Do you ever get used to seeing your partner with someone else?

[lovedoctor]

It gives me that warm wet feeling to think about Mr. Lovedoctor doing another girl while I am being done by her man. I don't think I would like it so much if I couldn't watch. I don't think I'd be good with separate play just yet. Mr. Lovedoctor doesn't know how comfortable he feels with a MFM just yet either, but I could do a FMF just fine. He's just gotta get with the program cuz I found the perfect guy. I'm just biding my time...

[HotMoCpl]

My wife and I have been together for over 15 years now, and I finally got her interested in investigating this lifestyle. She's finally told me that her doing another guy with me sounds interesting, but she just can't see me with another woman. :rollseyes This stems back a few years after she pulled up her roots to move from Missouri to Michigan to be with me.....I wasn't even divorced yet. A girl she worked with told her that she would screw me even before it happened. I guess I'm pretty damn lucky to still be with her and we are so in love with each other. No real advise here, just maybe the difference is we're married. Just don't marry the guy for that reason though. Marry him only if you two really "CLICK".

[nicecpl89511]

I am not used to seeing my S/O with another woman and I hope I never get "used" to it...each time is very exciting for me to watch him with another woman. I agree with Lonesome dove...that hearing Joe with another woman is a major turnon. Joe feels the same way about seeing me with another man/men. A mjor part of swinging for us is seeing our partner being pleased and pleasing others.
Wanda

[My77038]

We have not yet been with another couple. Well not counting the college dorm years. We are still in the talking and plannig stage. I (female) would prefer at first fmf or a couple for soft swing. I have not gotten around to thought a full swap because i really have no desire to be with another man. I do on the other hand want to see my S/O and I pleasure another woman and vice versa. If we could find a couple who wouldnt mind us pleasuring the female half and maybe some non penatrating play with the male that would be great. From what I have read it might be difficult. We will see what happens. We had a long talk to day about or first time out at the club together this coming up weekend (encounter). We are very excited..!! Let you all know how goes next week.


MM

[2BwthUorNot]

Originally Posted by badbaddee

I've been in the lifestyle now for about 2 years. I have a wonderful partner that I live with and swing with. Here's my question - do you ever get used to seeing your partner with someone else? It is not my favorite part of the deal I have to say. To me, its only fair for me to allow him to be with someone else. I have to be kept busy so to speak in order for him to do this. If I am not, I have trouble with it.

Hi all, I don't believe there should be a timeframe to bring issues like this up. The minute you feel uncomfortable with anything, is the time to bring it up. If you feel 2 years from now and long after you have "got used to seeing your partner with someone else", the feeling returns, don't hesitate to discuss it with your partner. There are no rules here. Everyone goes at their own pace. Some of us can share similar experiences and can help other people by answering questions from the less experienced. The feelings the new swingers' experienced today are no different than the ones you had when you just started. Ultimately the feelings we get from swinger situations are similar but they can very greatly on how the feeling affected them. We seldom can control when or how hard a feeling is going to touch us. Understand it IS ok to have the feelings you have. It is also ok to NEVER be comfortable with seeing your partner with someone else. You must decide how important this is to you and discuss it with your partner and agree on a solution that is comfortable to both of you.

OK, Maybe there is just "one" rule for swingers. Rule #1 Don't do anything for anyone that makes you feel uncomfortable**. ** If you EVER become uncomfortable, discuss the issue with your partner. Your partner would want you to be comfortable.

[HornyCouple]

I always look forward to seeing her with another man. In fact that is my biggest reason for playing.