If I weren't a swinging wife

[mrs good times]

I was preparing for our night out and I grabbed a white shirt for Mr. wear. As I was ironing it I saw lipstick all over the front that wasn't my shade. Now if I wasn't a swinging wife I would have been pissed. Instead I was able to laugh and remember what a good time we had the last time he wore that shirt.

Tell me what experiences you have had that would have upset you if you weren't a swinging wife or husband.

[JustAskJulie]

Now this could lead to some funny stories..... like the panties I once found under our bed that I knew were too big to fit me......

[wrnakedru]

I discontinued wearing panties twenty-some years ago despite having many lovely "matched sets" of bras and panties.

Reason? Welp, couldn't help but notice every pair I put on suddenly was hugely stretched out of shape and weren't fitting well any more. Finally discovered that my ex had developed a fondness for wearing them himself. He liked the way they felt on him. And it gave him a thrill all day to have the "fear factor" of discovery by others.

I suggested that we should buy him some in a more appropriate size as he DID outweigh me about 1 and 1/2 to 1. He nixed the idea, saying it "just wouldn't be the same" for him.

I finally gave up on the panties since they just didn't fit me any more. I tried moving them to his underwear drawer so we could both acknowledge they were now his, but that TOO lessened his fun. They had to be stored in my underwear drawer since that was part of it for him.

But from that point on, they were HIS. And I've never spent money for them again, even after I divorced him. Surrender

I tried giving him the panties as part of our divorce settlement.

WR

[biblonde]

Waking up the next morning and seeing scratch marks on his back...The smell of another womans perfume(since i dont wear any). I just tell him..mmmm you smell good.lol. Or ohhhh she musta had fun with you!! lol I always try to be extra careful with my nails so i tend to not leave marks very often. I know someone has found a bra that didnt belong to them since one of mine has turned up missing and not sure where i wore it last..lol He laughed about that one! Which wouldnt have gone over to well if we werent into swinging since it was one of my sexy ones and not my everyday one.

[JustAskJulie]

That reminds me of our trip to New Orleans a few years ago and my waking up and asking "Where are my panties?" His answer: " I don't know you took them off the club and handed them to some guy."

[intuition897]

**bump**

A couple of incidents where (very attractive) other women have tried to get into Mr. intuition's pants, even though they knew he was married. If our relationship hadn't been what it was then, it could've been potentially traumatic for me. I remember a time when I felt threatened by a porn magazine. *shudder*

But now, I can just laugh about it, knowing that any attempt a woman might make to drive a wedge between my husband and me is just going to get her a shitload of disrespect. I swear, you'd have to be sporting a week's worth of sweat, grime, and dental plaque to turn me off more than this would.

God it's good to be a swinger...

[GotBatteries?]

I reached in his glove box and found a few condoms.

I think if we weren't swinging, the conversation would have had more tears than laughter and high fives.

[The Fuse]

This is probably obvious, but if I weren't a swinging wife, then I wouldn't like it so much when Mr. Fuse talks about how so-and-so gets a predatory look on her face when she looks at him. Oh, and finding a hickey on his neck might have bothered me...

[bear_and_babe]

If I weren't a swinger wife it might bother me when Bear and I are out and he looks at other women and makes coments on how she looks or her smile/eyes/hair. Now I look and make coments too!

[blondie77]

If I weren't a swinging wife, I would be very upset to find my husband had bought condoms, since we don't use them with each other. But since I am a swinging wife, we buy them together, even taking time to pick out the "best" kind...whether it be ribbed for "her" pleasure, or colored ones, flavored ones, etc. I get a little giggle every time he gets that panicked look on his face and shouts, "shit! We're out of condmos!" Haha.

[CB_n_Red]

Originally Posted by blondie77

I get a little giggle every time he gets that panicked look on his face and shouts, "shit! We're out of condmos!" Haha.

We nearly had one of those moments on Saturday..... Then it was a case of going through all the drawers and managing to find some. What a relief!

And no, we don't use them between ourselves either.

Yup. It's good to be a swinger.

CB

[sereneiders]

I could say "well... actually watching my wife getting pounded by another guy in front of my face", but I guess this isn't what you meant

[2jersey]

If I weren't a swinging wife: I might have decked the woman who suddenly grabbed his crotch at a (vanilla) bar on Friday night. The woman's husband wasn't pleased, I though it was cute...

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by 2jersey

If I weren't a swinging wife: I might have decked the woman who suddenly grabbed his crotch at a (vanilla) bar on Friday night. The woman's husband wasn't pleased, I though it was cute...

Did the woman at the vanilla bar have at least an implied invitation from Mr. 2jersey? If someone grabbed Mr. Fuse's crotch without his permission (and mine, at least implied), I'd call that very rude at best, assault at worst -- same as if someone grabbed my crotch without some kind of an invitation. In a swinging situation like a club, outside a group play setting, this might be excused with a warning... it depends.

[2jersey]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

Did the woman at the vanilla bar have at least an implied invitation from Mr. 2jersey? If someone grabbed Mr. Fuse's crotch without his permission (and mine, at least implied), I'd call that very rude at best, assault at worst -- same as if someone grabbed my crotch without some kind of an invitation. In a swinging situation like a club, outside a group play setting, this might be excused with a warning... it depends.

A stranger would not have been welcome to grab away (it is doubtful that one would ever try ). We are friendly with this particular couple - the woman is extremely outgoing and sensual and her flirtations are harmless fun. The husband appears embarrassed at times - but he doesn't get upset, he just rolls his eyes...

Swinging has actually brought us closer together with some of the more free spirited people in our vanilla lives. One can only take so much of Junior Leaguers playing backyard croquet in plaid shorts (uggh!).