Unicorn's Persepctive

[Coupleerotic22]

Hello all.

Post seem to have slowed down the last week or so, so I have been going back in the old post and reading. Something JustAskJulie said in her interview peeked my curiosity.

"I wouldn't really consider myself as active when I was single. I tried it initially after my divorce and found I just really didn't care for the way Unicorns get treated for the most part. It's easy as a single female to get sex and I found it much simpler to get it outside of the lifestyle than in."

I know Unicorn's are the object of many peoples desire, but I have never thought about it from their perspective.

Julie, can you expound on what you meant about not caring for the way unicorn's get treated?

And please any others that care to add their thoughts, I think it would be an interesting read.

[bbarnsworth]

That perspective is one of the many reasons why unicorns are so rare. Just about any woman that wants to have no strings attached sex can do so. It doesn't take being in the lifestyle to make that a reality. I'd be very surprised if the ratio of unicorns to married women in the lifestyle was any higher than 1:100.

[lustylearning]

I think the other thing that may weigh in is that if you're a single in the lifestyle, your long-term goal may be to find a partner, so swinging serves, at best, as interim entertainment. As others have already pointed out, that entertainment is easily found without the lifestyle. "Long-term" unicorns are probably few and far between. I've seen that dynamic in play with swingers who separate from their spouses. Priorities...

[Playful1]

i am not in it looking for a long term partner, but i can say, i have experienced, and seen, a lot of couples treat a single female like a living sex toy.

that can get tiring.

[Coupleerotic22]

Originally Posted by Playful1

i am not in it looking for a long term partner, but i can say, i have experienced, and seen, a lot of couples treat a single female like a living sex toy.

that can get tiring.

I wonder how much of that falls under one of the following categories.
1. Single females, as a general rule, just don't get treated as well as they should.
2. Couples that don't treat anybody as well as they should are more active and aggressive in seeking out single females.
3. Something else, not sure what however.

I know at socials we have been too, it seems to be the same 6-7 couples constantly around the small group of single ladies every time.

[sexcupid]

The general vibe that we have gotten from reading the posts here on the board from couples (and some SF comments here) is that they treat the SFs like they walk on water (or they expect to be treated that way). Yes, I know they can be far a few between depending on the places you go. I mean...many couples want a FMF.

But with the unicorns aren't expected to pay for anything, we've got dinner, drinks, dancing, the hotel (whatever expense)...I would think that few couples give a damn about what the SF wants out of the experience...they want a hopefully hot, single bi-fem to have their way with and make their fantasies come true. I think Playful1 put it vividly...I'm sure that SFs get treated like life-sized sex toys.

Interesting...because a few of the house parties we've been to...the SFs have behaved quite badly...and I was rude enough to tell her to back the fuck off after numerous advances on my SO after being told we weren't playing that night (note to party hosts: if you are going to "sell" someone to get someone else to attend...let that first someone know they are the bait..just sayin'). And we have met quite a few nice ladies that would never think of stepping over the line once its been revealed.

Will be interested when Julie weighs in.

[Coupleerotic22]

I have had experiences both ways. Although frankly I have not actually met too many single females. For whatever reason, I am just not interested in squeezing through the throngs to introduce myself. I prefer more sedate and conversational environments, and the areas of he room where single females generally congregate (and why do they seem to group together), seems to me more like a singles bar meat market.

On one occasion, as I was in conversation with someone I felt something on my back. I turned to see a beautiful lady using my back as desk to write something on a piece of paper. I introduced myself and got a cold stare, before she went back to using my back as a desk. That irritated me, so, I stood up, said pardon me, perhaps the music is so loud you did not hear me and introduced myself again. She whirled around, without a word, and stormed off to find another human desk.

On another occasion, I was getting ice for myself and a companion, when lovely lady (I did not know she was SF at the time) came up behind me looking for ice. I gave her one of my cups, she thanked me and was gracious. We chatted while I poured the drinks and mixers before I headed back off to my companion. Later she came past my table and ran her hand across my shoulder and gave me a quick kiss on the cheek as she passed. My companion gleefully informed me that I had just been kissed by a unicorn. I laughed and asked if I should expect good fortune.

So, as it is with most groups, I think you find both good and bad amongst them.

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by Coupleerotic22

I have had experiences both ways. Although frankly I have not actually met too many single females. For whatever reason, I am just not interested in squeezing through the throngs to introduce myself. I prefer more sedate and conversational environments, and the areas of he room where single females generally congregate (and why do they seem to group together), seems to me more like a singles bar meat market.

Safety.....

On one occasion, as I was in conversation with someone I felt something on my back. I turned to see a beautiful lady using my back as desk to write something on a piece of paper. I introduced myself and got a cold stare, before she went back to using my back as a desk. That irritated me, so, I stood up, said pardon me, perhaps the music is so loud you did not hear me and introduced myself again. She whirled around, without a word, and stormed off to find another human desk.

Sanity....

On another occasion, I was getting ice for myself and a companion, when lovely lady (I did not know she was SF at the time) came up behind me looking for ice. I gave her one of my cups, she thanked me and was gracious. We chatted while I poured the drinks and mixers before I headed back off to my companion. Later she came past my table and ran her hand across my shoulder and gave me a quick kiss on the cheek as she passed. My companion gleefully informed me that I had just been kissed by a unicorn. I laughed and asked if I should expect good fortune.

Potential... SEX !

Prolly shouldn't have let that one go, without introducing yourself and companion, More.....

So, as it is with most groups, I think you find both good and bad amongst them

I totally agree.... In a fuck or flee, kind of way Either can happen....


fun4ds

[Coupleerotic22]

LOL, that was good. Sometimes brevity speaks volumes.

The only part I did not get was Sanity. Did you mean she lacked it, or she was trying to preserve hers by moving on?

As for missing the opportunity, yes, that occurred to me later. But no regrets, I was enjoying the company of this lady (part of a couple with whom my wife was also interested.) I would have felt odd asking my companion, who I was in the process of getting to know, if she wanted the two of us to approach a SF.

After getting to know her better, though, I think she would have been game. She likes orgies!

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by Coupleerotic22

The only part I did not get was Sanity. Did you mean she lacked it, or she was trying to preserve hers by moving on?

I meant the potential to drive "me" freakin Nuts, just trying to figure out any reasons why, she might be Nuts.... Not worth it

As for missing the opportunity, yes, that occurred to me later. But no regrets, I was enjoying the company of this lady (part of a couple with whom my wife was also interested.) I would have felt odd asking my companion, who I was in the process of getting to know, if she wanted the two of us to approach a SF.

After getting to know her better, though, I think she would have been game. She likes orgies!

Nothing wrong in trying to create a pile up in private. I do that sometimes (to a fault I suppose) but what can I say except, do ya'all want to join us

[Coupleerotic22]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

I meant the potential to drive "me" freakin Nuts, just trying to figure out any reasons why, she might be Nuts.... Not worth it

True!

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

Nothing wrong in trying to create a pile up in private. I do that sometimes (to a fault I suppose) but what can I say except, do ya'all want to join us

Maybe we will look you up the next time we are headed to Chicago or Indy. If nothing else it is great to make new friends.

[bbarnsworth]

Imagine, if you will the wife half of a couple posting about this scenario, if you had gone after the unicorn.

Originally Posted by Coupleerotic22

As for missing the opportunity, yes, that occurred to me later. But no regrets, I was enjoying the company of this lady (part of a couple with whom my wife was also interested.) I would have felt odd asking my companion, who I was in the process of getting to know, if she wanted the two of us to approach a SF.

"So we're having a great discussion, and I'm really attracted to this guy. Great news too, as my husband is really into his wife. This is really looking up! I'm just at the point of suggesting we go to a play room, and a woman I know to be a unicorn walks by, kisses the guy I'm talking to, and walks off. I don't really think anything of it, so I tell him 'did you know you just met a unicorn?'

Now here's the really bad part. He says 'REALLY? HOLY HORNY HORSES Batman!', grabs his wife, and walks off. Unreal! What a jerk! God I hate unicorns"

[Coupleerotic22]

Precisely!!

Now imagine if you will, my companion ask me if she and I can approach the SF together. I look over at my wife and ask her and my companions husband what they think. Knowing them both, "go for it" is what I am sure I would have heard. So my companion and I hit it off with SF, tell her about our spouses, she meets and likes them as well and says "let’s do it!" And they five of us retire to private quarters for a mini orgy.

Now that is what I think fantasies are made of. Somehow they never seem to work out that good. Close sometimes, never quite what your mind can come up with. LOL