things left unsaid

[memcme75]

I have 2 questions, please bear with me..
1. How do I introduce this site/forum to my wife without looking like the over zealous horndog? I really want her to check it out, there is alot of usefull info here. So she won't think I'm "sneaking around" looking to set up or play without her. as this is not the case....

2. We have met a couple and really seemed to hit it off, it started with innocent drunk texting about sex and ended with trading pics....(me and the husband were txting but but wives were present on both ends) we've went out a couple of times and there was sexual tention each time but long story short each time something would happen beyond anyones control that abruptly cut the night short ok, to the point, we ended up going out of town with them...drinking, strip club, etc... ended up back at hotel room and one thing led to another but only the wives played while myself and her husband watched, which is completely fine with me... here is the question, although we've done what we have nobody has come out and discussed the limits, we don't fully know their intentions but have made ours clear.... we are for "what ever happens, Happens." meaning we will full swap if they will. my wife and I have found a new love for each other in being completely honest with each other, so thats how we came to the agreement that we would like to swap with this couple. My wife is willing (of course I am), If we read the husband correctly he is, but that leaves his wife (she's apparently good with girl play)..... the night we went out of town she occationally flirted with me but never made any move beyond that... since that night when we see them in a vanilla situation she will give me a pat on the leg or push off the shoulder in passing or while we are talking, but she doesnt seem to be the kind to talk about that part of her life, she seems to just go with it....I don't know if she thinks I avoided her that night and am not interested, I kinda get that vibe but I'm not 100%... how do we approach this? they are really good friends that we would love to continue to hang out with reguardless of whether we swing or not. Just dont want to cross any lines but I'm dying to know..... Advice please....

[firefox13]

Originally Posted by memcme75

I have 2 questions, please bear with me..
1. How do I introduce this site/forum to my wife without looking like the over zealous horndog? I really want her to check it out, there is alot of usefull info here. So she won't think I'm "sneaking around" looking to set up or play without her. as this is not the case....

Advice please....

Based on your story your wife is apparently open to the idea of swinging. Just be upfront with her and ask her if she would be interested in exploring the lifestyle and meeting new people. If she says no way, then that’s that. If you she is not sure then introduce her to this site so she can get more informed.

[VegasLee]

You have stated that your wife played with the other women and up to full swap so I don't see a problem in telling your wife about this web site at all. If she was saying no way to things then you would have to be concerned but that does not appear to be the case.

Your second part is not really that hard. You are all grown adults. Ask what they are up for. If you are concerned about doing it with both of them present do it when you are talking to the husband. Don't hide the fact your interested but you don't have to blurt it out in front of his wife either.

Or you could just go the old route..... Nice shoes, what to? (not really a great idea there)

To many try to make this way to hard. From your post, your wife is on board. Don't over think it.

[TNT]

Originally Posted by memcme75

I have 2 questions, please bear with me..
1. How do I introduce this site/forum to my wife without looking like the over zealous horndog? I really want her to check it out, there is alot of usefull info here. So she won't think I'm "sneaking around" looking to set up or play without her. as this is not the case....

I'm a bit confused as to why it would be so difficult to introduce your wife to this site. If the following statement is true, then there should be no problem.

my wife and I have found a new love for each other in being completely honest with each other,

According to your previous posts here, you and your wife are not exactly new to the idea of swinging. If you can talk about having threesomes and foursomes, what's the big deal about saying..."Honey, check out this site" ? The Swingers Board is not a hook-up site. It's a message board where we come to share information and discuss swinging.



Teresa

[sweet_tna]

Seems to me, if you're already dipping your toes into the swinger waters, showing her this site would be the easiest part. Just tell her the truth--you found a site with loads of helpful advice and friendly folks in the lifestyle. Then show it to her. Simple as pie.

=)

[Cajun2Step]

Originally Posted by sweet_tna

Seems to me, if you're already dipping your toes into the swinger waters, showing her this site would be the easiest part. Just tell her the truth--you found a site with loads of helpful advice and friendly folks in the lifestyle. Then show it to her. Simple as pie.

=)

We agree with the above statement completely. Additionally we feel that your might, maybe should talk with the husband of the other couple away from the girls and find out mano a mano his/hers/their feelings about continuing to play.
He should be able to give you their feelings about taking it to the next level.

[memcme75]

I figured that would come back to "bite" me when I had a "slap my forehead" moment after I posted this.... This acct. was started during the "old days" when I "thought" I could bring her on board every other way but being completey honest. This is the last remnent of those days and I really enjoy reading your posts... so when we become members as a couple this acct. will disappear along with everything else from those times.. I know, its a little shady but it would dreg up things that were long buried.... Didnt mean to mis-lead you all.... I should've listened to to the wiser more experianced ppl on here in the first place.... instead of going the " I'll just put her in a situation and see how she reacts" route... My bad, lesson learned... Hey guys, women are more understanding than they get credit for even tho we are scared to death to take that step sometimes to find out.....

[interested-05]

sounds like the other wife is sending positive signals, take the challenge and flirt back

[Lawrence]

I’ll address the first question.

“Hey honey, I just found a board that everyone is discussing what we have been talking about, and the great thing is everyone seems to be validating what we have figured out on our own.”

“Really ? Holy cow, I cant wait to see it, is it really good, or is it like those CL ads?”

“No, its great, very pro marriage, pro relationship, and anti dishonesty”.

“Wow, lets go look”


That’s how it went down.

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by memcme75

This is the last remnent of those days and I really enjoy reading your posts... so when we become members as a couple this acct. will disappear along with everything else from those times..

There is nothing wrong with our lives changing into something better. It's for the good....
We'll be waiting on the other side for you both to join us now

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by Lawrence

“Hey honey, I just found a board that everyone is discussing what we have been talking about, and the great thing is everyone seems to be validating what we have figured out on our own.”

“Really ? Holy cow, I cant wait to see it, is it really good, or is it like those CL ads?”

“No, its great, very pro marriage, pro relationship, and anti dishonesty”

Just wanted to add on that my wife and I found this to be an amazing resource when we were getting into swinging, and still do. If it wasn't for this board, I'm not sure we would have gotten into swinging.

Another thing I wanted to add on in the plus column of this board; I was and remain amazed at the ratio of women to men on this forum. There's still a larger population of men than women, but this board is far more balanced in that ratio than any other forum I've ever been on, and I've been on the net since before it was called "Internet" (still remember bitnet, arpanet, etc).

[lotsoffun201]

I agree with the above posters....Since she is already receptive to the idea, just tell her you were surfing the web and came across the site which is probably not all that far from the truth