Enjoying watching your spouse with others

[swing.kidz]

your question is based on the "genetics" of enjoying watching our spouses with other partners.

Considering human (and other hominid and ape) genetics have been evolving for thousands of years, this subject would take a lot of data and conjecture to sufficiently answer....so with that, I say, check out this book:

Sex at Dawn

Its a great take on the evolution of primate sexuality into modern human sexuality, challenging the blind acceptance of monogamy in today's society...and its written in a manner that can reach a variety of audiences. It compiles stated anthropological data and hits on years of observational and empirical research...(oh yeah, I didnt write it, nor do I know the authors...I had to purchase it too, so don't think this is a shameless plug!)

Also, their cited research is a great place to find more info!

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by swing.kidz

your question is based on the "genetics" of enjoying watching our spouses with other partners.

Considering human (and other hominid and ape) genetics have been evolving for thousands of years, this subject would take a lot of data and conjecture to sufficiently answer....so with that, I say, check out this book:

Sex at Dawn

Its a great take on the evolution of primate sexuality into modern human sexuality, challenging the blind acceptance of monogamy in today's society...and its written in a manner that can reach a variety of audiences. It compiles stated anthropological data and hits on years of observational and empirical research...(oh yeah, I didnt write it, nor do I know the authors...I had to purchase it too, so don't think this is a shameless plug!)

Also, their cited research is a great place to find more info!

There's a thread about this book in Swingers in the News.
Authors speak up for promiscuity in new book (Q&A)

[CandLinPC]

Ummmmm... 'Cause it's hot?

[chrisunion]

Originally Posted by Pleasure King

It's just a very primal urge in me to see and hear her in the throes of hot and steamy sex with another man. Hearing her scream, "Oh god please cum inside me!" touches something very deep within me. It's as if I'm inside her at the same time.

The cuckold thing to me falls under the category of some things are meant to be only fantasies.

I ageed when I watch another guy fucking my wife, and seeing her get sexual pleasure, and giving sexual pleasure, and watching how horny and wild she gets from the experience, it just a very erotic and sexy experience.

[Cajun2Step]

Originally Posted by chrisunion

I agree when I watch another guy fucking my wife, and seeing her get sexual pleasure, and giving sexual pleasure, and watching how horny and wild she gets from the experience, it just a very erotic and sexy experience.

Watching Lady C2S give and receive pleasure is very erotic. So....that means at least two of us chrisunion and these crazy Cajuns really enjoy it.

[Lawrence]

This is one that has a lot of areas. A couple of points though, I think of my mate as my best friend, my partner, and a super intelligent, hard worker. To see her doing her thing (working) is amazing. I also see her as a sexual being. To see her doing her thing (sexually) hits kind of the same nerve, but harder.

It is a great rush to go thought the insecurities, the jealously, and the intense emotional feelings while watching your partner get off with someone else. Then when you release all of that in a gigantic moment of passion, then awesome conversation, the most trusting, loving, bonded feeling sets in.

A funny note… being so satisfied with watching both my partner and the guy she was with come while I was touching them both, I felt like I came. There was no ejaculation, but when they sat back to have a cigarette, my rock hard erection went down, and I went into that “post sex cigarette” phase along with them, instead of feeling like I was ready for “my turn” with her. We laughed about it, and never figured that one out.

[Miss Sunshine]

It is definitely a turn on for me. He is so good at sex, to sit back and masturbate while he does another woman is wonderful. In fact, I have sat and masturbated while he had sex with another couple and it was fantastic! He has the same feelings about me with another woman or another man or couple.

[Suncouple]

Here is an interesting comment on the subject:

Instrumental jealousy

[Sgts19]

I'll admit this is my biggest fetish. Somehow watching or seeing her with another man is a huge turn on for me. We went through a stage of setting up a video camera to record her and the other man. When reveiwing the tape her reactions showed a completly differant side of her that I never see. Her movements, the way her body reacts from things he's doing to her, the sounds and the things she says are all differant. Maybe it's just me and I see it from a differant angle but it sure is a turn on. I'll also mention how much fun it is listening to her in another room, that's why we use seperate rooms, sometimes my attention focus more on her than the woman I'm with, which certainly is not fair for her. Just my two cents.