njbm 2,728 Posted June 9, 2014 We've had our experiences at clubs and resorts and our hotel rooms there. Does it feel odd to play with another couple in your marital bed? Note: We are somewhat newbies/rookies. Quote Share this post Link to post
SAMnTINA 362 Posted June 9, 2014 Yep that's why we added mirrors and 4 poster king size bed> Now only if they made a king bed with flip up extensions like those restaurant tables that would be great. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
GoldCoCouple 4,011 Posted June 9, 2014 No, but mostly that's because we have a guest bedroom that we use and the other couple we mainly see have that as a boundary. I don't think it would be a problem either way, but since we have that other bedroom (and, of course, the dungeon...lol) it's just not an issue we have needed to address. Quote Share this post Link to post
wpamale 15 Posted June 9, 2014 We have no such boundaries, the "martial" bed to us is just a bed. Quote Share this post Link to post
cplnuswing 4,711 Posted June 9, 2014 I think we maybe asked that exact question here ourselves at one time. Our first entertaining at home experience we didn't use the bedroom, that was kind of planned, kind of not. Things got kicked off in another room and just stayed there. We probably wouldn't have said no if they had suggested taking it to the bedroom, but we weren't going to suggest it ourselves and honestly where we were at was plenty comfy so not like there would have been much difference. Since then, we have played in the bedroom, don't even give it a thought anymore really. It's just one of those unique to swinging things that seems like it would be a big deal, but then when you actually do it, you wonder why you ever thought it was a big deal to start with. Quote Share this post Link to post
asncpl 726 Posted June 9, 2014 We have played in our own bed and never give it much thought. I know playmates who won't do it and I respect their boundaries but it's one of those things we don't much care one way or another. Quote Share this post Link to post
Gordo 617 Posted June 9, 2014 I thought it would be a big deal at first but after doing it no biggie. As someone else said it's just a bed. Quote Share this post Link to post
two4youinswva 3,067 Posted June 9, 2014 We've used the home field advantage many times. Quote Share this post Link to post
81lizard69 469 Posted June 9, 2014 We have used our room before and other's bedrooms... but we really don't care where we play and long as we all have fun and don't bring home bed bugs. Quote Share this post Link to post
divenaked 318 Posted June 10, 2014 I added tie down points to our bed 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
ViSexual 1,006 Posted June 10, 2014 I never really thought about it before but all of our experiences were in our own home. And, two of them were in our own bedroom. Our first time was in our bed, all four of us, and the other time in our bed we took turns taking the other spouses back to our bedroom. I guess it was no big deal because we never gave it a thought. Quote Share this post Link to post
junglecouple 127 Posted June 10, 2014 of course we use our bedroom, that's where all the toys, lube, accessories, and silk straps are.. Quote Share this post Link to post
Guest Posted June 11, 2014 Our "rule" if you will is to never bring someone home unless we know them well. In reality, we have only done it once and that was with a friend we had known for several years. It was a male friend of mine, Frank, who we had taken out for drinks for his birthday. Frank and I had been friends for years and he became friends with my hubby when hubby and I first started dating. During birthday drinks, we decided to bring Frank home with us, hot tub a while, and then I would give Frank a birthday present which was code for a blow job. It raised our relationship to a whole new level, we became the three musketeers until Frank had to move away. Quote Share this post Link to post
JandKinBoise 851 Posted June 11, 2014 I guess 'marital bed' has different meaning for different folks. J and I find it way more comfortable and sexy to be in our bed. Maybe since we have elderly family living here, sleeping right next to our bedroom and we can rarely play here, it may make it more interesting. Quote Share this post Link to post
M&S 265 Posted June 11, 2014 We've never even fought about it. We have always been fine with playing in our own bed; I guess we don't really think about it as a 'marital bed' Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,140 Posted June 16, 2014 Hi, long-lost Petra here. Yes, we swing with others in our own bedroom and in our own king size bed. One of the earliest hot things for me was when I came home and found Goldilocks (that would be Clair) and hubby in the marital bed. What an unexpected surprise! (Actually, it wasn't a surprise, but it was still hot and I joined them.) Also early on it was kind of cool and sexy to be screwing my boyfriend in the same bed, in the same spot where my husband and I have sex. As you may have guessed, we sometimes play alone. Since then there have been others in that bed, but always with either me or hubby. No swinging unless we're there! Quote Share this post Link to post
LFM2 1,481 Posted June 18, 2014 we have played in our own bed and never give it much thought. I know playmates who won't do it and I respect their boundaries but it's one of those things we don't much care one way or another. ^^^ This is us. Quote Share this post Link to post
Ebonylehigh 254 Posted June 25, 2014 We just did this last weekend lol, it's not something that can happen often because we have a small child and babysitters usually come here. But my mom took him for the weekend and that left the house free! Had no issues with getting down in the bed, that's what it is there for. Now we need a king size. Quote Share this post Link to post
sunbuckus 3,565 Posted June 25, 2014 we have played in our own bed and never give it much thought. This was exactly how it was for us. We never even thought about how the physical marital bed "equaled" the emotional marital bed. In fact, the two aren't equal for us. Violating the "marital bed" are more in terms of cheating or engaging in a deep emotional connection with someone else when that same connection is decreasing or missing with the one you are married to. Quote Share this post Link to post
oc1234 430 Posted June 25, 2014 We haven't played that much over the years, but when we do it has usually been in our bedroom. We have played only with people who are already friends or friends of friends, so our playmates have already been to our house. Quote Share this post Link to post
M1F2KTJ 470 Posted June 27, 2014 We've had many good experiences at home in our bedroom. Quote Share this post Link to post
Sirramm 111 Posted June 28, 2014 We have only ever invited one single male and two other couples into the personal space of our bedroom and with the exception of those few individuals don't really have any plans to host anyone else there. It sort of takes away "our" space and "our" time together. Oddly having another couple join us in our bed wasn't as odd after events as is was with the single male. Not so much for me, the hubby, but for the wife...she kept having flash backs of him in our 'space' and craving it! LOL Quote Share this post Link to post
Greg & Sheryl 368 Posted July 16, 2014 We regard it as a privilege to share our bed with others. Quote Share this post Link to post
Guest Ready2dewit Posted July 18, 2014 A few of the couples I've met have a play/spare bed available, and use that for fun. Seems to work pretty well, have the comfort of playing at home, but not in their bedroom with pics of family, etc. all over. Quote Share this post Link to post
willyoats 324 Posted October 3, 2014 WE have used our bedroom several times and never give it second thought that there is anything special about "our" bedroom. I note that when we go to other couples' homes, I am usually invited into the master bedroom with the lady of the house while my wife goes with the man to another bedroom. Only once do I remember that my wife got the master suite while I had fun in another room (which incidentally was the guest room where my wife and I slept the rest of the night after the swap fun was over. Quote Share this post Link to post
danjan 33 Posted October 4, 2014 We have always used our bed, the couch, back seat... Quote Share this post Link to post
BiCaliGirl777 48 Posted October 5, 2014 If I'm going to swing, it's always going to be someplace other than my bedroom. I live a private life and the last thing I need is roommates and neighbors watching who comes in and out of my bedroom. Also since I'm new to this, I really don't trust bringing a total stranger to my house. Quote Share this post Link to post
intuition897 2,177 Posted October 5, 2014 I figure if it's wrong enough that we don't want to do it in our own bed, we probably shouldn't be doing it. This is part of our sex life, so yeah! guests are welcome in our bed! We actually almost killed the dog one night when one of the bolts finally got jostled loose and the bed collapsed. The dog came scooting out from under the bed pretty fast. Poor fella. That poor old dog had seen some shit in his day, LOL. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post
miacpl30 18 Posted October 5, 2014 We don't play at home. Luckily there are great hotels by airport that are clean, new, and adult-themed for all kinds of fun if we are in town. Quote Share this post Link to post
bbarnsworth 2,536 Posted October 5, 2014 We have played at home, but it has never been with someone we're meeting for the first play date. The 'marital bed' concept is really kinda like the 'no kissing' rule some couples have. To us, it seems out of place and wrong. Our bed is our bed, our marriage is our marriage. A bed is a thing. Our marriage isn't a 'thing', and isn't enhanced by a specific bed/bedroom. I understand why some people would feel the marital be is off limits, but it seems odd; you're letting your spouse have sex with someone else...as "territory" goes, arguably the most sacrosanct aspect of the marriage. The bed where it happens seems a distant, distant 1000th place to that. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
CandyCane 33 Posted October 5, 2014 We have never played in our home... When we get the chance to get out to a club, we always get a room near by. Quote Share this post Link to post
angelkin 1,326 Posted October 6, 2014 When my ex and I were swinging, we played in our room early on and I regretted it. Not because it was a symbol of our marriage, but because the images of play were burned in my mind. After that one instance, it was a long time before we did it again. Quote Share this post Link to post