How many couples have you run out of the lifestyle?

[DigginIt]

So most you you have followed some of our posts know that we just hit our 1 year mark back in May and everyone picks up funny stories when you swing right?

So one of ours starts off as "so how many couples have you run out of the lifestyle?"

Yes, it's meant to be in jest and only after you have had a few drinks and everyone is having fun but the surprising responses are actual numbers. Four, one, We have actually had two couples delete their profiles after we slept with them...were we that bad They just closed shop and disappeared

(just in case your wondering our thoughts on why, couple one - we think their family found out and they deleted their profiles and repented, lol. Couple two - no real clue).

So how many people have just up and deleted their accounts after an encounter with you?

[friskyous]

Sounds like they just didn't deal with the after effects well.. or you guys were so good they figured it just wasn't going to get any better and quit while they were ahead.

[Learning]

Humm.. Not slept with but just went out on a date with. It was funny because throughout the night they noted how much fun they were having(they just told us they were having a good time....we dis not silict any response anyways, they just volunteered). We sent a follow up email and they gave us a thanks but no thanks response. Then took their profile down. Ha! We are on a break due to my pregnancy so I sent some follow up emails to people we met. I didn't want them to think we got out because of them.

[TwoAreLooking]

Uh.... none?

M.

[mikeandjenn2001]

Funny answer:

We have never run people out of the lifestyle...they're just recuperating from all of the fun they've had with us .


Serious answer:

We have met some great people through the lifestyle, some who were just curious and decided that it's not for them. This was when we met them for drinks or dinner, never after play. I don't think we've run anybody that we've played with off.

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by DigginIt

. . . So how many people have just up and deleted their accounts after an encounter with you?

This might help you to feel better, maybe not. A couple of years ago, we arranged a restaurant meeting, thought things were going well, received an invitation across the table from "them" to go to the hotel across the road. Went to aforementioned hotel, had wild sex. They left with the words "have to pay the babysitter" on their lips; we stayed overnight.

Next day, their SwingLifeStyle profile has the words, done, done, done, done . . " all over it. Never got an explanation, never asked. We looked at each other and said, "we killed them." We have subsequently seen them both at a recurrent, open-invitation party. They are manifestly still alive. They reply politely when we greet them. Don't know what we did or what they saw that put them off and we ain't askin'.

[PB&J]

It happened to us once. It was a relatively newbie couple, we met them for drinks, clicked, met them a couple of weeks later at a club and played. we are not sure how soon after that they disappeared, but within a month their ad, email address, and themselves were gone, gone, gone.

[two4youinswva]

Guilty at least twice. Both times everything seemed to go well. No drama, fun all around, or so it seemed, with promises to make it happen again. Even got the S.L.S. "certification swap" the next day.

Then, nothing. Profiles abandoned, no appearances at the local club. Just gone.
We haven't really worried about it, other than to joke about being the kiss of death for some people.

It would be interesting to know what happened to them, but........

Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple

Don't know what we did or what they saw that put them off and we ain't askin'.

Yeah, this is the best way to handle it. Just move on, and keep having fun.

[LFM2]

We're not sure.

We were asked to dinner by a couple who wanted to talk over the ins and outs of the LS and we talked, and talked and talked more. We didn't play. We laughed, had dinner and we went our separate ways.

No more profile, no more communication, no nuthin'. They like vanished into thin air.

We don't dwell on it... Maybe they figured they weren't meant for the LS... who knows...

[DigginIt]

We sit around and reflect on the second couple only out of idle curosity. We spoke with them off and on for weeks before actually meeting. It was a casual meeting with no plans. It went well so we made the date. They were the ones that seemed really excited, had a great time, can't wait to see you two again, and then the "gone, gone, gone." We think they ended up in a fight over it which is a shame but will never know.

Learning - Same with this couple. They just talked all night about how great things were, etc... until the hotel.

SW_PA_Couple - Ouch, lol. The "done. done. done. done" definitely sound like they had some serious exchanging of words afterwards. A guess would be someone did something they were not supposed to do (sure it was one of them). I would have to believe that they feel embarrassed by how it went down. Look how many people post here about not stopping or waiting until it's all over before exploding at their SO.

Both of the couples we spoke about were pretty new to the lifestyle. That brings to mind another question. I wonder what the statistics would look like for those that think of trying it, attempt to try it and quit, try it and quit, try it a few times and quit and those that make the transition successfully?

[brew82]

Over a nearly two year span four of the couples we were with(more than twice) ended up divorced. Does that count?

[Ed & Bunny]

Brew82, We can beat that, Three couples we met but never slept with broke apart, with the married one of the bunch getting a divorce. One couple we did sleep with separated but has gotten back together and is going through marriage counseling.

Now we know we had nothing to do with the couples breaking up, but it is still sort of creepy.

[DigginIt]

Originally Posted by brew82

Over a nearly two year span four of the couples we were with(more than twice) ended up divorced. Does that count?

Originally Posted by Ed & Bunny

Brew82, We can beat that, Three couples we met but never slept with broke apart, with the married one of the bunch getting a divorce. One couple we did sleep with separated but has gotten back together and is going through marriage counseling.

Now we know we had nothing to do with the couples breaking up, but it is still sort of creepy.

Did you get the feeling from them that they were not that close from the start or did they seem like couples that were really in love?

I know that we have not played with a couple that we felt were in the lifestyle for the wrong reasons but obviously our judgement is far from perfect.

[Ed & Bunny]

Originally Posted by DigginIt

Did you get the feeling from them that they were not that close from the start or did they seem like couples that were really in love?

I know that we have not played with a couple that we felt were in the lifestyle for the wrong reasons but obviously our judgement is far from perfect.

The couple we slept with had a child and seemed very happy, and one of the two unmarried couples was planning a wedding, so they were a surprise. The other two couples we just didnt get to know well enough to really tell.

[dodgechevy]

Wow, glad to know it wasn't just us that have experienced this! What's crazy is that for the most part these couples are super excited during the meet, and the night always ends up with them saying "we HAVE to get together again!". And then bam, we never hear from them again or they never log on.

Funny enough, we were just recently contacted by the female of one of the couples, turns out that they ended up getting divorced for other reasons. But now she was thinking about getting into the lifestyle with a new boyfriend.