Freaking out about first meeting with couple

[Pinmonkey]

Good luck naughtykitten. I hope things turn out great for all of you.

[NaughtyKitten]

Hi everyone! I lied, I guess, its thursday and I haven't written about our first experience yet and I said I would sunday. Well here goes.......We went to their house. We talked and had a few drinks. They had lit a bunch of candles so it was a nice atmosphere. I was really nervous but after a few drinks I relaxed a bit. Then we got naked and the nerves came back but I was ok after awhile. I had my first full bi experience and it was great! There were some PA issues on their side for him but everything else was great so overall it was a nice time. We exchanged nice emails the next day so we know that they want to meet again sometime. We have also become good friends with them so aside from the "play" we will still stay in touch with them. That is the best thing, to have friends in the lifestyle. (especially ones that are close to home and we can meet for drinks and good converstion) A good, if not great, experience. And.... we have a lot of new prospects from the Swing Lifestyle ad. We've been talking to a few couples and some single guys. Our little one will be staying with his grandparents for 3 weeks in July so we can have lots of fun! Thanks for the encouragement.

[Pinmonkey]

Glad it turned out so well! Sounds like you dipped your toe in the water and then jumped right into the deep end of the pool. lol

[wolfnblu]

what are "PA" issues? sorry

[Sweet_Candy]

Ditto! Dito My question as well.

Sweet

[SBcpl]

Originally Posted by wolfnblu

what are "PA" issues? sorry

PA = Performance Anxiety

~ B ~

[texasswing29]

Thank you SOOOO much for speaking about the female issues and how everything still went well. Same thing is happening to me right now and I almost made my husband cancel our club night with a great couple planned for this weekend! You gave me the courage to get over it and have fun! Thank you!!!!

[NaughtyKitten]

Originally Posted by texasswing29

Thank you SOOOO much for speaking about the female issues and how everything still went well. Same thing is happening to me right now and I almost made my husband cancel our club night with a great couple planned for this weekend! You gave me the courage to get over it and have fun! Thank you!!!!

You're welcome. I was mortified but it was fine. Just be upfront about it. She had the same problem the next weekend and we still met. We didn't get to "play" until our 4th date. It was kinda neat though. We got to flirt a lot and get to know each other on those first threee dates. Our second date was a "makout party" like when we were teenagers. Just making out on the couch, topless but nothing below the belt. We have become good friends and I think that will last a long time. Awesome couple that we have a lot in common with. Good luck with your club night. I hope you have a great time, even with your issues.

[Atilla]

Glad to hear it's gone wonderfully for you. The first experience should be the best one. We're still rather smitten with our first couple, they are our favorites. I think it helps when everyone is understanding and patient, knowing that it will happen at some point in time. That was our first couple to a T, I was pregnant in my 8th month when we met them for a meet and greet but it wasn't until after I was recovered from baby that we went "full monty" as you say.

As for nerves, you may or may not get over them. We don't have a problem with nerves anymore but a couple I know who have been into it for 8 years, still get nervous (which blows me away literally).

We are going to be doing a club on a visit to Calgary this summer and I'm sure I'll be nervous for that since it'll be another first for us. I think the "firsts" are always a little nerve racking.

[NaughtyKitten]

I was looking for another place to post this, adding it to another thread or just adding it to the first part of this one but decided it would best stand alone. I felt bad for Intuition when I read her first MFM post with the very rude, unapologetic, late single male. How horrible and on your anniversary too! Well here is our story of our first MFM. Its long so hang in there with me. It all started with First Meeting from Swing Lifestyle ad.

A few days after we had started talking to the first couple we met, we got an email from a single guy. He had been out at a bar talking with them and we came up in conversation. They had said they were talking to a new couple on Swing Lifestyle and he asked if it was us, he had seen our profile also, and liked it. So on our third date with this couple, female issues on her side so we weren't going to play, we all agreed to invite this single guy so we could meet him. A single female swinger friend of theirs showed up at the bar also so we have 6 swingers at the table. What fun! We all had a blast!

Anyway, we kept talking with this guy through IM and struck up a nice friendship with him, he and hubby have some things in common so they like to talk to each other, its not all about getting me into bed. Well, last friday we were trying to get a babysitter so we could go out, even if it was just the two of us. We mentioned it to our single guy friend but he thought he had plans that night. During that week we met another couple that wanted to go out for drinks, just to meet and see if there was any interest. So we agreed to meet them early for drinks. During our meeting, the single guy called and said his plans fell through and he would be available if we wanted to go out. We did. So after our meeting with the couple we ran home and changed in to appropriate clothes for a dance club, and I did a quick shave just in case. That would prove to be a very good decision!

We got to the club first. Had a couple of drinks while we waited for him. When he got there the conversation was great. We talked, flirted, touched, kissed at the table and when I was sufficiantly tipsy we went out to the dance floor and put on quite the show! I was soooo naughty dancing with my 2 dates. I think some of the other girls were mad that I was hogging 2 men. It was a blast! We went back to the table and were very naughty there but not for very long. I leaned over and asked him if he had enough of the bar and wanted to go out to our van? (we had talked about the van many times and he liked the idea of a naughty van "ride")

So we left the bar and headed to the van for some fun. We had to move from the parking lot to a "safer" place. Hubby had a very clever idea. He parked in a small used car lot down the street! And there we had our first MFM in the back of the van! I was so fun! I loved the spontanaity of the whole night. We didn't plan it out, it just all fell into place. No nerves, no reservations, no jealousy on hubby's part, just a really fun night for all of us. facelick

[jennandjamesinm]

I'm glad that your first MFM went well!!!

Jenn

[Pinmonkey]

Sounds like a great time. Congratulations.

[sir_dragonfire]

wow I'm glad it ended up being a good experience! Glad the green eyed jealous Monster did not raise from the ugly pond! It has no place in swinging, if it raises it's never a good thing.