Swinging makes you hornier?

[Fours Company 169]

Something I've noticed lately. Almost every time we play with a couple, my sex drive is in high gear not just during, but for an extended time afterwards.

 

While this may not seem that significant to someone else, especially a younger man, I've long faced the reality that things naturally slow as the result of advancing through life. I have no idea my T-levels, but I do know by the mid-40's they are not the same as before and under normal circumstances I may think about sex daily, yet do not actually need to engage in it more then 2-3 days in between and in fact may not have the overwhelming desire.

 

Yet, sometimes after having played with another couple, the wife and myself, with the experience fresh, usually feel the need to have sex with each other either the same night once we get home or the next morning. If that wasn't enough for me, I sometimes get the inclination to masturbate later on that same day as well. Bear in mind this is all within a 24 hour period which I said when I was half my age getting off 3 times a day would not have seemed like such the impressive feat I feel it is today.

 

So have any other men (presumably older) experienced this and do you think the swinging results in it? Though I realize it is likely mental in that the post memories and experience are driving my libido, but might there not also be a medical explanation? Maybe sex with different partners increase one's T-levels for a short time afterwards somehow?

 

Since I usually have no desire for repeat sex so soon after vanilla sex or masturbation it must be resulting from swinging and thus could be considered an unexpected benefit.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,019]

Something I've noticed lately. Almost every time we play with a couple, my sex drive is in high gear not just during, but for an extended time afterwards. . .

 

I experience this almost every time I am at a house party or a club party. For me, it's the thrill of the hunt. Leaves me exhausted and disinterested in sex the next day.

[VegasLee 1,486]

I am old. Just let me have a nap and I am ready to go again.

[sunbuckus 3,565]

Yet, sometimes after having played with another couple, the wife and myself, with the experience fresh, usually feel the need to have sex with each other either the same night once we get home or the next morning. If that wasn't enough for me, I sometimes get the inclination to masturbate later on that same day as well.

 

I find this is the same for Mr. Sun as well. We usually go at it again when we get home and again the morning after. Depending on our energy levels the following night, perhaps then as well.

 

So have any other men (presumably older) experienced this and do you think the swinging results in it? Though I realize it is likely mental in that the post memories and experience are driving my libido, but might there not also be a medical explanation? Maybe sex with different partners increase one's T-levels for a short time afterwards somehow?

 

Perhaps the increased libido has something to do with the whole sperm competition theory?

 

Since I usually have no desire for repeat sex so soon after vanilla sex or masturbation it must be resulting from swinging and thus could be considered an unexpected benefit.

 

As a woman, I'm usually ready for a second (or third or...) round so any added rounds sound good to me.

[Fours Company 169]

Perhaps the increased libido has something to do with the whole sperm competition theory?

 

I had thought about that as I know the theory's been used here before to explain MFM or cuckolding. That would of course make the drive more a mental thing brought on by swinging.

 

The only thing I would doubt it could be sperm competition for myself however is the fact that due to the successful skill of a Urologist many years ago, I have no sperm to offer .

[SW_PA_Couple 4,019]

The only thing I would doubt it could be sperm competition for myself however is the fact that due to the successful skill of a Urologist many years ago, I have no sperm to offer .

The sperm do not make you compete. It's the way your male brain is wired. Sperm or no sperm, you brain is going to want to deliver it.

[81lizard69 469]

The sperm do not make you compete. It's the way your male brain is wired. Sperm or no sperm, you brain is going to want to deliver it.

 

I am a sperm delivery specialist.

[Tahoecple 318]

I’ve always thought that was the normal reaction to this whole thing. I know I love to watch the wife playing with others and afterwards cannot wait to play with her. In fact I’ve always found that the biggest attraction to this kind of play, the reaction we have toward each other afterwards.

[JandKinBoise 851]

I agree with Tahoecpl. My reason for desiring group sex has evolved due to this. I used to really look forward to the sex with different partners and that was the focus. Then I realized how the sex J and I had before meeting someone and especially after meeting someone was so much better than usual. Now I am noticing that the quality of the group sex also has an effect on our time alone. Not every meeting knocks it out of the park. But when the sparks fly, the next few days can be amazing.

[GoldCoCouple 4,007]

We've noticed this almost from the beginning. I think it has something to do with seeing someone else attracted to your partner. It reminds us about how we felt when we were starting. Also, reflecting back on the event is usually (for us) hotter than the event itself. Finally, the fact that we 'allow' each other the freedom and the trust to even DO something like this brings some gasoline to the afterglow too.

 

Bottom line, doesn't matter why it happens but we sure love that it happens

[Fours Company 169]

The sperm do not make you compete. It's the way your male brain is wired. Sperm or no sperm, you brain is going to want to deliver it.

 

I agree that regardless of the presence of swimmers or not, the evolutionary drive is still there to ejaculate in as many woman as possible, especially one's own mate after they've had sex with someone else. However that still does not explain the need to masturbate afterwards as well unless there is also a biological program that calls for impregnating tissues .

[sunbuckus 3,565]

I agree that regardless of the presence of swimmers or not, the evolutionary drive is still there to ejaculate in as many woman as possible, especially one's own mate after they've had sex with someone else. However that still does not explain the need to masturbate afterwards as well unless there is also a biological program that calls for impregnating tissues .

 

Well, it could be that you still want to "claim" your partner again but the opportunity isn't there so you have to apply self love or your mind is excited with new mental material to masturbate to.

[gsu22 183]

I've had that claiming feeling before along with wanting to be the 2nd load aka sloppy second

 

But yeah I'm always Hornier when I've been swinging. New partner/new smells/tastes/touches + thrill of the hunt + being watched = exploding orgasm

[M1F2KTJ 470]

I always feel "refreshed" after having sex with someone new if it was a good experience for me and the playmate. I gives me a feeling of confidence that I can please other women and not just my wife. It makes me horny for my wife.

[kellimc 214]

Swinging definitely makes me hornier. Usually when I come home after a party I'm still on the swinging high and need more. Usually I will just go to my box of toys until my high subsides but I have done the very late night/early morning booty calls after coming home from a party. At the very least I have gone online to my swinger sites to look for a party the next night.

[JustAskJulie 2,588]

I've always found sex makes me hornier.

[81lizard69 469]

Wifey here. Nothing does more for my libido than swinging. Even better if it is a club or house party. It turns me on for at least the next 48 hours.

[LFM2 1,481]

I'm with Julie. Sex itself makes me horny. Swinging, in and of itself doesn't really raise the libido.

 

The less I have sex, the less I want it... Rev my engine and we have sex, the more I want it.

[Sirramm 111]

We both find that swinging definitely makes us hornier and more excited throughout the week, we generally play only on the weekends. Usually by mid-week we are both so amped up that we damn near rip each other apart! Swinging has most definitely helped us!!!!!

[DnM69 70]

Definitely makes us hornier. After our last club visit we both wanted it when we got back to our hotel room at 3 a.m. then again at 7:30 a.m. when I had to get up. Normally I can't perform when I am really tired, swinging fixes that for at least 48 hours.

[gr8blue77 15]

After having sex with another woman I feel semi-hard for a few days. I have had to masturbate to relieve the feeling. I think this is a normal feeling after great sex.

[willyoats 324]

Absolutely!! When we used to go to a club, I would have sex with my wife once and another woman once (usually) but always with my wife again when we got home.

 

I remember the first experience we ever had in swinging. It was with a VERY experienced couple. I noticed, to my great surprise, that when the four of us got into their hot tub after swapping, the other woman was all over her husband. I get the same kind of feeling after my wife has another guy. She is then overwhelmingly attractive to me, and I can hardly wait to get into her.