Recently split up or divorcing

[fun4Ds]

No not us, but we seem to have met many who are/have over the years....

What does that mean to most of you when you hear this, and what defines the possibilities of play ?

As an example that we have experienced with single males and females, we usually ask about their previous relationships as in "have you ever been married"

That might seem personal to some and think, well its none of our business... But how they feel or felt about past relationships is important to us. We have heard it all, from "She's a krazy bitch. I had to call the cops to get her out" or "he's an alcoholic and fooled around on me " (while ordering a double shooter, knowing the guy rarely drinks). Then we have heard some who say things like "we just realized we fell out of love one day" explaining they are great people, anyone would like them.

The singles we have played with seem to not degrade their past relationships and we think that shows allot of good character on their behalf

What are your thoughts on this ? We feel its a good discussion that we don't seem to hear much about....


fun4ds

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

As an example that we have experienced with single males and females, we usually ask about their previous relationships as in "have you ever been married"

That might seem personal to some and think, well its none of our business... But how they feel or felt about past relationships is important to us.

I think that's a great way to find out about a potential play partner. Those that are gracious and don't speak ill of past relationships do appear more attractive than those that are quick to share "crazy ex" stories.

Thanks for sharing that insight.

[Coupleerotic22]

I have zero problem with it. IF you are considering sharing your spouse with someone or having sex with them, I think you would want to know as much about their outlook on life as possible.

[jodi]

i think that's a good question. well, mb bcuz i have 2 ex's to attest to, lol. i think it shows immaturity to speak negatively to people you've just met about ones ex.

[sweet_tna]

Hmm, those are good questions, Fun4Ds. We don't play with singles very often at all, so it never occurred to us to ask those questions. That said, of the singles with whom we're friendly, we've learned their stories incidentally.

=)

[Newpants]

That is a good question and hopefully this will be a good discussion.

My immediate thoughts are that you would want to know what some of their relationship histories and attitudes are if you are wanting to get into some kind of relatioship with them. I'm not sure how pertinent that info is if all you are interested in is a one-time or very short term sexual encounter.

If all you are really wanting out of the deal is someone for an encounter, does it really matter what their prior relationship status is as long as they don't go postal or psycho on you that night?

If all you are looking for is another cock for a gang bang or a unicorn for an FMF and that person is nice and respectfull of your feelings and boundries and rules for a night, does it really matter if their ex is a psycho?

In many ways this applies to couples as well. How much do you really need to "get to know" someone before playing with them?