Swinging with unofficial couple...

[WhatisTruth]

So my wife and I met a couple through Swing Lifestyle that isn't an actually couple. They are friends with benefits (more benefits than friends) and swing together. We were just wondering if there is anything we should keep our eyes peeled out for, if it's a good idea/bad, that sort of thing. Thanks!

[funcoupledayton]

Are they married to other people? If so that could become a dangerous situation.

[WhatisTruth]

No, they are both single and in school.

[bbarnsworth]

What funcoupledayton said. Non-couples that swing together are found infrequently, but they do exist. If either or both of them are married, it begs the question of why aren't they swinging with their spouse instead of their FWB? If either/both are married, demand in person permission to play with them from the non-playing spouse.

[LikeMinds321]

Swinging with them could work out fine, just take some extra time to find out more about them. And I always use my gut instinct as the final decision maker. Use yours.

Of course, first finding out if either are married or in a committed relationship with another person is priority. If so, I'd stop right there because I think there would be too much potential for problems to arise.

Things I'd ask (without sounding like an interrogator) during e-mail or phone conversation:

Do you live together?
How long have you known each other?
How long have you been swinging together?
Do you each swing alone, as singles, as well?
Have you ever swung with another partner, before you two started swinging together?
Whose idea was it to swing?
What experience have you had with swinging?

Many of those questions are the same I would ask a married couple.

If your gut tells you they sound like people you would enjoy being with, set up a date to meet in person and you'll learn much more face to face. Then decide if you want to swing.

Good luck!

LM

[fun4Ds]

Do they attend the same school as you ?

[WhatisTruth]

Thanks for the great advice so far. One of them is an undergraduate student at my school, while I am a graduate student. The other goes to another school in another city. Funny thing is, we were all psych majors. haha.

[shy_couple]

Our best experience to date was with an unmarried couple. They were both divorced with kids. Pretty much weekend friends. Super hot, sexy and really into eachother.

Only disadvantage, looking back, they may have been a bit more promiscuious than we would normally be comfortable with.

[lovedog4u2]

Originally Posted by WhatisTruth

So my wife and I met a couple through Swing Lifestyle that isn't an actually couple. They are friends with benefits (more benefits than friends) and swing together. We were just wondering if there is anything we should keep our eyes peeled out for, if it's a good idea/bad, that sort of thing. Thanks!

If you bouth like and they like it I dont see any thing wrong with it. do you what could be wrong with it as long as thery are clean diease free and every one agrees.What could be wrong with just as long as every one is in agreement

[mikeandjenn2001]

There are couples out there that have "arrangements" with their spouses. When we first started swinging, we ran into a couple, she was a single female and he was married, but his wife didn't play. He wasn't cheating either, we met with his wife and she verified that he had permission.

We only talked with them a few times and never played with them...as I said, we were just starting out and were a little weirded out by that.

Just get to know them like you would anybody else and it should be fine.

[LFM2]

We have played with two different sets of single couples. Three of them had been married previously and divorced and the fourth had never been married at all. Both couples were a blast to play with.

Like LM said, use your gut to guide you.

[Powerglide]

That's how my partner and I started out! We met through AFF, and started swinging within a few months of meeting. What we shared at the beginning was pretty much just the desire to have a lot of sex. I don't know quite how to characterize our relationship now, but it's definitely something more than just FWB. The friendship has grown into a very great affection and love for each other. At our age, it doesn't make any sense to get married, so we'll just continue to swing as an unmarried couple. I don't know how common or rare that is, but I think it must not be too unusual among more mature swingers.