the best way for the two of you. Maybe start out with just some foreplay and oral with the other male and see how your husband reacts to that. If everything goes well then move on and have the time of your life.. Kathy

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