I'm pregnant so when should we call it quits???

[Learning]

Yup, all this sex with hubby got me pregnant so what's a nice goal to kind of exit the play area? I'm not a skinny chick so no cute pregnant belly for me so any ideas? Comments? Rulebof thumb advice because we are soft.

When the nesting instinct gets so bad that you are too worn out from shopping at Home Depot and Babies 'R Us to make it to the club/party.

Enjoy riding the "I'm PG and horny all the time" wave!

[realcplub2]

Its a personal choice, over the years we have seen couples where once they learn they are, they call a halt to everything, others were going at it til months 6 or 7 and then stopped.

[Cajun2Step]

Originally Posted by Learning

Yup, all this sex with hubby got me pregnant so what's a nice goal to kind of exit the play area? I'm not a skinny chick so no cute pregnant belly for me so any ideas? Comments? Rulebof thumb advice because we are soft.

Why quit? We went at it right up to the end.
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Life is too short to sweat the small stuff or dance with ugly women.

[Coupleerotic22]

I am no OB/GYN, so I don't know if there is a threshold for danger to your baby at any point. But if not, then like others have said, go until it is not longer fun (if that occurs.)

I do know at one point the the link at the top of the page, "Featured Swingers", linked to a site where the women, who documents her swinging activity, was pregnant and swinging away.

I am sure there are people who, as a preference (like preferences for anal or bi play) , would not want to play with a pregnant women, but clearly that is not always the case.

Have fun!!

[Chicup]

HSV2 + baby = bad.

You should quit now.

I'm willing to take STD risks with myself, but NOT my children, especially one so common which is annoying in adults and can be devastating to newborns.

[starryeyes]

Congrats on expecting!!

I concur with Chicup!! We weren't into the lifestyle when ours were born... it wasn't until years later we discovered ourselves. The choice is entirely up to you but please weigh the risks.

[Learning]

Awesome advice! I agree that it's not worth the risk. We have had a great run during the last year. Though you have no idea about STDs because anyone can have them and you can still get them via soft swap. We hit a nudist swinger camp ground last weekend and it definetly was a turn off. Wanted to socialize with like minds but the idea of anything sexual was a complete turn off. You all are wonderful resources

[ClosetSwinger]

Personally I think you should stop as soon as you know you are pregnant. It's one thing to put yourself at risk for an STD (which as swingers we are doing that condoms or not), but getting something while you are pregnant is obviously NOT ideal for you or baby.

[sexyannie]

I think Chicup did a great job of highlighting one of the major risks.

I would only add that every situation is different, and the more exclusive or controlled your swinging group is the less that risk is there (although it never goes away completely). In the past we have not taken a break for pregnancy, and like you, I am also expecting now and there is not currently a plan to take a break anytime soon. Or little group though is pretty controlled.

Congrats! And just do what you feel is right after considering all the risks and benefits.

annie

[Learning]

Annie, Congrats on your pregnancy too! We have a very controlled group but the only thing is that they have friends too so after initially thinking it's quite controlled, it's not. I chatted with hubby about it and we are throwing in the towel. Had a good run. We'll hit two more parties to socialize and we will exit the building accordingly.

[Coupleerotic22]

Originally Posted by Chicup

HSV2 + baby = bad.

You should quit now.

I'm willing to take STD risks with myself, but NOT my children, especially one so common which is annoying in adults and can be devastating to newborns.

Excellent advice. I can't believe I did not think about that in my earlier post. I guess my mind just shifted to the act of sex and how it might affect the fetus. The thought of STD never entered my mind. On second thought, quit now.

Congratulations!

[Alura]

Learning wrote: ...we are soft.

I think she meant they were soft swingers. Depending on what she means by that, there may be little, if any, risk of STDs.

Alura

[funcoupledayton]

You can get chlamydia, gonorrhea and type 1 genital herpes from oral sex.

[Learning]

I was happy that we called it quits when we did there were initial complications and the drive wasn't there anyways. Baby learning is here and he's wonderful yes Alura you are right that we were soft swingers and to tell you the truth, I'm relieved by that now. I had been off birth control for many years, didn't think I would get pregnant, etc. We never put ourselves at too much risk but still it's enough.