Who does the work when it comes to swinging?

[JustAskJulie]

Another carry-over from tonight's live chat.

When it comes to swinging, who is in control? Is it the guy or the woman and why?

Who posts the ads?

Who answers the ads?

Who sets up the meetings?

[thump29]

Well I dont know about everybody else but we make all the decisions together. We have setup meetings and everything, we feel that it is both of our responsibility not just one or the other.

[JanetAndBrad]

Right now Brad is making the intial contact, tho he keeps me posted as to what he's doing. He runs the ad and does most of the weeding out of intial e mails after reading profiles ect. He then asks for my input on those he is considering on corresponding with or setting up a possible meeting or phone conservation. We then make a joint decision on what we should do from there.

Janet

[RnLinohio]

Right now i do nost of the work, but larry is right there knowing what i am doing and if he isn't right there, i let him know as soon as it is taken care of.



Robin

[BBgurl]

Me...
I get stuck with all of the labor!

[Ashley]

L initiates.....I finalize.

[OhioCouple]

My hubby does the surfing, I post the ads (only because I can type quicker) but we do it together.

We never respond or send out mail to someone that we haven't known for a time without the other being right there to add input and even for those that we have grown to know, we make sure to let the other know or print it out to be read.

Meetings are always set up by the two of us, regardless of how well we know them.

[Bob123]

The woman is of course. without her the man couldn't swing

[Paul&Audrey]

I do all the work, she reaps the rewards...
HEY!!! I quit my last job for the same shit!!!! LOL

Seriously, she has told me to find a gal for us...once I find a potential partner, she meets em,goes through her approval process, and things proceed from there facelick ...or not ()() ....

~~bare~~

[wrnakedru]

For all the online stuff, it's almost always me (the female) at the keyboard. He's usually by my side, or nearby. Either one of us may read a received email but responses are discussed together and agreed on. There is NO "taking one for the team" on this team.
While we certainly have equal "veto" rights, he has always felt that the women have to be the decision makers for the best results.
Guess maybe it goes back to our dating days, way before even a thought of swinging was part of the picture. We were at a club, enjoy the "crowd watching" and talking. Viewing those who were "making their play".
Came to the conclusion that all women have E.S.P.
After all, they are the ones who KNOW who's gonna get lucky, and who isn't!

[ga_cpl_frknit]

When it comes to the online thing, I think we both have equal "control". Although I do believe Stacey searches more than I do.

As far as posting ads, Stacey puts ideas out and we mutually agree on what we are looking for, but I am the one who does the actual posting. I am in the process of redoing our ad on Swing Lifestyle. I'm not happy with the way it looks right now(although we seem to be getting alot of replies to it recently.)

We both answer the ads....we will read the profile of that person, read the e-mail we get from them and, depending on the situation (whether we are initially interested or not, etc.) we both come up with a reply together.

As for setting up meetings, well, we're still in the process of that. The 2 experiences we've had have been spontaneous occurances. But I think that the meetings are being left up to me...so long as I take into account his days off, he's up for meeting anywhere.

~Tracy

[cined]

as for us i the wife usually does all the work involved i always ask for his imput though he is shy and not good with words and i am outgoing and have a pretty good judge of character so he trust my instincts on these matters

[fun_pairTX]

He is self employed and even though he is busy with his company and his band he does not need to leave the house to make money. I on the other hand, commute 25 miles each way and am stuck in the middle management, (long hours), rut at the moment. I usually make the confirming phone call before we meet anyone though.

Mrs. Fun

[roadkingklp]

The man makes the initiation, ads, and usually the intro's.
But as we all know the woman has the most physical fun, especially if she is into groups or Gang Bangs. The man should be her confidant, coach, participant, do the filming, and be her biggest cheerleader. Afterall she not only does it for her satisfaction, but also for his enjoyment.
Case in point: if any of you ever heard of, met, or made it with Carolyn Tucker fron VA. you know how much the woman controls. She was known for her aggressiveness and being into Cocks and Pussy, She is best known for her love of Large Gang Bangs preferrably Blackmen. She was known to arrange many of her own parties at her Condo in Alex., she would not only invite, but choreograph her men, as to how she wanted them to do her, but usually one at a time was not to her real liking, so she most times did Double and Triple Penetrations. She was most turned on when she was being Video'd. No matter what hole you started in she loved being Fucked Anally, she always lived up to her nickname - "NYMPH".
YES -Most definitely the woman does and should control, she knows how to have, and give the most fun, a party can only benefit by a controlling woman !!!

[smoothmoves]

I'm a lot more computer savvy than Ms Smoothmoves, so I do most of the profile work, and I do a lot of the initial contacts and responses. She is right there next to me on everything we do, and nothing happens without her OK. She does a lot of the telephone contact with the other lady, then we all talk together before meeting.

Gary